Unwarranted shortening of people's names

I have a foreign name. 3 syllables. People shorten it to my initial because they are unfamiliar with it and cba to learn it.

A lot of people I know with foreign names shorten or Anglicise them to Sid or Annie or whatever. It enrages me, really. The names have meaning. They have no meaning if you shorten them.

I prefer the shortened version of my name.
I hate being called Danielle because, living in Brum, people pronounce it with 2 syllables rather than 3! It’s got a bloody I in it!
what gets me is when people shorten my shorter version. So they call me Dan- only my mom can do that 😂

I always call people by what they introduce themselves as. I know a Stephen who hates being called Steve and a Marie who prefers Maz.
It’s down to personal preference.

i have a name that always gets shortened and I bloody hate it! The shortened version is horrible.
Anyone else I know with the same name seem fine with it being shortened and introduce themselves by the shortened version where as I always say my actual name- it’s only 6 letters/2 syllables so not a very long name or anything.

if I introduce myself as name and someone then shortens it, they immediately in my mind get a black line against them.

Ha! This is a pet peeve of mine. My name has 5 letters. It's not a name that you shorten but random people I barely know do.

Similar to being called Amber and calling me Ambs.

Yabu.im sure they're just trying to be friendly.However, you certainly can say I prefer you to call me the long version of my name.

A friend of mine was called Louise she said her mum told her they had called her that because they didn't want a name that people would shorten. Err....... 😂

I miss people using my shortened name - I don’t see the people that do enough and they are from when I was young! I wouldn’t mind if work colleagues did but it’s just a shortening not an entirely different name as some nicknames are.

My mum has dementia but one thing she never forgets is to tell people not to use Betty - "I haven't been Betty since I was a little girl". Doubly annoying is that this is care workers who have been told what her name is. It's patronising.

Another one here who hates having her name shortened. I introduce myself with my full name and if people immediately shorten it, I tell them firmly with a smile that that isn't my name. Someone once said, "Oh, I know another Elizabeth and she's always called Lizzie." (not my actual name). So what? Only my brother and a few of his friends call me by a short version. Husband has never called me anything but my full name, and nor have I ever shortened his, though other people do.

I don't think people should automatically shorten a name without that being the name the person wants to be known by, although it doesn't bother me personally a huge amount.

I have what I consider a very nice two syllable name with two potential and often used "shortenings" (which are both also two syllables, and also quite nice), but I have never used them myself and hardly anybody else has ever tried, maybe I just don't come across as either of them! There was one man I worked with who called me by one of them, which I didn't actually mind as a bit of a change but I wouldn't have wanted everyone to.

When I started uni there were a lot of public school/ boarding school types who took it as read that you MUST have a shortening of your name or go by some kind of nickname, and as I didn't use either of the two appropriate nicknames I ended up as just my first syllable, which I find a bit odd but have gone with it. I used to sign myself as it to friends but increasingly forget to do so!

People do this to me. Equivalent of if my name was Gabriella they call me Gab. I hate it, it’s not my name.

husband had it in his last workplace too - they shortened his very common name with common nickname to just a sound, think Gareth to Ga. It was so weird. But they were weird.

My DD1 has a very short name and the nickname version is longer. It drives her mad when people use the nickname version and will tell them that's not her name. Only person who gets away with it is her gran.

I wouldn't consider Jules to be on the same level of familiarity as Boo and Tatty? Jules is a perfectly normal shortening just as some prefer Sam or Dan or Katie etc.

I have an 8 letter name that has a shortened version that in my opinion doesn’t sound particularly like my actual name. And some people instantly shorten it to it. It drives me insane!

once when I started a new job they asked me if I was called that name? I said no I wasn’t and then they asked me if I was sure!

The other shortened option does feel better but you have to have known me since secondary school for me to feel comfortable about it!

I have a long classic name with many shortened versions. No one calls me by the long name, not even my parents. I go by one short version at work and to people I don’t know well, and a diminutive version with friends and family only. Any other versions of the name have “little girl” connotations (I’m 51) and cannot stand people playing about with them, especially in a work context. It’s extremely belittling and I have just refused to answer if people keep on. I’ve told them my preference now just bog off!

I was given a name that can't be shortened, so it gets lengthened (stick 'y' on the end). I like it, it's affectionate and friendly.

Obviously if you don't respond to a shortening you'll have to tell whoever uses it. I've been asked to stop saying Dave to a David, I remembered most of the time from then on.

I’m the total opposite, I hate people using my full name, it makes me feel like I’m being told off.

Actually my mum gets away with shortening my name, but only because she's the only one who has ever done it consistently. Usually it's "do you want tea, sturn?" and both DH and I answer, then she gets frustrated because we have both spoken at once 🙄😂

Yanbu. Ds1 hates the shortened version of his name. He got called it a lot when he was younger but now he is almost 18, most people call him by his full name.

Ds5 has a name that sounds similar to another name and people call him the shortened version of the other name all the time. Drives both him and me mad. This is why I didn't want that name for him, but DH has been wanting that name since DS2 so I eventually let him have it for DS5. DS5 has started introducing himself like this (not his actual name but similar). Hello, my name is Jonathan, that's JONathan. Don't call me Jim, nobody calls me Jim, because it's not my name.

I have a two syllable name that's vaguely unisex with a common shortening that's usually a male name, my husband's name too.

It bugs me when people shorten my name, but if they're speaking to me I tend to completely ignore the shortened version unless they're looking right at me and making it clear that they're talking to me; not because I'm purposely ignoring it, but because after many years of being around my husband I subconsciously don't respond to people saying the shortened version as they're rarely talking to me! It doesn't happen often as people who know me know my husband's name 🤷‍♀️

My six-letter name is only two syllables. It's not bloody hard to pronounce, but I get people shortening it to the first syllable, or dropping the "s" sound at the end (which turns it into the male version of the name) or adding an "a" sound, which is a different version of it altogether. I'm not sure which annoys me the most - probably the first-syllable one, because it sounds like they are assuming an intimacy they don't have.

God yes, this really annoys me. My friends call me by a shortened version of my name, and it is a very familiar shortening, so not a "name" in its own right (like Sue vs Susan, it's more Mags vs Margaret).

My Mum also felt really strongly about any shortening of her name. I remember being so, so angry when the macmillan nurse repeatedly referred to her by a shortened version when mum was days from dying (I did correct her).

A few of my old friends call me by a nickname. I don’t love it but it’s fine.

One time, at a noisy party, they were calling my nickname and I didn’t hear a thing. Then one of them said my actual name and I heard it and spun round immediately! It’s like I was in tune for hearing my proper name but not nickname. So this is definitely a thing!

YANBU. I think it's terribly rude.

Some people automatically call DD1 a shortened version of her name and it drives her insane. She hates it!

On the other hand, DD2 is known by a shortened version of her name and it drives her insane when people call her the long version 😃.

I just call people what they introduce themselves as.

I have a long name I like one shortening but not the other I correct people if they do it more than once, so if your name is Victoria and they are calling your Vicki just say its Victoria and then carry on answering them .