To feel this is the end because he called me a c€&t under his breath

I did - can’t see where she apologised though?

It’s done. See the OP updates

Erm and did you apologise OP? Agree with the poster above.

@RealNewt that sounds as if you really love each other, but I’d gently suggest that you would benefit from a series of couples therapy sessions. It’s not healthy for you to be “bossy” with him, or for him to swallow his feelings and build up resentment about it. Couples therapy (speaking as someone who has done it for years as a Psychologist), shouldn’t be a last resort, or even just when a couple feel unhappy together. It can resolve issues that bother people and lead to much more contentment in the relationship 💐

Well, it was rather rude but not the end of the world......depends what was the row about? Did you criticise his driving, his finesse with a barbecue, his inability to give you an orgasm? If the answer to all this is no, then he is just plain horrid!!!

Get out. He'll keep doing it and if you put up with the disrespect you'll live with the disrespect forever. Trust me.

Cunt and twat have the same meanings though, so which ever one is used out of the two the same meaning applies

This word now seems to be very mainstream. I've been called it numerous times and I'm honestly not that bad!! LOL. Watch the Micky Flanagan routine where he calls it "casual c*ing"

I think although it's a very controversial word it can have different connotations to different people.
In our house it can almost be seen as a jokey term of endearment when our (adult) daughter uses it to her dad😱
It's not the worst insult I could be called (or use) but each to their own

I’d much prefer my partner got their frustration out like that, than sulked. You weren’t supposed to hear it.

Because the words have different meanings?

Most people will use cunt to express a much worse feeling about someone than twat. The whole point of words is they convey meaning

I did this after a row and DH had pissed me off. Walked out the room muttering … hadn’t realised our teen DD was in the next room. “Mum did you just call dad a cunt” …. “NO I wouldn’t do that you’ve misheard.

We’ve been together over 30 years and rarely argue and I don’t even swear that much. Let it go OP, enjoy your hols.

Good post. I agree.

Oh I’ve read it all now! 🤣 “I’d like to report my husband for calling me a c*, please stop investigating all the murders, rapes and theft to arrest and charge him”
this was a joke right? Sarcasm yes?!?

I think what a person says under his breath is his own business.

ps. sorry my post is incoherent.. just out of hospital and very very bad vision .. hope it makes even a little bit of sense 🙃

OP- it’s ALL about context .. some people say this word as ‘banter’ and if they’re ok with that then it’s no problem to anyone else really.

If he said it in a silly ‘sing song’ voice while sighing etc then it was said (imo) like ‘i’ve had enough ,, good night’

If he was drunk /tipsy (only say this cause you’re on holiday ) then drunk could be a factor

if he’s desperately saying this as it’s the ‘straw that broke the camels back’ and just say he’s at the end of his tether and there’s been a build up of him zipping his mouth and this tipped him over the edge and he said it in pure frustration over a build up of things rather then this just being a ‘silly fight over nothing’ as you state

Or he’s never said it and to say it in a serious tone /voice (only you can be the judge of that ) then he hates you

if you think it’s the latter i’d try to make the most of the holiday as NO good will come from ‘talking it over’ while on a lovely probably expensive trip

if it still bothers you or festers at you though when you’re back try writing him an email and/or a verbal frank cinvsrsration .. see how you both genuinely feel about each other .. dont make permanent decisions based on temporary feelings or emotions

this day and age is do common to go to couples counselling .. it’s really no different from hiring a personal trainer for an hour here and there

don’t throw in the towel (just yet) and just for now while you’re on holiday when /if you feel like you wanna vent /go mad it question him have a quick plan B .. you’ve gotta call your mum , you wanna check the girly market stalls and boutiques for window shopping or buying gifts , you wanna go to the indoor pool to get some exercise lengths in as the outdoor pool too noisy busy .. you want to take some she if pictures on your camera/iphone, get stuck into a book ..ANYTHING ! and chances are you’ll be less annoyed as the time passes

always play the long game op .. you’re not doing it for him you’re doing it for you to have a nice end of the holiday and no bad memories of arguments

and lastly remember what’s others say about you says more about THEM then it does YOU .. so this is much easier said then done but try with all your might to not take what anyone says or thinks of you PERSONALLY as what they say and think lies with them and is none of our business. have a wonderful holiday op

Sounds awful 😣 hope things get better for you!

Weird. Having a ''relationship'' is not like having a job, you don't have to have a shit relationship until you get a better relationship. I think some women get this confused.

Hear hear! I think men get this confused too though tbf the amount of men I’ve met who are still living with their partner/wife while looking for a new girlfriend is crazy lol

again this is why when some women claim their partners have suddenly left them they don’t realise the man has been planning it for a while

If my husband ever used the c word I would be referring him to GP and MH team .
Have been married for 35 years and he has never sworn or even remotely been grumpy.Yes maybe a bit stressy but not intimidating.

I’m pretty sure that making abusive comments aimed at somebody’s immutable characteristics is a hate crime, I would see about speaking to your local law enforcement and lodging a hate crime complaint. You can’t let him get away with this disgusting sexist abuse.

Yeah I agree with this.

I suspect this is the tip of the iceberg and if OP digs deeper she’ll find there’s other things he’s annoyed about but isn’t expressing his feelings which are building up.

And it’s definitely not a leap . Every day on Mumsnet there’s a various threads and posts with women declaring their husband or long term partner has “suddenly” declared they’ve had enough. But as they reflect more they see there were little signs of growing irritation they didn’t pick up on.

Only the daft c*ts 😅, the good c*ts would never 🤣