Feel like I’m failing as a parent.
Dd, 5, suffers from constipation/being backed up. She’s had tummy aches and nausea on and off for 3 weeks. She’s up and down with it, she can be fine and play etc at some points, but then at other times, has tummy ache, feels sick, has no energy, doesn’t want to leave the house and so on.
She’s become very anxious to go back to school as she gets scared that she’ll feel sick at school and I’m not there or she’ll do sloppy poos etc. I was taking her in and picking up at lunch as she’s worse after eating. She’s now not been in for almost two weeks. School are very aware and have all medical notes off the specialist. I’ve talked to Dd about it lots, I’ve said she should try to go in, I can give her an anti sickness tablet, medicine and any real problems, the teacher will call me and I’ll be straight there (live 2 minutes away) I’ve said she can stay until lunch for a few days at first to get used to going again. She just becomes overwhelmed with anxiety, she cries the night before saying she doesn’t want to go in, then cries and panics in the morning.
After this week, she has two weeks left in school until they finish for summer, she will have lots of lovely activities and the end of year show/graduation. I feel so sad she’ll miss this and her last chance in this class, I also worry if we don’t go back, she won’t want to in September.
She’ll have a v long summer off school and constipation issues will be gone by September.
I’m not sure what to do? Feel so utterly stressed about this, on one hand worried sick she’s missing all this time and on the other hand, I feel guilty for pushing her at times when she cries to me.
She’s bright and i‘m a teacher and can do bits with her over summer, so I’m not concerned educationally.
What would you do? Make her go in or just see how she is and accept she might not return until September if not out of this impacted stage by the end of term?