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8y old girl we gym in bra top and leggings

82 replies

KarlWrenbury · 11/06/2024 20:21

Was at gym. Girl with her mum but wearing the kind of gym wear a 23 y old would wear.

I had a judgemental moment. It just seemed weird.

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Chickenuggetsticks · 11/06/2024 20:54

Mine wears shorts and t-shirts for a lot of her activities, they are comfortable and enable her to move. I feel uncomfortable with what Op describes it feels like objectification of children’s bodies. Like dressing them as a mini adult rather than a child. I think kids are rushed towards adulthood too fast.

Marblessolveeverything · 11/06/2024 20:52

ThisNoisyTealLurker · 11/06/2024 20:39

Admittedly this has nothing to do with being at the gym... My 14 year old step daughter stayed over with two school friends the other week, all of them went out shopping for the day wearing hoodies and t shirts but all with similar pairs of skin tight shorts that barely covered their bum cheeks. Before I'm accused of being 'an old fart', I must stress that these shorts were smaller than hot pants...just miniscule. I quietly asked my partner if he was happy with his daughter wearing that and he just shrugged, it's the fashion apparently. I just worry that these children, who have the bodies of adult women, are just kids at the end of the day and there'll have been plenty of men ogling them which made me super uncomfortable.

And the issue is the men in that scenario not the young girls. By all means call out the men who are looking at them inappropriately.

Ratsoffasinkingsauage · 11/06/2024 20:51

It’s how TikTok tells them they should look. It’s not an empowered fashion choice- it’s the commercialisa of girl’s bodies by an industry that needs then to be constantly buying items to fit arbitrary beauty standards.

It bullshit.

jay55 · 11/06/2024 20:50

Bras are a pain, there's more than enough years of dealing with them. Wearing one before it's needed sounds like a weird torture to me.

Singersong · 11/06/2024 20:48

ThisNoisyTealLurker · 11/06/2024 20:39

Admittedly this has nothing to do with being at the gym... My 14 year old step daughter stayed over with two school friends the other week, all of them went out shopping for the day wearing hoodies and t shirts but all with similar pairs of skin tight shorts that barely covered their bum cheeks. Before I'm accused of being 'an old fart', I must stress that these shorts were smaller than hot pants...just miniscule. I quietly asked my partner if he was happy with his daughter wearing that and he just shrugged, it's the fashion apparently. I just worry that these children, who have the bodies of adult women, are just kids at the end of the day and there'll have been plenty of men ogling them which made me super uncomfortable.

Nike pro shorts. They're all the rage and look more like underwear or swimwear to me.

OMGsamesame · 11/06/2024 20:44

H34th · 11/06/2024 20:29

A mum I know posted sm photos of her (quite tall) eight year old wearing only shorts, nothing else, on a beach with her new teen step brother. I thought I wouldn't want that to be me at eight.

It used to be pretty normal - if she's not started puberty yet what would the top be hiding?

Original poster
KarlWrenbury · 11/06/2024 20:42

@ThisNoisyTealLurker ir is. Large pants

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Namenamchange · 11/06/2024 20:41

Why aren’t 8 year old boys encourage to wear tight tops and figure hugging bottoms?

ThisNoisyTealLurker · 11/06/2024 20:39

Admittedly this has nothing to do with being at the gym... My 14 year old step daughter stayed over with two school friends the other week, all of them went out shopping for the day wearing hoodies and t shirts but all with similar pairs of skin tight shorts that barely covered their bum cheeks. Before I'm accused of being 'an old fart', I must stress that these shorts were smaller than hot pants...just miniscule. I quietly asked my partner if he was happy with his daughter wearing that and he just shrugged, it's the fashion apparently. I just worry that these children, who have the bodies of adult women, are just kids at the end of the day and there'll have been plenty of men ogling them which made me super uncomfortable.

Original poster
KarlWrenbury · 11/06/2024 20:38

It just looked too old.
the kind of fashion I suppose.

Nothing more.

OP posts:
Verite1 · 11/06/2024 20:38

My DD has a crop top which she is allowed to wear for gymnastics and other sports (but not out generally). I think that’s fine.

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/06/2024 20:37

mitogoshi · Today 20:34
I'm with you op, really don't think crop tops are appropriate for preteens”

I disagree. Far more appropriate for flat chested kiddies than adult women with pendulous boobs as mine were (only have one now so not a piece of clothing g I’d consider anyway 😁).

FlissyPaps · 11/06/2024 20:37

KarlWrenbury · 11/06/2024 20:27

It wasn’t a crop top.

was a shiny bra top.

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DreadPirateRobots · 11/06/2024 20:36

mitogoshi · 11/06/2024 20:34

I'm with you op, really don't think crop tops are appropriate for preteens.

Why? What's so obscene about their stomachs that isn't obscene about an adult or teen's stomach?

It was gymwear, she was in the gym. People working out generally dress lightly and for freedom of movement. Much as people swimming dress to be weighed down as little as possible in the water.

earlymorningcurlewcall · 11/06/2024 20:34

Massively inappropriate for an 8 year old to be in a bra-like top.

mitogoshi · 11/06/2024 20:34

I'm with you op, really don't think crop tops are appropriate for preteens.

sprigatito · 11/06/2024 20:32

I wouldn't see a problem here. 8yo girls don't generally have boobs, so even if you subscribe to the idea that women's chests are somehow more obscene than men's, it wouldn't apply to a child of that age. She was in a gym and accompanied by an adult. I don't understand what you think the problem is.

Singersong · 11/06/2024 20:30

I wouldn't allow my 8 year old daughter to wear a bra top, but then I also wouldn't wear one either. Completely inappropriate.

bridgetreilly · 11/06/2024 20:30

I’m not completely sure what you mean by a bra top, but it’s none of your business, frankly.

Marblessolveeverything · 11/06/2024 20:29

And why do you feel it is not appropriate?

She is a child, she is wearing clothes. That is a you issue, we teach children younger than her not to judge others by appearance or clothing, you appear to have missed that lesson.

Ratsoffasinkingsauage · 11/06/2024 20:29

It unfortunately the trend. I blame the Kardashianisation of childhood.

H34th · 11/06/2024 20:29

A mum I know posted sm photos of her (quite tall) eight year old wearing only shorts, nothing else, on a beach with her new teen step brother. I thought I wouldn't want that to be me at eight.

Maddy70 · 11/06/2024 20:28

Gym clothes in a gym...
Not seeing the issue

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/06/2024 20:28

KarlWrenbury · Today 20:23
There’s a window when they can with parents
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That’s not the issue”

Is to me. Not appropriate, they’re not physically ready for gym equipment. It can be dangerous.

Don’t see any other problem. Do you disapprove of kids in swimsuits at the pool, too?

Stressfordays · 11/06/2024 20:27

My 6 year old has a little gym set, it came with a crop top, leggings and a baggy t-shirt. She often just wears the crop top. She looks cute in it 🤷