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Would you let your child do this or am I over the top?

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KrustyBurger · 13/06/2024 05:55

Currently on holiday in the USA. We are staying at a Marriott so not a motel type set up.

Husband asked our daughter who is 12 to run some rubbish down to the bin next to the lift, she would have to go past about 12 room doors (6 each side).

I said no, il do it as you never know who’s in the rooms and it only takes 5 seconds for someone to open the door and yank her in and you wouldn’t even know which room it is or where she is.

Husband said ok but gave me a strange glance.

Was I being over the top? Or would other parents do the same. It’s nearly 10pm at night here.

Husband's a bit of a clean freak and our bin is full hence not just leaving it.

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MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 13/06/2024 19:22

@Sunmoonstars9

It was a general you rather than a specific you 😳

bluewaxcrayon · 13/06/2024 19:18

Goldenbear · 13/06/2024 18:36

I have a 17 year old DS he is absolutely fine and typical for his age as is my 12 year old, he certainly knows how to debate a point without name calling. If you have children I hope you teach them how to put their argument across without the need to belittle others as it doesn’t look or sound very bright.

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"anxious" and "scared of everything" is not name calling. It's just a factual description based on your posts.

TonTonMacoute · 13/06/2024 19:13

JaneAustensHeroine · 13/06/2024 17:40

Completely over the top response OP!

It’s a hotel corridor.

This.

Shes nipping along a hundred metre corridor and coming straight back! If you were letting her wander around a huge hotel all evening on her own then maybe not, but honestly, this is insanely overprotective.

AegonT · 13/06/2024 19:09

Last time we were abroad I let my eight year old walk round the hotel alone (not near the pool) and that wasn't in an English speaking country. I do worry about her but she's growing up and she loves the independence of being able to return to the room or get something from the restaurant or go the playroom to see if her friends were there. The chances of anyone with nefarious intent towards children staying in our hotel seemed very remote.

Goldenbear · 13/06/2024 19:07

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 19:03

@Goldenbear I don't have as much time on my hands as you! If you AS yourself, you'll see.

Anyway, must go, not got hours of time to whittle away on MN!

No neither do I - goodbye

Blueblell · 13/06/2024 19:07

Well I think this is a situation you have to follow your instinct. I absolutely think you are being over the top but then if in the minuscule chance something did happen and you had had this idea. Better just to do it yourself ……

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 19:07

@Goldenbear I'm actually loving that comment "you're a grandparent" so old then....

You've really showed your true colours!

Grandparents = old

GrinGrinGrinGrinGrin

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 19:05

@Goldenbear I now say you are neurotic and ageist!

You sound a dream!

Dibbydoos · 13/06/2024 19:05

Id have done what you did only cos it's not a good job for a child imo. It would have been an appropriate job for your DH though why didnt he take it?

Goldenbear · 13/06/2024 19:04

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 19:02

@Goldenbear I know a lot about teenagers, I was one and I've had two myself and a DGS (age 5!).

I'm not disclosing anything more about me or my family make up, because you're coming across very stalker like.

Can't be too careful, you know.

You’ve literally advanced search me and declared it all over this thread- if that isn’t the definition of Stalker I don’t know what is.

so you are old then if grandparent so back in the good old days kind of outlook. Ok then.

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 19:03

@Goldenbear I don't have as much time on my hands as you! If you AS yourself, you'll see.

Anyway, must go, not got hours of time to whittle away on MN!

Sunmoonstars9 · 13/06/2024 19:03

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 13/06/2024 19:01

@Sunmoonstars9

Tbh I would imagine that if you've experienced molestation then counselling and help would help beneficial.

Read my post, I said I've NO experience of this

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Goldenbear · 13/06/2024 19:02

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 18:57

@Goldenbear "sigh" I didn't call you a name!

Go back to arguing with someone else.

Having AS you, you have a lot of "worries" you bring to MN, so we're never going to agree.

Creepy but also do I, please fill me in on recent worries. Worrying about your children is completely natural. You must be pretty self assured and a bit shallow if you don’t question your own abilities ever.

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 19:02

@Goldenbear I know a lot about teenagers, I was one and I've had two myself and a DGS (age 5!).

I'm not disclosing anything more about me or my family make up, because you're coming across very stalker like.

Can't be too careful, you know.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 13/06/2024 19:01

@Sunmoonstars9

Tbh I would imagine that if you've experienced molestation then counselling and help would help beneficial.

candyisdandybutliquorisquicker · 13/06/2024 19:01

I live in that foreign country and my kids have taken the trash out many times - you are being completely ridiculous. She's no more at risk in a US Marriott than a Manchester Hilton. You sound a bit insane to be honest! 😄

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 19:00

@Goldenbear I have children, adult ones, no anxieties, don't go on public boards asking people to sort out their worries, ok now?

Goldenbear · 13/06/2024 18:59

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 18:58

@Goldenbear if I have children?

Not your business and totally irrelevant, HTH!

I bet they are young as you don’t sound like you have a clue about teenagers.

Goldenbear · 13/06/2024 18:59

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 18:51

@Goldenbear is calling you neurotic, calling you a name GrinGrinGrin!

I don't think so, it's stating my feelings of your behaviour! Which I stand by.

You are being neurotic.

Do you have children as for me that would put a different spin on your observations?

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 18:58

@Goldenbear if I have children?

Not your business and totally irrelevant, HTH!

Sunmoonstars9 · 13/06/2024 18:58

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 13/06/2024 18:28

Honestly some of you need psychiatric help.

I can't imagine living with the level of fear and paranoia experienced by some of you.

Try telling parents who have experience of child molesters they need psychiatric help owing to being extremely protective of their children. I've no experience of this but I respect the fact they wouldn't let their young children run free on holidays & neither would I.

JLou08 · 13/06/2024 18:58

I would be more wary in a foreign country, you don't know the crime rates in the area, local news of any risks and you don't really know how the police action missing people. The other difference is in your local area your child would know where to run for help, they are also known and you can get word out to other local people quickly if she was missing who could have seen something suspicious. The kind of people that would abduct someone will also be well aware of this and I think more likely to go for someone foreign (no source for this before anyone asks, just am assumption I think is reasonable!)
I'm surprised at the people who don't see it as being any different from being at home.

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 18:57

@Goldenbear "sigh" I didn't call you a name!

Go back to arguing with someone else.

Having AS you, you have a lot of "worries" you bring to MN, so we're never going to agree.

Goldenbear · 13/06/2024 18:55

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 18:51

@Goldenbear is calling you neurotic, calling you a name GrinGrinGrin!

I don't think so, it's stating my feelings of your behaviour! Which I stand by.

You are being neurotic.

I disagree with you and it isn’t really an argument, it is just an emotive put down to make you feel better about yourself- if that’s how you roll then yes, be careful passing on that attitude to any children if you have them?

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