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Dreading tonight already as I know I'll be up all night with DS asthma

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asthmawasthma · 11/06/2024 18:08

DS (5) has asthma, he's on lots of medication for it but generally when he picks up a bug or his hayfever is bad like it is today it really affects him at night. I've been up most of the night for the last four nights with him due to constant sneezing and blocked nose from hayfever which was making him uncomfortable. Now he's started with the dreaded cough. It always starts off with a croup sounding cough and means he will be up all night hacking away. Which means I'll be up all night consoling him and giving inhalers etc.
I know I'm moaning and it's not fair on Ds as obviously it's not his fault. But I feel so rundown and poorly myself at the moment just from over tiredness and burnout that I don't think I can cope with another night of no sleep! DH is useless and even if he agreed to help he would sleep through it all anyway so there's no point asking! Just needed a moan!

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RishiIsACuntWaffle · 11/06/2024 18:26

asthmawasthma · 11/06/2024 18:24

@endofthelinefinally we have recently seen a paediatrician and they have put him on double dose of his brown inhaler (clenil I think?) and he has a blue inhaler to help with nights like this. He also takes montelukast. I haven't yet got prescribed antihistamines as this is the first year his hayfever has been so bad. But it's on my list to speak to the pharmacy tomorrow and hopefully get something sorted

Hi op. Shower him before bed. Keep windows shut. Don't dry his clothes or bedding outside and antihistamine before bed.
Poor lad x

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asthmawasthma · 11/06/2024 18:24

@endofthelinefinally we have recently seen a paediatrician and they have put him on double dose of his brown inhaler (clenil I think?) and he has a blue inhaler to help with nights like this. He also takes montelukast. I haven't yet got prescribed antihistamines as this is the first year his hayfever has been so bad. But it's on my list to speak to the pharmacy tomorrow and hopefully get something sorted

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endofthelinefinally · 11/06/2024 18:24

As pp said, short course prednisolone can be a game changer.

Sirzy · 11/06/2024 18:23

What antihistamine is he on? Over the counter ones don’t work for DS so he has a prescribed one which helps massively at this time of year

endofthelinefinally · 11/06/2024 18:22

It sounds like his asthma is not controlled. Does his medication include prescribed antihistamines (the good stuff)? You don't say what inhalers he is on, but does his plan change for the hay fever season? Poor him and poor you. It sounds awful.

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asthmawasthma · 11/06/2024 18:21

@Oneearringlost yes he is on montelukast which has made things much better but when he has a flare up of hayfever not much helps!
@andHelenknowsimmiserablenow yes I do have work which is what's making me so anxious I think as I really struggled today with being so tired. There's no way of me having tomorrow off though unless Ds is too poorly to go in.
Thanks for the other comments too. I know it's just part of being a parent and I feel really bad for Ds as he can never catch a break bless him. Tiredness just sucks!

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Clumsykitten · 11/06/2024 18:21

I could literally have written this post, right up until the bit where the DH is useless. You have a poorly child with a chronic condition, he doesn’t get to be useless.

Sending Love and solidarity, yes it’s awful. Try to get some sleep early in the night if that’s better.

Keeva2017 · 11/06/2024 18:18

You have my greatest sympathy. I think sleepless nights due to kids coughing is torture. It’s the part of parenting that just finishes me off.

Give your dh a massive kick up the arse. Do not let him get away with it. Be the bitch.

Sirzy · 11/06/2024 18:18

Won’t help for tonight but if you knows it’s setting off is it worth phoning OOH to request some prednisone for him?

I would tell your husband you’re going to bed for a few hours and then you can swap during the night.

andHelenknowsimmiserablenow · 11/06/2024 18:16

Do you have work tomorrow? Is it possible to call in sick and then you can get through the night knowing you could catch up a bit tomorrow?
Poor little thing. I am glad he has such a good mom that you stay up helping him.
I had childhood asthma and was constantly either ignored or told to be quiet in the night. It really is terrifying not bieng able to breathe properly.

Oneearringlost · 11/06/2024 18:16

DS not DH!

Oneearringlost · 11/06/2024 18:15

Is he on Montelukast?

HandsDown84 · 11/06/2024 18:12

That's not true that there's no point. You do shifts. Wake him up and make him do at least 3 hours. If he's "useless" he needs to practice being a parent until he isn't.

I sympathise, DS5 has asthma too but we split the night duties.

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