Would you let your child do this or am I over the top?

I was asked for statistics, I quite agree with you but not for the same reasons, for the fact that this is a chat forum not an academic paper.

Your experience working in a hotel at 14 in the UK years ago is not really what I’m referring to as it isn’t relevant to this situation today.

@Goldenbear is calling you neurotic, calling you a name !

I don't think so, it's stating my feelings of your behaviour! Which I stand by.

You are being neurotic.

Again, OP - you emphasised being in a foreign country. To go by the linked table above - thank you, @Gabby82 - the murder rate in the US is just over 4x the murder rate in the UK.

But the murder rate in the UK is over 7x the murder rate in Singapore. Citizens of all three nations generally speak excellent English, so there is no language barrier. Would you let your DD do the chore as described in a proper hotel in a proper British city? Why or why not? Would you understand citizens of Singapore being terrified for the safety of their 12 year olds here, as you are for your DD in America?

Open the door, lounge about while daughter runs the trash to the bin. And back. All under your supervision.

But yes a bit OTT in my opinion.

Also, as you have declared that I can’t post anymore, why do you keep asking me questions?

I didn't say I worked in the Hilton or the Holiday Inn, nor did I make reference to the USA. There's a lot more out there than a mid price chain.
I'm really not a fan of statistics either. Too many people use them to twist the narrative.

You posted that I was neurotic. That is like me suggesting you are neglectful.

Im afraid I don’t agree with you and other posters and guess what, you’ll have to accept that as this isn’t a place to come if you don’t want people to disagree with you!

@Goldenbear who has called you a name?

Stop making stuff up!

I was walking with friends in a city in a foreign country on a school trip at 12.
Is your daughter allowed to go anywhere on her own?

And this is the issue! Three year olds and 12 year old being treated the same and parents "can't see the issue"!

🤦‍♀️

What, absolutely bizarre level of remote control you are trying to administer over people. I have teenagers, how much involvement do you think they require, ones nearly an adult doing his own thing as is right and age appropriate.

I have a 17 year old DS he is absolutely fine and typical for his age as is my 12 year old, he certainly knows how to debate a point without name calling. If you have children I hope you teach them how to put their argument across without the need to belittle others as it doesn’t look or sound very bright.

Your extreme anxiety would impact your own child

It's not even a risk! I mean, if you were unlucky an earthquake separated you , blocking the corridor and a hord of zombie attacking maybe.

Reminds me of that episode of Friends where Rachel locks her baby in their flat 😂

@Goldenbear of course you're "permitted", but surely you've got other things to do, like making sure your children are really fully protected and doing everything for them.

You must be exhausted!

So I am not permitted to respond to posts referencing my name because you have declared it enough - perhaps report my posts then, then again I don’t think you can report for people disagreeing with you or number of times posting.

Agreed and making their children mini versions of themselves.

Anxious and scared of everything.

Honestly some of you need psychiatric help.

I can't imagine living with the level of fear and paranoia experienced by some of you.

12 is when I started having my dd navigate hotels. Not only did she take trash to the bin, she took the elevator to the front desk, went to breakfast, and went to the front door to return or retrieve a cart.

it helps that she has a cell phone that I can track in her pocket

I think if taking the risk doesn’t really impact you negatively what’s the point in taking it- it doesn’t make any odds if the OP’s child does this, does it?

It impacts the child by making them anxious, which carries on to making them scared of everything as MN proves, time and again.

@Goldenbear you're coming across quite neurotic and obtuse.

I think everyone has heard enough from you now.

I think we know your views.

I think if taking the risk doesn’t really impact you negatively what’s the point in taking it- it doesn’t make any odds if the OP’s child does this, does it?

I didn’t say you didn’t work at 14 or that the law prohibited it as I had a paper round, I was curious as to how you landed a job in the Hilton or Holiday Inn at the age. And seen as it was years ago and the UK not really relevant to the increase in Lawsuits in US chains with all sorts of crimes but sexual assault from predators, strangers not just people that are known to each other.

No, more like the exceptionally chirpy that reek of naivety and believe that every other human they interact with deliberates and is angst ridden over issues such as ‘parenting styles’!

As an aside, please point out where I argued that the abduction was the thing to be concerned by - no need to read it all, I didn’t!

I've just taken this from the UK government website.

Part-time work
The youngest age a child can work part-time is 13.

It's not unusual to have a part time job when you're at school. Particularly if your parents don't have much money to spare. Plus it teaches you all sorts of life skills like independence.

Completely unjustified paranoia, seeing as you're asking.