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Would you let your child do this or am I over the top?

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KrustyBurger · 13/06/2024 05:55

Currently on holiday in the USA. We are staying at a Marriott so not a motel type set up.

Husband asked our daughter who is 12 to run some rubbish down to the bin next to the lift, she would have to go past about 12 room doors (6 each side).

I said no, il do it as you never know who’s in the rooms and it only takes 5 seconds for someone to open the door and yank her in and you wouldn’t even know which room it is or where she is.

Husband said ok but gave me a strange glance.

Was I being over the top? Or would other parents do the same. It’s nearly 10pm at night here.

Husband's a bit of a clean freak and our bin is full hence not just leaving it.

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saraclara · 13/06/2024 21:43

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 13/06/2024 20:17

His fucking lazy arse should go. Honestly, he has these standards to maintain, but gets someone else to do it. 🤨 Lazy, hypocritical fucker.

He was sorting out the younger child (presumably doing bedtime). Not lazing on the bed, clicking his fingers to make the 12 year old do his bidding.

Itoosurvive · 13/06/2024 21:40

Whilst I would certainly be happy to allow my daughter to walk the hotel corridor, I would certainly be most unhappy were she to do so without her meteorite helmet. This I insist she wears almost permanently.
Did you know that the fatality rate from meteorite (chondritic or metallic) strike is almost 100% ?

Yes, she would be allowed to carry the trash, but only on the condition that she wore her helmet.

KatharinaRosalie · 13/06/2024 21:34

Winter2020 · 13/06/2024 21:10

You are going to regret keeping your child safe a lot less than you would ever regret not keeping them safe.

I see it my job as a parent to raise confident children, with common sense and problem solving skills. For this, you must give them age appropriate independence. Which sometimes means they are in theory less safe than they would be with me holding their hand. I would regret raising an anxious child who cries when they need to go to toilet alone when they're a teenager.

brunettemic · 13/06/2024 21:16

Loubelle70 · 13/06/2024 17:19

Thats unreasonable. I wouldn't let my daughter do it when younger, she has grown up absolutely fine, travelled well alone and in groups but has good sensible head on her shoulders.

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The DD is question 12 not 6. My DS is 12 and walks to a bus stop, gets the bus, walks to his friends house every day, wait for it, by himself 😱my niece does similar but travels further. The child in question isn’t a little dot, the refusal to do this is so over the top.

Winter2020 · 13/06/2024 21:10

You are going to regret keeping your child safe a lot less than you would ever regret not keeping them safe.

JMSA · 13/06/2024 20:40

It wouldn't occur to me not to let her go. Are you anxious generally?

6pence · 13/06/2024 20:38

Of course she should go. I thought you were posting to say 12 floors - not 12 doors 😂

Jennyathemall · 13/06/2024 20:31

bluewaxcrayon · 13/06/2024 20:29

when the lift is round the corner from your hotel room, do you hold your kids hand all the way? Are they not even allowed to walk ahead and reach the lift while you close your door - because they can't cope to pass 6 doors?

Exactly.
“But but it’s a foreign country!”

redbluegreenyellowbrown · 13/06/2024 20:31

YABVU

It wouldnt cross my mind NOT to let my children walk to the end of a hotel corridor....

We've been staying in Youth hostels, which dont always have en-suites since my children were about 8, and they go to the toilet by themselves, and since about age 10 they also will go to the showers and have a shower by themself.

When on holiday they go around the hotel grounds / water park / grab an ice cream / by themselves too and i don't give it a second thought.

bluewaxcrayon · 13/06/2024 20:29

when the lift is round the corner from your hotel room, do you hold your kids hand all the way? Are they not even allowed to walk ahead and reach the lift while you close your door - because they can't cope to pass 6 doors?

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 20:29

Allthehorsesintheworld · 13/06/2024 20:26

He’s the clean freak he should empty it.
And no I’d not let a child walk around a hotel alone. Stories on here every month of man appeared in my hotel room, man let himself into my hotel room.

Read OPs posts to enlighten yourself.

Allthehorsesintheworld · 13/06/2024 20:26

He’s the clean freak he should empty it.
And no I’d not let a child walk around a hotel alone. Stories on here every month of man appeared in my hotel room, man let himself into my hotel room.

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 20:22

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 13/06/2024 20:17

His fucking lazy arse should go. Honestly, he has these standards to maintain, but gets someone else to do it. 🤨 Lazy, hypocritical fucker.

Just a suggestion.... you read the OPs post, as crazy as she is, which is bad! She's given an explanation more than once saying why he didn't go.

And it wasn't because he's a lazy arse.

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 13/06/2024 20:17

His fucking lazy arse should go. Honestly, he has these standards to maintain, but gets someone else to do it. 🤨 Lazy, hypocritical fucker.

time2changeCharlieBrown · 13/06/2024 20:07

I’d let my ten year old and 12 year old do this!!

insidenumber9 · 13/06/2024 20:05

You are being ridiculous op imo. One of you could have stood in the doorway and watched while she ran down if necessary.

Southlondoner88 · 13/06/2024 20:05

isnt there cctv in most hotels now?
So chances something awful
happening unlikely.

Jennyathemall · 13/06/2024 20:04

Massive overreaction from you of course she can do it

Bournetilly · 13/06/2024 19:59

You are being ridiculous

Jk987 · 13/06/2024 19:42

Some random, extremely rare child snatcher would have to be stood for hours looking through his peephole waiting for a victim. Not bothered about cctv or hotel security.

Not saying it's totally impossible, but you can't seriously add this to your worries.

greengreyblue · 13/06/2024 19:41

You are being over the top. Our DDs used to go to the campsite shop alone. If it helps could you stand and watch her.

Stompythedinosaur · 13/06/2024 19:41

Yeah, I think your reaction was way over the top.

I think the average 12yo is able to walk down a hotel corridor unsupervised just fine.

saraclara · 13/06/2024 19:29

I don’t think you can be “over the top” when it comes to the safety of your children

What an odd thing to say. Of course you can.

Every time you take your chld in a car, it's a risk. Every time you cross the road, it's a risk. If you let them play on a climbing frame, it's a risk. Preventing them from doing any of those things, for their safety, would be over the top. And in my opinion, so is not letting a 12 year old walk the distance of six rooms to use a bin in a hotel corridor.

poetryandwine · 13/06/2024 19:27

TonTonMacoute · 13/06/2024 19:13

This.

Shes nipping along a hundred metre corridor and coming straight back! If you were letting her wander around a huge hotel all evening on her own then maybe not, but honestly, this is insanely overprotective.

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Our perspectives are interesting.

A Premier League football pitch is just over 100 m long. Do we really think the hotel corridor is the length of a top league football pitch?

I agree with you on the issue, @TonTonMacoute . A PP who thinks we are underprotective earlier thought the corridor likely 250 ft or 76 m which seems nearly as improbable to me.

Goldenbear · 13/06/2024 19:24

bluewaxcrayon · 13/06/2024 19:18

"anxious" and "scared of everything" is not name calling. It's just a factual description based on your posts.

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Ok.