School Father’s Day sale

I always feel for the dc that have lost or just don’t see a parent on these occasions. Yes they could possibly choose a gift for a gp but it’s not the same.

I’m very sorry for your loss.

Bless youngest

I try and keep £5/10 in a drawer incase need cash. Like yesterday biscuits were £2.50

I rarely have cash

If they took Apple Pay would be easier 😂

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Why ?

Our school sells biscuits saying dad

its terrible they even have this, I know a few kids that don’t have dads, and a few that don’t have mums, I wish they scrap this kind of thing. Op is it a cheap one? Could you scrape together enough so they have anything? Sorry you even have to figure this stuff out x

edited to add- sorry just saw your post, hopefully she finds something, our school was great this year at lowering prices

Glad my kids' primary school wasn't this tactless. Dh died a month before fathers' day when youngest was at primary school.

Imagine the outcry if that fudge was then found in a lunchbox. 😂

I might be getting the wrong end of the stick but ... I think you might be a bit Yabu

Yes his general attitude stinks but why would he contribute for his own Father's Day present?

Does it matter to your children?
If the answer is yes then give them the least amount possible to buy something small.

And I say this being new to Co parenting, mother's day was not acknowledged by my ex, but my 5 year old was upset to not have got me anything. So I asked for ten kisses and ten hugs and was very pleased to have them.

So for father's day the youngest made a card at nursery and the eldest has bought one.

I do it for the children, and they'll realise that when they are older.

He didn't give them money because he's not bothered.

So stop making a big deal and trying to use it as a stick to beat him with

They will not be the only kids not going

And fwiw, they aren't "tactless" or whatever else the naysayers are saying - no child is forced to participate, there are options for other family members other than Dad and its a nice way for children to be able to pick their own gifts and be involved (and gift giving is super important on MN and must be taught from day 1!)

YABU, but not for the meanings you gave. Your options of "you giving them some money for it" or "he should have given them money for it" are both nonsense.

It just doesn't matter, so stop trying to make a big deal of it. He isn't bothered about fathers day.

He isn't interested.
You don't have to spend money.
The kids don't need to be trained to buy crap that isn't wanted.

I remember the covid times when the PTA said they couldn't do any fundraising activities, could we just send them money anyway. Perfect, job done.

Just say to the kids, we’ve got dad’s gift so we’re don’t need to get more.

Our school also does this but not all the children buy something. Some families will buy for an alternative male like a grandad, some families don't participate at all. If you don't want to participate then don’t, especially if your ex wouldn't reciprocate

Our school does this as well. But they ask the parents to contribute something to the sale and then the kids go in and buy stuff. It's absolutely amazing what utter shite people think is appropriate to contribute.

And it's an independent school!

The money goes to a school in Africa that our school supports so that's something at least.

I'd ask the kids what they want. I wouldn't leave them stood there in school being the only kids without. But as long as they were fine with that then I'd leave them without.

@Seashor I don’t believe for one minute that the school does this saleI’m not in the UK and even our schools do this. Both public and private from my experience. It’s a fundraiser opportunity. The P&C buys cheap gifts (many organisations facilitate this and bombard schools with their brochures throughout the year) and sells them for a mark up on the basis it ‘saves’ the hassle of having to organise gifts with your kids AND makes money to support student learning/experience at school. No way would they pass up such a fundraising opportunity! I’ve still got ‘I love mum’ mugs in use in my house from primary school days even though long gone for us, but it’s still a thing as I hear my younger colleagues at work complaining as they need to obtain cash for the Mother’s Day/Father’s Day stall and does anyone have any and they can ping an electronic transfer in return. Tiresome in the pretty much cashless society we now live in.

Why? My school is doing one they are selling fudge to raise funds for mental health resources in school

our school does this as well as a Mother’s Day one

I think if he isnt bothered about getting gifts then just leave it. He might have the same reasons as you not to have given them any money (skint and no cash in the house) just explain to the kids that yoy haven't got any cash on you and they can make him something over the weekend if they want.

I do think if mothers and fathers day are done things on your houses, the opposite parent should fund the gifts. But it sounds like he doesnt want to celebrate or get a gift so dont stress yourself about it.

And my kids primary used to do sales for one thing or another regularly. We rarely got anything as I hardly ever have cash and used to forget. My kids weren't the only ones not taking part and weren't particularly bothered

Our primary school does this. It was sad for the kids who weren’t given cash. The kids were going in, choosing presents and then not having the money. So now we prepay and those who don’t pay, won’t go to the shop. It’d have chocolate or notepad/ pen type things to buy for grandad or mum instead of dad.

Why is it so hard to believe?
Lots of schools do them

Our primary did as a fund raiser for both mother and fathers’ day.

OP, I know they would like to take part but is he ultimately going to disappoint them with his reaction?