WIBU to cancel holiday?

@JanglingJack my question entirely! Migraines yes, blood clots.....umm no

OP, did you ever hear anything from the bride?

Why do some people go so completely insane when it comes to bloody weddings?

It probably doesn't help when people who really shouldn't agree to 4day hen dos, to travel abroad abroad & pay more than a grand for the privilege!

This is just madness. A professional pedicure for closed toe shoes! But you seem to have been required to sport the approved pedicure colour for the whole week. And what was it about no revealing bikinis while on holiday? How was that going to affect the wedding photographs? I had a couture dress and the men in morning suits when I got married but I had my husband's younger half sister as a a bridesmaid and I never even thought to make suggestions about her hair, make up, nails or swimwear choices. I did abandon my idea of a pale lemon dress though when I saw it was a colour that didn't flatter her and I wanted her to feel happy and confident.

This is incredibly rude! Everyone reacts differently to stress and pressure. You have no idea what sort of messages she was receiving, human beings do have the capability to make each other feel terrible with words just like you have tried to do.

Agree, the whole clone thing is strange. When did people get so self-obsessed? And I wouldn’t want them spending £££ money they didn’t have to spare. Travel half way round the world or get a plane anywhere. Take a week off work. And so on …

How does stress cause blood clots?

She has cancelled @Bs0u416d . Days ago

Not even open toed shoes.

😂

Well done OP! They sound like a bunch of psychopaths! Enjoy spending your money on what you want and your new house fund! X

No wonder she's struggling to get people wanting to come to her wedding, what a shower of horrors!

Why do some people go so completely insane when it comes to bloody weddings?

I hate weddings. We never go unless it is very close family (none left to get married 😂).

This is utterly insane well find for cancelling. Has the bride replied?

Weddings used to be lovely events..family and friends, all ages, all on one day..nothing over the top. It really was about love, friendship and having fun. Now I know young people reluctant to get married because of the huge cost and they don’t want to be seen as doing less than their friends have. It’s sad.

Madness, sending abusive messages. Dictating what people wear.

They sound awful.

Get your money back, sounds dreadful.

I'm wondering if anyone else feels the same way and follows suit 😬 I'm glad you feel better, hope she understands and replies nicely x

Did you let the Bride know about the abusive messages you received from her Mother and the MOH - I think she should see what kind of people they are, it’s them that have ruined the wedding, not you.
I think you should screen shot them and send them to her.
I don’t blame you for ducking out, entirely reasonable.

I hope the money you now have for a house deposit means you have a house of your own a bit sooner, and well done for deciding now.

It’s because it’s part of the bizarre trend to treat an entire group of people as an extension of the bride herself. They have to “match” somehow, like a furniture suite. As if she is so important that the people surrounding her are accessories to her, and clones of each other.

I want my friends and loved ones to come to a celebration exactly as they are, exactly as they want to be, and exactly as I know and love them. I don’t care if they don’t all look like clones in the photos, surrounding the most “important” person (by the way, does the spouse ever feature in these choreographed plans?)

And I wouldn’t want my friends to spend a single second thinking or worrying about getting something right, to please me or make something right for me. I just want them to get showered, get dressed, feel good, show up and have fun.

Anything beyond that is bordering on bonkers.

DD was in tears last weekend over an old school friends wedding. She's ended up spending nearly £900 on a 4 day hen abroad that the MOH themed with different outfits every day that she won't wear again. They'd booked a villa miles from anywhere so ending up spending a fortune on taxis, meals out, clubs etc. Then she had a second hen for those who couldn't travel and that was another £150. The wedding was themed so DD had to get an outfit as well as her BF; the bar cost an absolute fortune and I ended up picking them up from a hotel 30 miles away at 1am to save them having to spend £300 on a hotel room and brunch the next day. They're trying to renovate their house and she was devastated at the money she feels she's wasted which would have carpeted the living room and hallway.

Are you quite mad? I think someone else even THINKING about my toenails is an intrusion too far, let alone telling me what to do with them.

If any bride thinks that anyone at the wedding is looking at the bridesmaid’s toenails, then she has much bigger problems. Not to mention is an utter control freak with completely the wrong priorities on a day which is meant to celebrate a lifelong union with her partner, not be an over-organised photo opportunity.

Well done OP.

Big group nights out are bad enough, I can't imagine being bossed around for a whole week.
My adult DD has mild ASD, when faced with events like this, she says "No Thank you, I don't want to". 😁

Wishing you a swift recovery.

not even open toe

just gets more batshit

did she ever reply