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is this a bit rude? Or just me?

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iamsoshocked · 12/06/2024 17:36

Just got home from work, and DD (19 home from Uni) and 2 friends are at the kitchen table. One friend is veggie, the other has allergy to egg.

I came in, said hello, nice to see you again etc, to which they just replied "Hi". Then I asked if anyone was staying for tea? And they both literally just said "no".
Not "no thank you", or anything, just "no".
I said, "ok, well you're both very welcome to stay in you'd like to." Which was met with silence.

So I walked off.

Rude? Or have I just had a bad day at work?

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 12/06/2024 17:53

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 12/06/2024 17:49

You were a bit off IMO as youngsters, visitors need a bit of extra attention

The bottom line, you felt insulted, so left they get lost and get on with your life and enjoy the rest of the day!!!

Visitors? They were her child's friends, they need manners not extra attention, especially as OP was offering to make their tea

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 12/06/2024 17:49

You were a bit off IMO as youngsters, visitors need a bit of extra attention

The bottom line, you felt insulted, so left they get lost and get on with your life and enjoy the rest of the day!!!

Doingtheboxerbeat · 12/06/2024 17:46

LonginesPrime · 12/06/2024 17:38

It might be rudeness, but I guess you don't know what they were discussing before you walked in - it might have been a really heavy conversation or something and they might have just felt awkward.

That's the thing, it wouldn't matter what the circumstances are (unless someone is on fire), I still have manners - it's so ingrained that's it's automatic.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 12/06/2024 17:43

LonginesPrime · 12/06/2024 17:38

It might be rudeness, but I guess you don't know what they were discussing before you walked in - it might have been a really heavy conversation or something and they might have just felt awkward.

Tough tits, doesn't excuse lack of manners

HeHeHeDidIt · 12/06/2024 17:42

Rude.

The last time I asked DS 19 how many were staying for tea, one newcomer laughed ‘you’re joking’. I think they weren’t socialised properly or something what with lockdown 🙄. I thought they were bloody rude.
His usual friends are lovely and always say ‘yes please/that would be lovely’ when I ask if they are eating and say ‘thanks for the food’ as they leave.
Some people just have no manners.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 12/06/2024 17:39

Rude. Does DD agree?

Mrcrabsleg · 12/06/2024 17:39

Rude - correct response should have been ‘no thanks’

LonginesPrime · 12/06/2024 17:38

It might be rudeness, but I guess you don't know what they were discussing before you walked in - it might have been a really heavy conversation or something and they might have just felt awkward.

Incakewetrust · 12/06/2024 17:37

Very rude. I wouldn't have dreamed of speaking to my friends parents like that.
When they've left, maybe have a quiet word with your dd.