If you moved house frequently as a child

I think moving children around a schools regularly is selfish to be honest. Being the new kid is tough, why would you actively want them to do that when instead you and your husband can enjoy your lovely home and work normal jobs?

I agree with your relatives, money isnt everything. You need enough but I wouldn't be destabilising my children's childhoods for it.

Circumstances meant we moved a few times when the DC were of primary school age, which also meant changing schools.
They asked us not to move them from their senior schools, so we didn't.
We moved house once, but within the area.

Mine is a different scenario as I had to move hundreds of miles away but I'll never quite forgive my mum for making me do it.

This is so far from the kind of childhood I aspired my children to have I am struggling to get past the concept. Most people prefer calm and settled homes to raise their children. Ones where they make friends, secure attachments and feel safe.

You will be distracted, busy parents for the most precious parts of their lives, why would you do that? Living in constant building works is stressful and dangerous to toddlers. The moves are disruptive. There is no upside at all apart from making a bit of money - but what are the costs and sacrifices?

Moved often up until age of 11 (every 18 months - 2 years). No adverse impact at all. Great relationship with parents.

I do think it was easy because DPs made every move seem exciting, leading to something new and better. It's only as an adult I now appreciate their skill in helping us adjust.

If you’re staying in same town I don’t think it matters to much, but if constantly changing schools kids hate that.

We moved a lot and I always envied friends who hadn’t. You could feel the layers of love built up over the years in their homes.

I went to 5 primary schools and lived in 10 different addresses by the time I was 16.
The moves were far apart and due to a wider picture of family of chaos..

I've definitely been left with issues as a result of the instability which for years I thought was just me being a bit odd. But from reading this thread I realise it's not. I find answering the 'where are you from?' question uncomfortable and I don't form attachments in the way others do.

I notice it more now that my DCs are teens. The depth of their friendships as a result of knowing people for so long is so different to mine.

i was an only child during that time of our lives and my mom was my best friend.
so the fact that her and my dad couldn't make up their minds where to live wasn't that bad. i adapted well moved at ages 3, 6, 9, and 11.
i don't remember much about the move at 3 but remember the home from the age of 5+, at 11 i knew we had found our community but i knew the home/an apartment was 100% temporary (although it lasted until i left home/finished college). my brother was born when i was 11 yrs, and he only lived in the apartment till about 8 yrs of age then the same home with my parents till 30+.

I lived in 6 places (all far away from each other) between birth and age 7, 3 of those I was in different schools for, and 1 a preschool. However from starting year 3 at age 7, then stayed in the same house/school until I left for uni. No major building works involved until the last move, although a fair amount of DIY and decorating.

As a shy only child I have been surprised at enjoying it all overall. I remember being excited by new moves and enjoying the activity and excitement. I didn't mind moving schools as it seemed quite normal. I was perhaps lucky as I remember experiencing a lot of kindness from other children at my new schools who approached and befriended or looked after me, rather than bullying me.

I also find I have very vivid memories and can remember quite a lot back to age 4 as memories are easily placeable in my timeline based on where they were, compared to friends who lived in one place who find it difficult to pinpoint when a memory took place or how old they were in it.

On the other hand I did really appreciate having a home, forming roots and not moving schools from age 7. That's where I am 'from' when asked.

I do wonder in hindsight whether the moving around contributed to me generally getting on well with anyone and everyone, but mainly having acquaintances or situational friends, or if that's just down to my personality.

I do have some friends who I've known since school, and feel I was able to get the best of both worlds.

Moved regularly but overall fine. I think the moving schools end was the harder bit as it did disrupt my education. I liked the moving bit and getting a new room.

We moved house a lot, I went to 2 primary schools, 3 secondary schools and 2 colleges. Moved due to Dads job. I realise now that we didn't have a whole lot of choice - we tried a couple of times for Dad to commute/stay near work Mon-Fri but it didn't work long term.

I hated it at the time, so swore unless absolutely desperate, I wouldn't move house frequently with children.

A money making idea that involves such huge disruption to family life is not a good one.

I did.
It negatively effected me in an extreme way.
I was an only child though. It might be better if you have siblings.
I had a very strained relationship with my parents. Left home at 16.
I would never move my children unless absolutely necessary.

I had been to at least 6 primary schools and had moved house more than 10 times before the age of 10.
I don’t remember it affecting me as such but I do remember being “the new girl”
I also remember not really having friends outside of school because I was never in one place long enough to form them, so there wasn’t a lot of playing outside or going to the park etc with the neighbour kids because I never knew them.

it must have had some effect though as I remember when I was getting to the point of moving up to high school being very adamant and insisting strongly but politely (because I wanted it to be taken seriously) that I didn’t care how many house moves we did or how long my bus journey would be but that once I started high school I didn’t want to move schools again. Mum looked very surprised! But ultimately it must have worked because we did move house several times but I didn’t move schools!

to be honest they are young yet but once they get older and start forming proper friendships you are going to need to have some thoughts on how moving will impact them

also I should add though that my parents divorced when I was very young so while everything I said is true it’s also true that my father lived in a different town (from my mother so couldn’t be there during the week) but in the same house my whole childhood.
as it was rural I didn’t have any child friends there but unlike a lot of other posters I always had a tether to one place with the same neighbours and my father’s friendship group every weekend and holiday and I think it was a safety net because I definitely didn’t have that at my mothers.

I have no childhood friends really, never stayed at a school long enough to make any lasting ones, I hated moving around so much , It definitely impacted me socially. If you’re planning to do this is stay within the same area so they don’t have to move schools

We moved every two years & it has impacted massively. Being shy it was so hard always being the outsider & having no shared history . I hated it . Friendship groups were already formed & trying to make friends was awful . Even now I feel like an outsider all the time . Moving so often was I think the thing that has shaped me most as an adult .

My Dad kept moving every few years for his career/he was bored.
I hated it. Moving school was never great. Moving away from my grandparents broke my heart.
As an adult, I can see how intensely selfish my Dad especially was in his decisions.
I've lived in the same house for 20 years.

At the age of 50 I'm never fully confident which vowel sounds are going to come out of mouth! I sometimes surprise myself.

Totally understand what pos have said about the 'where did you grow up?' question.

And the not keeping childhood friends point.

My parents divorced when I was little and between them I moved house 16 times by the time I was 16. I stayed at the same school but had to travel quite far to get to it so never got to walk with friends or join clubs nearby. I have a good relationship with my parents but I did hate moving, I never felt like a bedroom was ‘mine’ and I never felt settled anywhere because I knew we’d be moving again soon. I was always really envious of friends who had the same house all their childhood.

Almost exactly this. With stable parents and financial security it's probably very different!

Sounds an excellent idea. Kids are resilient.