Unwarranted shortening of people's names

@SaviourofSchoolUniform · Today 12:20

I think it's a bit precious tbh. I'll call people what I like thanks

Well go ahead then. Don't call me my proper name. Don't expect me to respond to you though.

YANBU. I hate this too @Tiredallthetimeneedsleep

My DD has a 2 syllable name, just 2, and yet some people shorten to just the first syllable. So for example, if it was 'Kayleigh,' they say 'Kayles.' Does my head in. Not everyone does it but some do.

Some people do it to me too. Eg, my name is Tracey and people call me 'Trace.' ARGH annoying!

Why? What's the point of having names at all if we just call people whatever we like?

And on the flip side I also dislike when people use a shortened name for an actual name.

I’d say it’s far more precious to think you should choose what someone else is called

I have a seven letter, four syllable name. It is never shortened.

Two people have tried. MIL, once. A wanky professor at work, once.

I think it's a bit precious tbh. I'll call people what I like thanks

YANBU

My name has 2 possible shortened versions. I only ever go by one of those. The other one I am not keen on. Colleagues still write down the latter one.

So rude!! YANBU. I specifically named my DC very short names which can't really be shortened so they don't have to put up with this

I'm the other way, I hate my full name and won't respond to it. The only person that calls me it is an auntie. She refuses to call me the shortened version but wants me to call her the shortened version of her name, so I refuse.

Somone at my work not only shortens my name but they add an extra letter to it! ..Think as an example if my name is Elizabeth and they send me emails calling me Lizz.. 😶

I hate being called by my full name, and always introduce myself by the shortened version. In return, I make a point of using the name that anyone uses to introduce themself. But please just tell them what name you’d like them to call you by. Most people are pretty amenable, with simple communication.

My husband “Robert” does not like being called Robert, prefers Rob. But introduces him self as Robert so then that’s what people call him?! I don’t get it?! Asked him why, “Rob sounds chavvy”.

Not called Robert, but name is shortened in the same way

i prefer a shortened version of my name which has only two letters however people insist on calling me my full 6 letter name and I always feel like I’m in trouble at school. I don’t think my husband has ever called by my full name, he might not even know what it is!

I think it's best to call people what they prefer.

I hate my full first name and go by a nickname/shortening with everyone I know, and even in my own head. My actual name is an awkward mouthful and I use the end of it - like, Ana from Victoriana.

Only one ex colleague, a loathsome assistant head who had it in for me, used to call me by my full first name at my last school. Everyone else has always got it right, my whole career.

Now at my current school they changed my email label to my preferred name (without asking, but I'm so glad they did! Someone must have tipped off IT)

So if this affects you at work, I'd look into changing your email, name badges etc. It makes such a difference

DS is Joseph. People invariably call him Joe. Normally he politely replies with " my name is Joseph" but some people wont listen.
He once got a detention for eventually refusing to answer to a teacher persistently calling him Joe,even after he had asked that his actual name be used.
Teacher's response was " I'll call you what I like,boy!"

However I must admit that his adored,and recently deceased grandmother,called him " Cake brain"

I don't particularly object to my name being shortened but I'm just one of those people who always gets the full version. I find it more offensive when someone who I have never met in real life addresses me in an email with the diminutive of my name.
Once a colleague answered my phone in the office and someone asked for me using the shortened version - she just told them no one of that name worked there and put the phone down!

I hate names being shortened.
I hate being called Lou

My kids all have four letter names that can't be shortened at all

People always have and always will shorten names.

Quote Richard Gere's line in 'Pretty Woman' when Julia Roberts asks if she can call him Eddie, he says 'Not if you want me to answer'. I would develop selective deafness any time anyone used a shortened version of my name then just go 'Oh, were you talking to me? That's not what I answer to'

It doesn’t bother me at all, people shorten my name all the time, most of the time I don’t even notice.

Why does being friends with someone make you think it's tiresome to use their, or worse their children's, proper name? Doesn't strike me as very friendly finding it too much effort to say their name.

Mine is shorter, and still gets shortened. I hate it .

I really hate it and do find it rude. I always correct people now
i let people away with it at school none of whom I’m in touch with but they would probably still use shortened version.

what iv found though is that there is a pattern, people who shorten my name also are the type who are not great in other ways or rude or cf’s etc especially the ones who do it after a polite request not to.
personally I think it’s indicative that they are more than likely just a bit of an all round arsehole.

Nah I really couldn't give a shit, my sons name gets shortened all the time, I'm not that precious over it to get annoyed by it. I'm sure when he is older, he will go with whatever he prefers anyway, whether it's his full birth name or shortened version. Same applies to my own name, I dislike being called my full name, and always sign off emails at work as the short version, but people who don't know me still insist on addressing me by my full name. However i dont get annoyed about it, It looks like I'm in a minority though with my opinions.