To feel this is the end because he called me a c€&t under his breath

I can't say I'd be thrilled but I agree with @Alwaysgothiccups:

On here there was recently a thread about a husband who'd read a wife's diary where she had been upset and writing negative things about the marriage.
The general consensus was that he was wrong to read her diary. That it was a place where she could work through her emotions in privacy.

I don't see this scenario as much different.
This man thought he was alone. He wasn't aggressively calling her a cunt he was expressing his annoyance whilst thinking he was alone. This is not something he would have chosen to say to her face.

My partner of 14 years called me this last year during an argument, I sat him down a day after, cried and told him calmly if he ever called me that again it was over and I meant it.

I called my husband a cunt to his face but matter of factly helpfully pointing out he was being one in case he didn't realise.

We are still together and very happy

And what is that something?

Jaysus, what an overreaction.

is it usually part of his vocabulary? if yes then chill out its only a word

if he doesnt ever say it then maybe yes id read into it a bit more

i personally use the word a lot (i work in a pub and its very common there and not always in a horrible way), but for example my sister never ever says it and is horrified by the usage
its very situational in my opinion

I have to agree with you.

It's such a derogatory word for a woman, when used by men.

It's a word I would never use, and maybe I'm a bit prudish ( even though I've been known to swear like a navvy) but I hate how this word has become commonly used.

That’s very sad, can you not leave? no one deserves that abuse, nor should they take it,

He was letting off steam under his breath when angry and he believed you wouldn’t hear. Swearing to ourselves does that, keeps us calm sometimes! The real answer is how he responds if you brought it up. Sorry Iv not time to RTFT so not sure if u did but if he apologised profusely and was gutted you heard that’s onething/ that’s very different to him shrugging it off, if he shrugged it off he may aswell have said it to your face in which case I’d dump.

I think if it was genuinely to himself and you (unfortunately) heard it, it's about the same as reading a diary in my mind - we are all free to think what we want in our own heads. I think if most of us had been heard saying what we mutter to ourselves, we'd feel pretty embarrassed.

Obviously this would be a totally difficult conversation if he'd said it to you, or knowingly within ear shot.

Hope you can enjoy the rest of your holiday.

Everyone is an arsehole occasionally 🙄

I've thought c bomb and am sure I've said it about a loved one but would just say it privately to myself.

It's a bit holier than thou for so many to protest they'd never utter a bad word. I accept that many find the word very unpleasant but it's that unpleasantness that some of us find cathartic when expressing it ( privately to ourselves). 😁
I personally love the c bomb for my own personal private use. It really helps me discharge anger and upset. I am an incredibly empathic person and don't like bullies etc, so I don't think you should judge someone if they use c bomb privately

If he wanted you to hear then I feel a little differently about it. If he called you this in an argument I'd also have an issue with it.

We've all got a dark side with unpleasant elements at times. It's just unfortunate you saw it on this occasion.

However some people use the C word all the time. They probably grew up in house where people were f'ing and blinding all the time

Completely the opposite.

I mean I'm sure for many there where a whole range of other factors.

Me and dh are big cunters! It's just a word and the power is stripped when you use it often. Yes, calling someone names under your breath and flicking the Vs is normal angry, venting behaviour. That word is no different to any others. Maybe he did hate you for a second, so what??

I am stunned at the amount of posters here saying 'this is a dealbreaker,' 'this is the end,' 'LTB!' etc because their husband called them a cunt in the heat of a massive row. No wonder divorce rates are so high if people give up on their marriage for something so ridiculous. Good grief.

waits for the 'I have higher standards, and more respect for myself' type comments! 🙄

You can make your own luck.

If you're unhappy, leaving isn't easy but it's doable.

My ex despised the word. It was something I knew about him for a long time. He wouldn't call his worst enemy it. He said to me so many times. So when he started calling me it. In front of our 2 yo, that was our marriage over. Its less the word, more the disrespect ....contempt, it stood for. That was the issue. Only you can make that judgement.

sadly I’m called that everytime we fight, so daily, I m in envy of everyone lovely husbands who would never used that kind of words, sadly some of us dont have the luck of these amazing DHs , even they looked perfect when we dated or got married …

This

I called my ex far worse during arguments and yes he’s my ex but we didn’t split up over any name calling in the heat of an argument. I wouldn’t be impressed but would I end an otherwise happy (I assume) relationship over being called that? Absolutely not and neither would most here saying they would

I don't know - it depends what sort of language he usually uses. Neither DH nor I use the C word and if DH said it about me I'd be really taken aback.
However some people use the C word all the time. They probably grew up in house where people were f'ing and blinding all the time. To them the C word is very much part of their every day language. If my DH often used the C word and I heard him mutter it to himself after an argument, I don't think I'd end the marriage over it.

yes, something about that word that puts it into a different category to other swear words. I can understand why you are upset. This needs to be discussed when things are calmer. Take care

Exactly! I’ve never known why people take such offence to it

Well it was obviously not a fight about nothing for him.