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Would you let your child do this or am I over the top?

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KrustyBurger · 13/06/2024 05:55

Currently on holiday in the USA. We are staying at a Marriott so not a motel type set up.

Husband asked our daughter who is 12 to run some rubbish down to the bin next to the lift, she would have to go past about 12 room doors (6 each side).

I said no, il do it as you never know who’s in the rooms and it only takes 5 seconds for someone to open the door and yank her in and you wouldn’t even know which room it is or where she is.

Husband said ok but gave me a strange glance.

Was I being over the top? Or would other parents do the same. It’s nearly 10pm at night here.

Husband's a bit of a clean freak and our bin is full hence not just leaving it.

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Sparkletastic · 14/06/2024 10:25

You have an overdeveloped sense of risk.

LordSnot · 14/06/2024 10:21

bluewaxcrayon · 13/06/2024 18:09

sadly, we live in a world where a UK kid got snatched from her own bathroom, terrorists blow up school kids and the list of horrific stories goes on.

If you really believe the tiny lock on your hotel room is enough to keep you safe, you are the naive one.

Where do you stop?

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You stop at ridiculous paranoia.

Blarneytalk · 14/06/2024 08:47

BardsAreAssholes · 14/06/2024 08:29

Then my apologies

Thank you

BardsAreAssholes · 14/06/2024 08:29

Then my apologies

Blarneytalk · 14/06/2024 08:18

BardsAreAssholes · 14/06/2024 08:11

@Blarneytalk - the OP clarified that her husband was dealing with their younger child at the time.

I know! That's exactly my point?

I don't know what you're saying?

It was @RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway that says he should've done his chores himself after.

brunettemic · 14/06/2024 08:16

KillerTomato7 · 14/06/2024 07:56

I would have to think that purely in terms of probability, the chances that one of the 12 rooms she passed would contain a pedophile, who also happened to be looking through the peephole on his door at the exact moment your daughter passed, are fairly low.

In the sense of maths yes, in the sense of MN logic I would think the probability is close to 100% 😂

BardsAreAssholes · 14/06/2024 08:11

@Blarneytalk - the OP clarified that her husband was dealing with their younger child at the time.

Blarneytalk · 14/06/2024 08:09

@RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway he could've taken the "trash" but as a good parent he is assigning age appropriate chores to his daughter.

It's what reasonable, normal people do.

Helicopter parenting is so restrictive.

I won't come back with an inane "exam" quip.

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 14/06/2024 08:01

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 14/06/2024 07:47

I haven’t extrapolated about all men Blarney, you did that.

Is it your GCSE Sociology exam today, or Food Tech?

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Where have I said all men, quote where I said all men are lazy. Brush up your own comprehension, after your sociology module.

KillerTomato7 · 14/06/2024 07:56

I would have to think that purely in terms of probability, the chances that one of the 12 rooms she passed would contain a pedophile, who also happened to be looking through the peephole on his door at the exact moment your daughter passed, are fairly low.

Blarneytalk · 14/06/2024 07:52

@RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway sorry where did I say all men?

Your post was man hating!

When are you going to resit your English comprehension exam?

Start revising now!

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 14/06/2024 07:47

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 21:53

Or just go be a 12 year old an age appropriate task!

Either way your man hating analogy of him being a lazy arse was wrong!

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I haven’t extrapolated about all men Blarney, you did that.

Is it your GCSE Sociology exam today, or Food Tech?

Blarneytalk · 14/06/2024 07:19

Toodleoodleooh · 13/06/2024 22:44

Hold on. You’re staying in a decent hotel and you won’t let your 12 year old walk to the end of the corridor?

you’re mad. Can she go to the toilet alone if you’re eating breakfast?

She can obviously go to the toilet, she still on her reins and they go as far as the toilet. Otherwise obviously not!

NDmumoftwo · 14/06/2024 07:17

Itoosurvive · 13/06/2024 21:40

Whilst I would certainly be happy to allow my daughter to walk the hotel corridor, I would certainly be most unhappy were she to do so without her meteorite helmet. This I insist she wears almost permanently.
Did you know that the fatality rate from meteorite (chondritic or metallic) strike is almost 100% ?

Yes, she would be allowed to carry the trash, but only on the condition that she wore her helmet.

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What a ridiculous comment. The child would also need a hazmat suit and full breathing equipment. What use is a helmet if she could be gassed with deadly chemicals in the corridor. Honestly some of the replies on here!

Mothership4two · 14/06/2024 06:10

I probably wouldn't have let a 12 yo go along at 10pm and either ask them to wait till morning or have done it myself. Probably OTT but I'd rather have peace of mind. My opinion is probably coloured by the fact that my aunt and uncle stayed in a 'nice' hotel in LA a few years ago and a woman was raped, tortured and murdered on the same floor as them.

Blarneytalk · 14/06/2024 02:01

andweallsingalong · 13/06/2024 22:28

From my own experiences on holiday at around that age I wouldn't have let her go either.

Holidays and booze brings out the worst in a certain type of man.

Where on earth do you holiday?

Toooldforthis36 · 13/06/2024 23:30

How does a “foreign country” make this hotel scenario more dangerous?

Ivymom · 13/06/2024 23:10

I have a 12 yr old daughter and live in the US. We frequently stay at Marriotts when we travel. Some of them, I’m perfectly comfortable with my DD going down the hall for ice/snacks/drinks. Others, my DH or I go with her. My best advice to anyone is trust your gut. I also understand that children in the UK are often given way more independence than children in certain parts of the US. Some US communities even have laws that don’t allow children under certain ages (usually around 14) to be left home alone. I personally find this a bit ridiculous, and try to live in and raise my children in communities where independence is encouraged.

Toodleoodleooh · 13/06/2024 22:44

Hold on. You’re staying in a decent hotel and you won’t let your 12 year old walk to the end of the corridor?

you’re mad. Can she go to the toilet alone if you’re eating breakfast?

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 13/06/2024 22:38

In the local area we have had a number of stabbings, machete attacks and a couple of gun incidents over the last 10 years.

It sounds horrendous, and some were quite close to each other

Say nothing for the muggings.

Parents still let their kids out alone. Because whilst on the face of it, its sounds bad the fact is its actually a tiny number of cases. And the independence is worth it

This is less risk than letting a child out near me tbh

Taking the rubbish out is also not unreasonable to ask of a 12 year old

CloudywMeatballs · 13/06/2024 22:36

It's funny, but it's never occurred to me that I should be more vigilant and protective of my kids than I would be in the UK, because I live in a Foreign Country! I can't believe my kids made it to adulthood when I let them do age appropriate tasks and even let them out of my sight for short periods of time, in the USA where we happen to live, when they were as young as12.

OP, you're being ridiculous. As is everyone else who thinks that the husband should have taken the garbage out himself. Do you people seriously never ask your children to do simple chores to help out? Or do you wait on them hand and foot?

CloudywMeatballs · 13/06/2024 22:31

andweallsingalong · 13/06/2024 22:28

From my own experiences on holiday at around that age I wouldn't have let her go either.

Holidays and booze brings out the worst in a certain type of man.

They were staying in a Marriott! Not Club Med.

andweallsingalong · 13/06/2024 22:28

From my own experiences on holiday at around that age I wouldn't have let her go either.

Holidays and booze brings out the worst in a certain type of man.

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 21:53

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 13/06/2024 21:45

He could take the trash after sorting bedtime.

Or just go be a 12 year old an age appropriate task!

Either way your man hating analogy of him being a lazy arse was wrong!

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 13/06/2024 21:45

He could take the trash after sorting bedtime.