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Dear Richi Sunak

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CarolineFields · 12/06/2024 11:32

I have been a teacher for 30 years, and have at different times been head of department and head of year. Unfortunately, as a mother, it was impossible for me to full fill these roles because of the workload, so I resigned from both.

I made sacrifices to support my child through state school and university

I couldn't afford to replace my glasses, the prescription I used was 5 years out of date.

I have one pair of school shoes, and because I can't afford the bus, and walk 5 miles to school several times a week, I leave my shoes at school, because if they wear out I won't be able to replace them

I used a 10 year old asthma inhaler rather than pay the prescription charge for a new one.

The cats and I shared one heated vest under a duvet rather than turn on the central heating

I save a little bit by charging my phone and laptop from a camping style solar panel - I don't know how much this actually saves, but it must be something, right?

Holidays were camping, by public transport, off peak.

I am middle income, middle class, and consider myself reasonably comfortably well off- no serious worries about housing or food, as so many people suffer with daily.

I have never, in my wildest dreams considered the ludicrous and insane extravagance of taking out a sky tv subscription.

I understand that to some people this is a top priority, as football is such a crucial aspect of our countries cultural life. People who do take this out, will be making massive cuts elsewhere

I am very sorry, but I cannot begin to understand where you are coming from, believing that missing out on sky TV is some sort of sacrifice or deprivation.

I am stunned. I am gobsmacked. I can't take it in. I don't know what to say. I am reeling. I am so shocked. I don't know what it would have been possible to say to alienate me more than what you have just said.

I am sorry. I am struggling to articulate the depth of my astoundedness. It is like my soul can't absorb the words and gags on them. Its like a soul emetic

OP posts:
x2boys · 12/06/2024 13:37

MotherFeministWoman · 12/06/2024 12:55

Where do people live the bus fare is capped at £2? It certainly isn't in South Wales.

it is in Greater Manchester where I live maybe its an English thing?

tennesseewhiskey1 · 12/06/2024 13:33

Do you realise how lucky you are though? This morning a friend of mine who is a Ukrainian refugee told me come August she will have nowhere to stay, she has very young children. Want to swap with her - or is this a race to the bottom?

CarolineFields · 12/06/2024 13:33

ThistleWitch · 12/06/2024 13:16

As your post has not yet been removed, I'll bite

Unfortunately, as a mother, it was impossible for me to full fill these roles because of the workload, so I resigned from both.
Why "as a mother" ?

I made sacrifices to support my child through state school and university
We all do...

I couldn't afford to replace my glasses, the prescription I used was 5 years out of date.
Its £20/£25 for a test

I have one pair of school shoes, and because I can't afford the bus, and walk 5 miles to school several times a week, I leave my shoes at school, because if they wear out I won't be able to replace them

I used a 10 year old asthma inhaler rather than pay the prescription charge for a new one.
£9.90 for a new prescription
Or you can buy Ventolin Inhaler Online £7.49 - Asthma
Ashcroft Pharmacy
www.ashcroftpharmacy.co.uk › online-doctor

Also - if its lasted you 10 years, maybe you dont actually need one as you are not using it bery much? let alone it still being effective when 9 years out of date

The point is, bloody Sunak considering himself deprived
So this is the point, why bother with all the other shite first.

Youve been a teacher for 30 years, you're not on minimum wage - why are you so skint you cannot afford new shoes?

As your post has not yet been removed, I'll bite

Why would my post be removed? I am talking about normal life for normal people

Unfortunately, as a mother, it was impossible for me to full fill these roles because of the workload, so I resigned from both.
Why "as a mother" ?

Because the hours needed to do the job were not compatible with the time needed to put into being a mother - sorry I don't even understand the question, is that not obvious? I have resigned two promotions because there were not enough hours in the day to complete the workload, when I had to put in the normal hours of mothering, such as cooking, playing, trips outs, etc. I have also refused to do tasks I was ordered to do as a normal classroom teacher in the past, as the hours required would have left me with no family time, so have risked even normal jobs. We had a day trip planned one weekend, and my school drempt up some admin task that would have meant spending the whole weekend on it, and I said no, I have other plans this weekend, and refused to do it. I didn't lose that job, but I risked it!

I made sacrifices to support my child through state school and university
We all do...

Exactly my point- but not having Sky tv is not a sacrifice

I couldn't afford to replace my glasses, the prescription I used was 5 years out of date.
Its £20/£25 for a test

yes, but the test is a tiny fraction of the cost, the glasses themselves cost hundreds.

I have one pair of school shoes, and because I can't afford the bus, and walk 5 miles to school several times a week, I leave my shoes at school, because if they wear out I won't be able to replace them

I used a 10 year old asthma inhaler rather than pay the prescription charge for a new one.
£9.90 for a new prescription
Or you can buy Ventolin Inhaler Online £7.49 - Asthma
Ashcroft Pharmacy
www.ashcroftpharmacy.co.uk › online-doctor

Also - if its lasted you 10 years, maybe you dont actually need one as you are not using it bery much? let alone it still being effective when 9 years out of date

No, I don't need it very much, but I needed one recently, and economised by using a very old one

The point is, bloody Sunak considering himself deprived
So this is the point, why bother with all the other shite first.

Youve been a teacher for 30 years, you're not on minimum wage - why are you so skint you cannot afford new shoes?

My point is, I am a normal person, comfortably off, on a normal wage, and making normal sacrifices, but that Sunak moron thinks he has made sacrifices and his example is not having Sky TV!!!!!!!!

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ASighMadeOfStone · 12/06/2024 13:33

ThistleWitch · 12/06/2024 13:16

As your post has not yet been removed, I'll bite

Unfortunately, as a mother, it was impossible for me to full fill these roles because of the workload, so I resigned from both.
Why "as a mother" ?

I made sacrifices to support my child through state school and university
We all do...

I couldn't afford to replace my glasses, the prescription I used was 5 years out of date.
Its £20/£25 for a test

I have one pair of school shoes, and because I can't afford the bus, and walk 5 miles to school several times a week, I leave my shoes at school, because if they wear out I won't be able to replace them

I used a 10 year old asthma inhaler rather than pay the prescription charge for a new one.
£9.90 for a new prescription
Or you can buy Ventolin Inhaler Online £7.49 - Asthma
Ashcroft Pharmacy
www.ashcroftpharmacy.co.uk › online-doctor

Also - if its lasted you 10 years, maybe you dont actually need one as you are not using it bery much? let alone it still being effective when 9 years out of date

The point is, bloody Sunak considering himself deprived
So this is the point, why bother with all the other shite first.

Youve been a teacher for 30 years, you're not on minimum wage - why are you so skint you cannot afford new shoes?

Excellent post.

Katypp · 12/06/2024 13:32

TuesdayWhistler · 12/06/2024 11:49

You post is hyperbolic nonsense.

Was it written in 1953?

Bus travel has been capped at £2 for ages.

Glasses barely cost much these days, you can buy them for £10 from some websites.

An inhaler wouldn't last that long.

Charging phone from a solar charger... A solar charger you bought but couldn't afford prescription fee..

*Chinny Reckon

Agree. No one who is 'middle income middle class' has to share a heated vest with a cat and use solar power to charge a phone (which costs about 1p per charge anyway).
What is this competitive poverty and drama people are so keen on these days?

Chocolateorange22 · 12/06/2024 13:31

I honestly think he wants to sound 'normal' to the average voter. He honestly has not got a clue though to the point where I'm not sure whether it's funny or offensive any more.

ASighMadeOfStone · 12/06/2024 13:31

I've also been a teacher for 30 years, brought up a family and put children through university.
I'm a lifelong Labour voter and think you're talking bollocks.
@CarolineFields

x2boys · 12/06/2024 13:28

CarolineFields · 12/06/2024 11:32

I have been a teacher for 30 years, and have at different times been head of department and head of year. Unfortunately, as a mother, it was impossible for me to full fill these roles because of the workload, so I resigned from both.

I made sacrifices to support my child through state school and university

I couldn't afford to replace my glasses, the prescription I used was 5 years out of date.

I have one pair of school shoes, and because I can't afford the bus, and walk 5 miles to school several times a week, I leave my shoes at school, because if they wear out I won't be able to replace them

I used a 10 year old asthma inhaler rather than pay the prescription charge for a new one.

The cats and I shared one heated vest under a duvet rather than turn on the central heating

I save a little bit by charging my phone and laptop from a camping style solar panel - I don't know how much this actually saves, but it must be something, right?

Holidays were camping, by public transport, off peak.

I am middle income, middle class, and consider myself reasonably comfortably well off- no serious worries about housing or food, as so many people suffer with daily.

I have never, in my wildest dreams considered the ludicrous and insane extravagance of taking out a sky tv subscription.

I understand that to some people this is a top priority, as football is such a crucial aspect of our countries cultural life. People who do take this out, will be making massive cuts elsewhere

I am very sorry, but I cannot begin to understand where you are coming from, believing that missing out on sky TV is some sort of sacrifice or deprivation.

I am stunned. I am gobsmacked. I can't take it in. I don't know what to say. I am reeling. I am so shocked. I don't know what it would have been possible to say to alienate me more than what you have just said.

I am sorry. I am struggling to articulate the depth of my astoundedness. It is like my soul can't absorb the words and gags on them. Its like a soul emetic

How could you take holidays off peak as a teacher 🤔

muddyford · 12/06/2024 13:26

MotherFeministWoman · 12/06/2024 12:55

Where do people live the bus fare is capped at £2? It certainly isn't in South Wales.

It is in the southwest of England. But Wales is another country.

ThistleWitch · 12/06/2024 13:26

tobee · 12/06/2024 13:25

It's badly off

Sure - thats the takeaway

Hmm
Babyboomtastic · 12/06/2024 13:25

Lessstressedhemum · 12/06/2024 13:22

I don't know about the other stuff, but glasses are not cheap. My most recent pair cost almost £500 from Specsavers because of my prescription. They are only cheap if you have a very straightforward, single vision prescription.

Asda 😀

tobee · 12/06/2024 13:25

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It's badly off

DramaLlamaBangBang · 12/06/2024 13:24

Solmum1964 · 12/06/2024 12:02

Not if you have a complex prescription!
The cheap glasses are not available if you have an astigmatism or need varifocals.

My glasses cost me £500!

OP is correct, even if some people thing she is a biy hyperbolic. Sacrifice isnt not having a Sky Sports package. If Rishi Sunaks parents send each of their 3 children to top ranking public schools, that £90k a year! There isnt a Sky package on the planet that would cost that!

idrinkandiknowthings · 12/06/2024 13:24

ThistleWitch · 12/06/2024 13:16

As your post has not yet been removed, I'll bite

Unfortunately, as a mother, it was impossible for me to full fill these roles because of the workload, so I resigned from both.
Why "as a mother" ?

I made sacrifices to support my child through state school and university
We all do...

I couldn't afford to replace my glasses, the prescription I used was 5 years out of date.
Its £20/£25 for a test

I have one pair of school shoes, and because I can't afford the bus, and walk 5 miles to school several times a week, I leave my shoes at school, because if they wear out I won't be able to replace them

I used a 10 year old asthma inhaler rather than pay the prescription charge for a new one.
£9.90 for a new prescription
Or you can buy Ventolin Inhaler Online £7.49 - Asthma
Ashcroft Pharmacy
www.ashcroftpharmacy.co.uk › online-doctor

Also - if its lasted you 10 years, maybe you dont actually need one as you are not using it bery much? let alone it still being effective when 9 years out of date

The point is, bloody Sunak considering himself deprived
So this is the point, why bother with all the other shite first.

Youve been a teacher for 30 years, you're not on minimum wage - why are you so skint you cannot afford new shoes?

I'll just jump on the bandwagon too.

Single mother since my daughter was 3. She's is now 17. No maintenance from father for first 12 years of her life. None whatsoever now because he's dead.

I earn far, far less than a qualified teacher.
I pay rent and council tax and utilities.
I have tv subscriptions.
I run a car.
I have a monthly prescription for anti-depressants.
I have a monthly contact lens subscription.
I can buy shoes and clothing.
Neither myself or my daughter are undernourished (quite the opposite in my respect!) and we both have mobile phones.

I think Sunak was scrabbling round for an answer - any answer - because he was put on the spot by the interviewer.

I will not be voting Tory because I loathe them.

Lessstressedhemum · 12/06/2024 13:22

TuesdayWhistler · 12/06/2024 11:49

You post is hyperbolic nonsense.

Was it written in 1953?

Bus travel has been capped at £2 for ages.

Glasses barely cost much these days, you can buy them for £10 from some websites.

An inhaler wouldn't last that long.

Charging phone from a solar charger... A solar charger you bought but couldn't afford prescription fee..

*Chinny Reckon

I don't know about the other stuff, but glasses are not cheap. My most recent pair cost almost £500 from Specsavers because of my prescription. They are only cheap if you have a very straightforward, single vision prescription.

twig00 · 12/06/2024 13:21

Sad story.
I would spell his name correctly though.
I hate it when white people can’t be arsed to spell or pronounce my name properly. Idiots!

ThistleWitch · 12/06/2024 13:20

Catza · 12/06/2024 12:49

Do you know how food banks work? You can't just rock up at one and ask for food. You need to have a referral slip either from SS, MH team, GP or similar. I cannot see a scenario under which the OP would fit the criteria for the food bank voucher.

Or you can go to a food hub, of which there are many around

mumyes · 12/06/2024 13:20

I am staggered by the lack of empathy / sympathy here.

Op I totally get what you're saying. I see my child's teachers (single mum) & shudder at the thought of how hard it must be for her.

A professional role such as a teacher ad enable a decent standard of living. In 2024 it clearly does not.

I hear you op.

I feel for you op.

Vote the Tories out.

idrinkandiknowthings · 12/06/2024 13:18

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Not patronising. Observational.

CarolineFields · 12/06/2024 13:17

I am surprised that people are commenting on my solar panel! I will have a look at the make later, right now it is charging in an upstairs window. it just sits there, and I plug my phone into it, but it is hanging from a handle at the top, and the leads hang down, so I would have to get a chair to stand on to find out the make and anything about the manufacter. It just stays there all year, except when we go camping it folds down quite small

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ThistleWitch · 12/06/2024 13:16

As your post has not yet been removed, I'll bite

Unfortunately, as a mother, it was impossible for me to full fill these roles because of the workload, so I resigned from both.
Why "as a mother" ?

I made sacrifices to support my child through state school and university
We all do...

I couldn't afford to replace my glasses, the prescription I used was 5 years out of date.
Its £20/£25 for a test

I have one pair of school shoes, and because I can't afford the bus, and walk 5 miles to school several times a week, I leave my shoes at school, because if they wear out I won't be able to replace them

I used a 10 year old asthma inhaler rather than pay the prescription charge for a new one.
£9.90 for a new prescription
Or you can buy Ventolin Inhaler Online £7.49 - Asthma
Ashcroft Pharmacy
www.ashcroftpharmacy.co.uk › online-doctor

Also - if its lasted you 10 years, maybe you dont actually need one as you are not using it bery much? let alone it still being effective when 9 years out of date

The point is, bloody Sunak considering himself deprived
So this is the point, why bother with all the other shite first.

Youve been a teacher for 30 years, you're not on minimum wage - why are you so skint you cannot afford new shoes?

CarolineFields · 12/06/2024 13:15

well, I will certainly look at asda next time I get glasses, but I have shopped around in the past, and even taking my prescription on line saves only about £5-£10, and then when you think you don't get personal fitting, and cant pop back into the shop to have them tightened or loosened slightly, etc, it seemed like a false economy. I bought new glasses last year, and have popped back twice to get them readjusted lightly

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spuddy4 · 12/06/2024 13:14

I don't think you are middle class if you are struggling as you say.

I live in one of the most poorest parts of the country where the average wage is £23k and don't know anyone who's charging their phone with solar panels.

Unless you have a huge mortgage or other expenses you haven't disclosed this doesn't add up.

Aoletsgo · 12/06/2024 13:14

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idrinkandiknowthings · 12/06/2024 13:13

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This is one of the most ludicrous comments I've ever read on here 😅