Would you let your child do this or am I over the top?

I have every sympathy with you. Ot doesn't change my view. You cannot clip wings because of your experiences or fear. Tough I understand.

She would be perfectly fine, im sure she does more dangerous things walking to school ir going out with friends. I'd be more worried they are not at school.

It's a rubbish analogy

Crown Jewels can't scream or fight

They wouldn't be moving and are easier to pick up

As you say, you wouldn't push them in the swing. You wouldn't push them down a slide either. Or toss them into a pool.

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My 12 year old is disabled so cannot really picture how I would treat my child if he wasn't disabled. But it never would have occurred to me that when walking down a hotel corridor someone may open their door and pull you inside. How would someone in a hotel room even know that there is a person walking alone outside their room. The peep holes are not big enough to see that there is a child walking around alone. Do people really get grabbed from hotel corridors?

I got back to my room but it was scary. He wanted me to come to his room. Therexwas nobody else around.

Thats scary, what did you do?

Yes, but the analogy is still rubbish as they are just totally different in terms of how you weigh up risks.

It is very possible to raise resilient children who are independent members of society as adults whilst also keeping them safe as children. In my field of work (law) I have to deal with risk profiles on a daily basis. I believe the Crown Jewels are less likely to come to harm on a swing used in the correct manner than left alone in a hotel corridor at night time!

I'm not so sure about the analogy.

The crown jewels are inanimate objects not people who you're trying to raise to be useful resilient and independent members of society.

The risk calculation is always going to be different.

You wouldn't push the crown jewels on the swings either

As it happens, I went to work in Switzerland as a student and travelled there by train. I had to stop overnight in Cologne. It was back in the 80s and there was no en suite toilet - you had to go out into the corridor and find the ladies or gents. I was accosted by a guy at about 11pm. On my own. It was scary. And I have never felt ok in hotel corridors since.

I’d do the same as you, I’d take the rubbish to the bin myself rather than put my daughter at any risk. You never know who is lurking about in hotel corridors at night time. Everyone’s perception of risk is different, don’t feel unreasonable for wanting to keep your child safe in your own way, someone once said to me that our children are our Crown Jewels, and that really resonates with me, you wouldn’t put your Crown Jewels in the corridor on their own.

Maybe the OP and some other posters on this thread have watched The Shining too many times (with the weird twins). Or was that Don't Look Now? But both were set in hotels which had those awful, scary things that must be avoided at all costs. The Corridor 🤣

Happy to oblige, Lemur

We used to stay at the Marriott of Whereversville when my parents travelled for work and I was very amused by the notion of a Marriott corridor as a gauntlet to be run, dodging peril in every doorway

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This comment genuinely made me spit coffee everywhere 😂😂
Thank you!

Is the child aloud in to breath without you clstanding over her shoulder watching her like a hawk. She is 12 teach her some vital life skills safety tips and let the kid breath give her some responsibility she could get hurt Ln her own bedroom talking to God knows who on the Internet using the expensive smart phone you brought her to keep her safe

Wow OTT much. I'd get my 7yo to do that. Your poor child needs to build life skills and independence.

But I don't get my bearings or sense of the place in any place I'd never been to before. I felt like that in London. I'd still let my 12 year old walk down the corridor alone. You don't need to get your bearings in a corridor that literally leads to & from your room

Ffs
Walking down a corridor and back that presumably has been walked to get to the room, probably back again to go to the pool or something then back is not freely letting a child wander around randomly

My in laws were staying in a hotel in New York and there was a murder in the hotel.

Because you haven’t got your bearings or a sense of the place yet! If something did happen guaranteed the comments from people would be “ who the hell lets a 12 year old child out their sight and walk about a hotel themselves in a foreign country” parents can’t win

I wouldn't have let mine. If they were older they would be more aware of the dangers and it was late. I might have sent a couple of them but not just one.

I agree with you, until I get a feel for the place I’d not let them out my sight. People comparing being abroad to being back home where you know the place is nuts!

Id rather not say, but it was when I was considerably younger. But to add some flavour, I had to change rooms several times because the first one hadn't been cleaned at all and was in a right state, and the second one had a splat of badly wiped up vomit on the chair. If I'd been my age now back then I would have made way more fuss and found somewhere else to stay. Boy I wished I'd read the reviews 🤮

Several Innebriated crackhead looking gentlemen also came into our private view and stayed for a while being quite the art critics too.( not even the worst things said about my work at a private view either!) Luckily they just left

My point is about all of this is that you can be really really wrong about accommodation and the safety of the area that you are staying in. I Iived in what was considered a very rough area of London at the time and thought it was sort of OK and I thought Bristol was this very nice, posh place and just naively assumed it would be entirely free of threat.
Could those guys have been guests? Could that man have worked there? Yes, but was I right in my intuition about being followed,and was he lying to gain access to my room? Also yes

I've never felt as creeped out going home at night on my own anywhere as much as I did there either which I was also really surprised about. Good thing I was sober and feeing paranoid. I'd usually have been merrily pissed as a fart after a private view.

Lots of lessons learned about situational awareness.

And the attitudes on display in this thread are why I agree about your daughter.
Woman walks into a situation she feels threatened by? No she didn't. Or , she's exaggerating
Uses her noddle to avoid situation? You did it wrong. Situation wasn't as threatening as presented.
Did you notice, no one said " good thing you didn't open the door " if I had it all would be my fault.

I could write a safety manual on dumb- dumb stupid dangerous situations I've obliviously wandered into as a young person so I think it's great that you're aware and protective.