Not having intercourse

This relationship is already doomed if he can't get his head around the fact that pregnancy and babies make sex go bye bye for a while.. sometimes a really long fucking while.

Buckle in OP I suspect you're in for a bumpy ride with this one, he sounds revolting. There is nothing less sexy they a sex pest, it baffles me that they can't ever put two and two together on this.

I'd "try" to give him a blow job, vomit over his knob, and then leave him lying in a pool of sick while I locked myself in the bathroom feeling sick. If you only have one toilet I'd stay in their extra long just to make sure I was really feeling better.

It’s not about being mismatched - it’s about having respect for the other person and not treating them like a tissue.

It’s a shame we aren’t all better matched. There are plenty of men who go off sex entirely during the pregnancy because they see it as gross or don’t want to hurt the baby, but couples are so often mismatched

OP you don’t owe him anything. Your mind seems to be set up to ‘please’ him. It’s very worrying because when your baby is born he/ she will be the priority. DH’s needs will be very much down the list because he is a functioning adult and you will have a tiny helpless human and your love for that baby will likely eclipse anything you’ve ever felt for DH.
Its not just about sex, it’s about the whole trying to keep him happy mindset that’s troubling.
Any man who keeps going on or gets in a mood after you have voiced reluctance in any form is a sex pest with little regard / respect for you or your feelings.

This is honestly such a sad thread.

OP - you have a horrible husband there. And I suspect you keep him happy because he’s a big baby if he doesn’t get what he wants.

Life is changing now - a baby makes it all different. You need to work out what your life is going to be as I suspect he will not be the source of love and comfort you want and need.

This site allows all, and I mean all, swear words so you don't have to censor anything out.

With all the love in the world this man is a sex pest. He sees you as something that owes him sex. His attitude when you say no is abusive, I know you don't want to think of it that way but it is. It is basically trying to condition you not to displease him because otherwise he will act like this. You can google sulking and abusive and it will show you that it is.

You do not owe him sex, you should only ever be engaging in any intimacy with full and enthusiastic consent. This doesn't look like that from outside your relationship. It doesn't matter that he looks after you when you have been sick, you can be kind and also abusive.

I was put on bed rest at home with Ds2, no walking, no sex, no orgasms, nothing until my 20 week scan. 3 months of nothing. Dh never once said anything because he doesn't act like a teenager when we can't have sex. You deserve better, do some research and look into why you feel obliged to him and why he feels you owe him sex even when you are incredibly poorly with his baby.

He’s going to be a dreamboat when the baby is born, and it’s not about keeping DH happy anymore.

You should never be having sex you don’t want, ever.

My now ex dh was like this. I lasted till dd was 6 months old and the resentment was huge, I just hated him after all that pestering and sulking. I got to the point I couldn’t even look at him without hating him so I left him when dd was 6 months old - she’s now 21, I still hate him even though I haven’t had to see him for years now and I’m now happily remarried!

He is abusing and bullying you.

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Ugh, he sounds vile. I'm 21 weeks and we've not had sex since I got pregnant. I've been too sick and I don't want to. DH hasn't said a word and tbh, we probably won't do it until after I have the baby and he still won't say a word because although he has his faults, he realises I'm pregnant and feel shit and he's not a total arsehole

OP, does he know that you won't be able to have sex for weeks after you give birth, and that having a new baby/young toddler can mean you feel 'touched out' and won't want sex with him either? Does he know these things or do you need to sit down and explain them to him?
He sounds awful and you seem to think this is normal - don't you think it's a bit weird he wants to have sex with you and keeps asking to, when you clearly don't?

You need counselling op. I expect something happened in your upbringing to make you think it is your role in life to please men, to serve men, to entertain men. If you think back to something you did for him, if you reverse the roles, can you ever imagine that happening?

It's been five weeks! What's he going to be like after the baby is born?

You can say sex. You can call it fucking if you want. It's not tiktok.

Ugh. Why are you trying to keep this awful man happy? You’re carrying his child, he should be doing everything he can to make you happy.
Ask him what he thinks of men who continually try to make women have sex when they don’t want to - and tell him there are names for men who do this.

This.

You are in deep shit with this dynamic and you would be best waking up now rather than post partum

I think you really need to do some thinking about 'I'm really trying to keep him happy.'

Just the casual way you say that is worrying and indicative of the dynamic between the two of you.

If you were BOTH doing things to keep the other happy because you both wanted to, then lovely.

But you are trying to keep him happy and yet he is not trying to keep you happy. On the contrary, he doesn't care about whether you are happy at all. And seemingly, neither do you.

Why is it all about him and his happiness?

So he sulks? Oh op, nip this shit in the bud now, otherwise you'll be back here in 9 months telling us he's sulking because you cant give him any attention because you're looking after his child....