Would you let your child do this or am I over the top?

I let my 9 year old cycle around the campsite by herself in a foreign country, so yes, I'd definitely let a 12 year old pop out with the rubbish in a hotel corridor.

I wouldn’t let her do it. I’d send my husband 😂

My 12 yo twins walk 20 minutes to school every day, walking by many doors/houses. This feels ott to me, but we’re all different.

All of this. DSD (12) is off into a big city this weekend with her friends on the train to go and buy holiday clothes with her spending money. They're very excited.

If we were in a hotel she would be trying to get away from us as much as possible - going to the hotel shop / pool / spa on her own. She has her phone on her and times as to when she needs to be back.

I don't believe for a second that OP is ok with her daughter being out and about back home with her friends (where statistically there are so many more chances of something bad happening) but won't let her walk down a corridor in a Marriott Hotel in the USA on her own?!?!?! Come on.

You’re being over the top and possible need some help with anxiety or need to stop watching so much true crime as it seems to have got into your head too much so that you see danger you d every corner.
Not healthy for you or your family

I think you need to be cautious OP. She is 12 and at the point in her life where she is starting to need to find her independence.

I strongly feel a lot of younger children are more anxious now as they have not been allowed to be independent.

A walk to the bin in a 'foreign' place would be the perfect opportunity for her to start experiencing this.

Helicopter parenting does have long term affects on children.

I have. I remember being completely astonished when speaking to a random woman while waiting for my turn at parents evening. My children were still pretty young at that stage but she had a child in year 5 or 6 and they were looking at high schools. She told me that the high school her child liked she was very hesitant about because it involved crossing a busy road. I found that batshit in itself, but the road she's talking about has a pedestrian crossing where the child would have to cross and is used by literally hundreds of that school's students every single day. Even when I just had a 5 year old, I couldn't imagine making a decision on a local high school based on the fact that there was ONE road to cross....

I don't know any people like this any more, but I think that's because over the years I've learnt not to become friendly with people like this as it's just going to create problems when I struggle not to judge them and vice versa.

She is not being out though.

I would let her do it in the daytime but would feel bad for her doing it at 10pm. I think I would have been a bit nervous to be out on my own at night at 12 years old, even if it was just down the corridor. I got the tube to and from school every day on my own from year 7 so I was pretty street smart but being out at night is very different to daytime.

Many of them don’t grow up into functioning adults though, that’s the problem. MH problems, unable to work because if anxiety and won’t open the door for a delivery.

A huge and expensive problem for society.

Oh my god this is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever read on here 😂

The chance of there being a serial killer in your hotel is probably about 0.000000001%.
The chance of him / her being on your corridor is even less.
The chance of there being a serial killer on your corridor and them instinctively knowing that a 12 year old girl is walking past on her own at that exact moment in time is pretty much impossible.
And even IF any of the above things did happen (going off the size of my 12 yo DSD) I think they might have a struggle literally grabbing her off the corridor without a fight or her screaming / shouting.
But on the off chance all of the above did happen, well you knew she was going to the bin and if she wasn't back in 5 minutes you'd go looking for her in the 9 rooms between yours and the bin so not a massive window of opportunity for anything to go wrong!!!

Rant over.

So long as you're not staying at the Cecil hotel in LA I reckon you're over thinking!

1. The whole reason we're all so aware of the madeleine story is that it was just so incredibly unlikely and bizarre
2. Madeleine was very very young. This child is 12
3. Madeleine was left in a hotel room while her parents were somewhere else entirely. This child is being asked to walk a few feet down a corridor while her parents are still in the room near by.

It frightens me that the differences are not obvious.

Well, if that's what you genuinely then I feel incredibly sorry for you and your children @Overthebs - what a miserable existence.

You're worried about her walking down a hotel corridor on her own? I wouldn't think twice about this. No one is going to snatch her.

I feel sorry for OP and her child. They must live in a high sense of fear.
At 13 I got a plane alone to East Germany, met a family who I knew a little bit and me and their 14 year old travelled on our own for 5 hours to the seaside and then got a bus and then a half mile walk to a summer camp. No mobiles. I didn't speak German. It was great fun. I can't imagine living in such a state of anxiety. At 12 my daughter was travelling across a major city alone lots. She loves exploring so she goes off all the time. If I told her she couldn't walk down a hotel corridor she would think I was joking. Tbh she also would make her Dad do it (rightly so in this case) mainly because she is a lazy arse when it comes to chores. 😁

Yes I am. They were targeted and I feel there’s no point in taking chances, how do you know that a 12 year old won’t be followed and targeted?! It’s the whole ‘oh it’ll be okay attitude’. I’d rather take the.. it might not be okay so I won’t take the risk attitude. End of day 12 years old is still young. Yer the risk of going down the corridor is low but I’m saying if you don’t feel comfortable letting them out your sight still at that age then that’s reasonable to me!

Can you imagine an employee of the Marriott reading this insanity?

“Hello, Marketing department? We have a problem. Some British mums think our perfectly nice hotel chain is some kind of shooting alley in Beirut.”

My kids fought over whose turn it was to get ice from the machine in the hallway, ffs. I hope to god the OP’s paranoia isn’t spreading to her tween.

@Overthebs are you seriously comparing the abduction of a toddler who was left unattended for long periods of time to a 12 year old secondary age child walking down a hotel corridor? 😂

Why wasn't he able to do it?

I would have absolutely no problem with this.

This forum is full of women who won't get taxis or walk home from the pub alone, they won't walk through fields alone in broad daylight or let their secondary age children catch a bus at 4pm.

What is everyone so scared of? And are none of you worried about how much you're limiting your lives and the lives of your children? How are they meant to grow up into functioning, independent adults if you won't let them for anything?

Come off it, if you can't see the difference between leaving very young children unsupervised with 15 minute checks and leaving a 12 year old to walk up and down a monitored corridor for a minute or so, you've got serious problems.

Marriot, you call room service to come and get the bin that is overflowing. If not put in the bathroom or cupboard away from sight. 10pm doing a bin run in a hotel that you paying and not a motel? It’s a holiday so all should be chill and relax.

Dear God
people really are so stupid when it comes to risk assessment
or at least on mumsnet they are
I have never met anyone this ridiculous in real life