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To think that you can load the dishwasher wrong?

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pontipinemum · 12/06/2024 13:01

DH is terrible for loading the dishwasher 'badly' like a bowl taking up 4 plate slots instead of being put in the top where it can slot in at an angle with the other bowls. Plates in each of the 4 bottom sections, instead of all in 1 so that you can load all the plates in 1 area and the Pyrex dish (or whatever) in another.

I don't think he does it on purpose and I do say it to him but he just says he'll readjust it if needed, but he usually doesn't. Strangely he loves that we put the forks, knives, spoons etc into their own slot as 'it's so easy to unload now' yet the plates can be all over the place an a cup thrown in for good measure.

This of course is meant to be light hearted and before any point out that I have little to worry about I actually have loads to worry about but sometimes little things niggle!!

YABU - Loaded is loaded
YANBU - If you do it correctly your fit way more in

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Notthisshitforthehundredthtime · 12/06/2024 13:23

Of course yanbu and anyone who agrees is clearly a sociopath

Ginkypig · 12/06/2024 13:21

It’s my job to load so in my house I’ll do it however I like

i think the simplest solution though is to set a rule that he gets to load however he wants but everything has to fit (or what doesn’t he washes by hand) and everything has to come out clean and if those two things aren’t being fulfilled then he needs to readjust so they do

it’s unfair to do a job in the house that leaves the other person with work to do

it’s like taking out a bin bag but leaving the other person to put the new one in and take it outside. It just leaves more work

flamesdancing · 12/06/2024 13:15

You are definitely not unreasonable but I learned a long time ago that dishwasher loading is in the same category as “politics” and “religion” in our family (and I include my parents, DH and siblings in that). It’s best not to discuss if you are not up for a heated debate. Everyone has their own way of doing it and everyone is convinced their way is right.

longdistanceclaraclara · 12/06/2024 13:12

My husband is awful for this, ditto hanging laundry. I leave him to throw his own clothes over the line all crumpled, with no pegs so it falls off, doesnt dry properl.

He overpacks or underpacks the dishwasher so can't fit enough in or jams it in so tight it doesn't actually get properly cleaned, and then puts the not lean stuff away.

There is just no logic in his way!

Natsku · 12/06/2024 13:10

Definitely can be loaded incorrectly. My OH puts them in in the most ridiculous way, not making efficient use of the space at all and sometimes even the wrong way up. He always tries to be helpful and load it (I never ask him to, because he does it wrong, so he just does it anyway) then me or DD have to unload it and do it again properly.

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pontipinemum · 12/06/2024 13:09

HeHeHeDidIt · 12/06/2024 13:05

We once got the manual out in our house because each of us were convinced the other was loading it ‘wrong’ 😂
I (now) think though this is one of those things where, as long as it’s loaded and the stuff comes out clean, you just need to accept you do it differently. There really are bigger things to bother with tbh.

If all the stuff fit I wouldn't mind. But his way usually ends up leaving dishes etc in the sink because they don't fit and re adjusting it gets everything in.

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HeHeHeDidIt · 12/06/2024 13:05

We once got the manual out in our house because each of us were convinced the other was loading it ‘wrong’ 😂
I (now) think though this is one of those things where, as long as it’s loaded and the stuff comes out clean, you just need to accept you do it differently. There really are bigger things to bother with tbh.