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Am I being tight?!

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 12/06/2024 20:19

My friend has just turned her nose up at me....

"Really? You're doing that?. Ew, I would feel awful if I did that!"

DD4 turns 5 later on in the month. Nailed her NEW balance bike and is now ready for her first proper bike.

Money is a bit tight and with her birthday party I didn't want to spend £££s on a brand new bike for her not to get on with it and sell it a loss/have it in the shed forever.

Anyhoo found a decent on on FB MP. Needs new tyres and new saddle and has a couple of age related marks but it's not battered. With the extras it's probably going to come to £70-£80.

Been looking for something decent for a while so was really chuffed to get it. Told friend and she said the above.

I feel really shit now and worried DD will be really disappointed as it won't be brand new and shiny. Realistically I know she won't give a shit and I will just be a bike, but I can't shake the feeling.

Am I tight???!

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NoSquirrels · 12/06/2024 20:25

Sounds brilliant. Some new bits, maybe a couple of stickers and those streamer pom-pom things for the handlebars - she’ll be thrilled.

Even serious cycle nuts buy secondhand kids bikes. Your friend is wrong, not you!

Spirallingdownwards · 12/06/2024 20:24

Is you friend an Instamum type who buys crap a the time and doesn't value the idea of reusing perfectly good second hand stuff. Before you know it your daughter will either bash her bike a bit or outgrow it so your solution is the ideal way.

KnitnNatterAuntie · 12/06/2024 20:23

It's new to your child . . . I'm sure your DD will love it

Strictlymad · 12/06/2024 20:21

Friend sounds wasteful, we are too consumerist and trashing the environment. A 5 year old won’t notice - you did the right thing

Br1ll1ant · 12/06/2024 20:21

She’ll love it. And you can make it personal to her with the extras. I think your friend is being incredibly unkind.

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