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10 year old using the tube alone?!!

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LIKley · 11/06/2024 12:55

DD is in Y6, her school has kids from all over London and we are used to her friends not being super close geographically.
DD’s best friend is one of the youngest in their year, so only 10 right now.

Planning a sleepover for the girls as they won’t be at the same school next year, I asked the girls parents how she will be getting to ours and was asked if I could meet her at my nearest tube station, I assumed a parent would be meeting me there with her but no they intend to let their 10 year old get the tube alone + 2 line changes one of them either at Victoria or Green Park which if you know London are hardly going to be quiet and easy to navigate at 10.

Parent insists it’s fine and the girl knows the stations well and has been using one of them alone to get to a hobby all of Y6!!

Now I know know, most kids will be getting the tube to school alone in just a couple of months but the thought of asking a 10 year old to navigate a busy station like Victoria on her own makes me feel ill!

AIBU to say to the parents that I’ll just pick her up from there house? Equally AIBU to think it’s bloody absurd to have a 10 year old make this journey?

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 11/06/2024 13:08

ThatRoseBear · 11/06/2024 13:07

My son is 10 and there is absolutely no way I would feel comfortable with that. I would be dropping him off and picking him up. So many things can go wrong and at 10 he wouldn't know what to do

Your son would not know what to do because he hasn't had any practice at managing these situations. This little girl has. She regularly makes a similar journey and has been doing so for months. It's her parents' call and they know her capabilities better than anybody else. The Tube is busy all the time. I'm sure she will be absolutely fine.

LemonCitron · 11/06/2024 13:08

YANBU to offer a lift if that will make you feel better. But they are not being unreasonable either and lots of children travel independently at this age (including me when I was in year 6 and living in London).

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 11/06/2024 13:07

We began "practicing" using the bus when I was in Y6 as I'd need them for school, the buses weren't that busy with school kids as most caught the dedicated school buses (as did I but I needed to know the routes in case I missed the buses or had clubs). I was one of the babies in the year too.

By all means offer to collect her but don't make it a judgment on the parent.

Presumably it's not at night?

ThatRoseBear · 11/06/2024 13:07

My son is 10 and there is absolutely no way I would feel comfortable with that. I would be dropping him off and picking him up. So many things can go wrong and at 10 he wouldn't know what to do

Catza · 11/06/2024 13:06

The parents said it was fine and she is using the tube independently and knows the station well. It's not their job to manage your anxiety.
It's not absurd to have a 10 year old who clearly have been working with her parents on independent mobility to use her independent mobility skills. They don't just magically acquire them when they turn 11.

PuttingDownRoots · 11/06/2024 13:04

Ultimately their child, their choice. Lots of 10yos fo use public transport independently (although not usually quite as busy as Victoria Station!).

LIKley · 11/06/2024 13:01

Octavia64 · 11/06/2024 12:57

If the parents have been working with her on using the tube and she does it regularly alone then I'm not sure why you want to over-ride that.

Offer a lift by all means.

For year 7 many many London kids use the tube to get to school.

Im aware lots of Y7s take the tube to school and DD will be one of them next year. However it will be at a time where there will be lots of other young people alone on the trains so some safety in numbers and at least for us we will be picking routes that skip the busier interchange and commuter stations for some extra piece of mind.

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Octavia64 · 11/06/2024 12:57

If the parents have been working with her on using the tube and she does it regularly alone then I'm not sure why you want to over-ride that.

Offer a lift by all means.

For year 7 many many London kids use the tube to get to school.

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