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To find what’s happened to Michael Mosley quite anxiety provoking

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Glasto73lover · 10/06/2024 18:14

It’s that idea of never really knowing what’s going to happen- the idea that we walk such a fine line in life. If you think too much about it, you probably wouldn’t leave the house.!

A close family member died suddenly and tragically a decade ago - literally dropped dead at home age 48 - something went pop in their head. So you genuinely don’t know when your time is up.

It’s that idea of a chain of consequence that can go so horribly wrong too- people always say ‘oh but you could get hit by a bus’ - stuff like this actually makes me really anxious. So many what ifs.

For Michael Moseley - a chain of probably inconsequential decisions may have led to his death- not having a phone on him, choosing to undertake a walk that in the U.K. is nothing but in that heat, was devastating and probably caused his death.

It makes me anxious that I won’t know if I am making those decisions - am I making sense? I think as I have got older, I have become more anxious and risk averse (thanks menopause) and as a result, you could end up not leaving the house. How do you choose a sensible approach? Not too much risk but some!

But I also want to live my life too!! I guess I find incidents like this quite difficult!

I guess always having a phone, not undertaking walks in intense heat in an unfamiliar place etc are the common sense points that will come out of this tragedy.

Aibu to find it anxiety provoking tho?!

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Forfuckssaketheearthisnotflat · 11/06/2024 23:32

MidnightMeltdown · 11/06/2024 23:00

I think it's unlikely that he fell or collapsed. From what I've read, he was found lying on his back, with his hand on his chest, and his feet up on a rock.

It seems to me that this was intentional. Lying with your feet elevated above the heart is medical advice for heatstroke. If he fell or collapsed I don't think that he would have been in this position.

It just gets more and more upsetting, looks like he really tried to save himself, that poor poor man. I feel so dreadfully sorry for his wife and family the trauma they must be going through I can’t begin to imagine, it’s bad enough when your husband/parent dies but in such tragic and possibly avoidable circumstances is utterly heartbreaking.

kc431 · 11/06/2024 23:25

Strawberriesaregoingoff · 11/06/2024 23:20

You've just been lucky and you're young....

Thing is the mountains I hiked in mid-summer heat were RAMMED with tourists of all ages, up to 60-70. No-one was collapsing or dropping dead, though I guess it was safer as everywhere was lots of people and shops selling food/water. But so many millions people do this sort of thing and are fine, I don’t think what’s happened to him is normal.

Rubbishconfession · 11/06/2024 23:21

time4anothername · 11/06/2024 23:07

A detailed description of what is on the beach bar CCTV is described by Joe Inwood from the BBC in a report that is up on the BBC news page. That CCTV has been shown to a group of reporters but thankfully not released.

Thanks, do you mean this one?

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/videos/cydd97gz9jgo

Joe doesn’t mention any pacing up and down.

ByCupidStunt · 11/06/2024 23:20

BreatheAndFocus · 11/06/2024 19:15

I can’t remember if this has already been posted here but this is a description from someone who had heatstroke:

https://www.outsideonline.com/health/wellness/heat-stroke-signs-symptoms/

It can affect anyone and it can come on quickly. You can suddenly go from feeling a bit off to feeling very ill. Whether MM had heatstroke or not, this is important information to know. I had heat exhaustion once and that was bad enough. I felt very sick and dizzy.

And yes, you can get it in the U.K.

@BreatheAndFocus Thank you so very much for putting that link to the article in. That is, hands down, one of the best articles I've read for years. So well written and well researched, the author has really done a great job there. We could do with a lot more journalism like that.

Strawberriesaregoingoff · 11/06/2024 23:20

kc431 · 11/06/2024 23:18

I think it’s really harsh to call a deceased person stupid/dangerous for walking in a hot country. Loads of people routinely do that on holidays, otherwise the Great Wall would be shut all summer lol! Or people would be dropping dead on it like flies.

Maybe it’s because I’m always cold if it’s under 25 degrees, and I love hot weather….but I’ve gone for all-day mountain hikes, climbed the Great Wall of China, done a 30km bike ride and various other walks in 30-35 degree midday heat. With 1 water bottle, no sunscreen and no walking boots either. Never had heatstroke, heat exhaustion or any symptoms other than mild back sweat. I guess it is a lot worse in your 60s than 20s though. And 40 degrees is probably significantly worse than 30-35. But I’m a bit shocked it’s so easy to die like this as I wouldn’t think twice about going on a hike in a nice hot country on holiday. It makes me think maybe he had a heart attack or other sudden medical event?

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You've just been lucky and you're young....

kc431 · 11/06/2024 23:18

I think it’s really harsh to call a deceased person stupid/dangerous for walking in a hot country. Loads of people routinely do that on holidays, otherwise the Great Wall would be shut all summer lol! Or people would be dropping dead on it like flies.

Maybe it’s because I’m always cold if it’s under 25 degrees, and I love hot weather….but I’ve gone for all-day mountain hikes, climbed the Great Wall of China, done a 30km bike ride and various other walks in 30-35 degree midday heat. With 1 water bottle, no sunscreen and no walking boots either. Never had heatstroke, heat exhaustion or any symptoms other than mild back sweat. I guess it is a lot worse in your 60s than 20s though. And 40 degrees is probably significantly worse than 30-35. But I’m a bit shocked it’s so easy to die like this as I wouldn’t think twice about going on a hike in a nice hot country on holiday. It makes me think maybe he had a heart attack or other sudden medical event?

Riversideandrelax · 11/06/2024 23:11

Marinade · 10/06/2024 19:02

I am sure he would. He was very good at leveraging lots of things to commercialise them to his benefit: the intermittent fasting he was so good at promoting was developed by an oncologist called Professor Tony Howells who got minimal credit from Michael Mosley. I am not a fan and I cannot get worked up about this, he made some deeply flawed decisions and these were all within his gift to manage and control had he applied even a basic level of common sense. There is nothing worthy about leaving your phone at home to soak up the authentic Greek island you are visiting if it means you are not contactable to disasterous effects.

Michael Mosley's plan was developed a lot from the original 2 day diet which was developed by Dr Michelle Harvie in collaboration with Professor Howells.

time4anothername · 11/06/2024 23:07

Rubbishconfession · 11/06/2024 23:01

I haven’t seen anywhere that he was pacing back and forth.

A detailed description of what is on the beach bar CCTV is described by Joe Inwood from the BBC in a report that is up on the BBC news page. That CCTV has been shown to a group of reporters but thankfully not released.

Rubbishconfession · 11/06/2024 23:01

Disturbia81 · 11/06/2024 21:50

@Calliopespa No worries, I know it's just so awful. I'm so sad about it, especially as he was so close. And that he was pacing back and forth for half an hr around that bar when he could have got to the bar entrance in that time, just shows his state of mind and confusion. I feel sick thinking about it

I haven’t seen anywhere that he was pacing back and forth.

MidnightMeltdown · 11/06/2024 23:00

Wheresyourvote · 11/06/2024 17:45

We don’t even know how he died yet do we? Speculation is due to the heat but that does that not seem unlikely considering it was so soon after he left his group? Maybe he had a heart attack, or fell…

I think it's unlikely that he fell or collapsed. From what I've read, he was found lying on his back, with his hand on his chest, and his feet up on a rock.

It seems to me that this was intentional. Lying with your feet elevated above the heart is medical advice for heatstroke. If he fell or collapsed I don't think that he would have been in this position.

Riversideandrelax · 11/06/2024 22:57

TempestTost · 11/06/2024 22:41

It's not that he wouldn't be comfortable with a phone.

But even at my age, in my late 40s, I spent much of my life, including my childhood, doing all kinds of things without being tied to a phone.

What's more, all the exciting things like hiking across Europe or going on a wilderness trip or flying to Thailand were all done without a mobile, and often very poor long distance phone service. My father used to be a sailor and could not be contacted for months, except possibly when in port.

I am actually a little perplexed that so many people find the idea of going anywhere without a phone so "risky". These things didn't become more dangerous because cell phones are available.

Even the telling your rout thing - yes, it can be a good idea. But it's often not full-proof because plans change. My husband was away last year on a long canoe trip for two weeks. Of course no cell service, but he did leave a map of where he expected to be. However, about a week into the trip he had to change his plan significantly due to floods.

I think society has actually become mentally ill in terms of risk aversion.

And MM didn't follow his route. He was going to walk to Pedi and then get the bus. Initially, it was thought something had happened on the walk to Pedi and then they were looking along the route to Simi town. He'd actually gone in the opposite direction.

Rubbishconfession · 11/06/2024 22:54

Riversideandrelax · 11/06/2024 21:54

He went the wrong way. He didn't plan a long walk up a mountain.

It looks so easy on the maps but I imagine those beige, rocky paths all look the same to non-locals.

Riversideandrelax · 11/06/2024 22:53

Also people saying he couldn't be contacted to disastrous effects. He died within 2.5 hours and seemingly very quickly once he'd reached the spot he died on. It wasn't like he was lying there alive for hours when he could have been contacted and the alert raised.

TempestTost · 11/06/2024 22:41

notacooldad · 11/06/2024 14:40

MM don’t have a phone with him to take, clearly didn’t imagine he would need it, and due to his age would have been perfectly used to walking without it.
It was not due to his age that he didn't have one. He's 67, mobile phones have been around for 30 years !
He was an advocate of walking without your mobile to enjoy living in the moment. I listened to that on one's of his podcasts.

It's not that he wouldn't be comfortable with a phone.

But even at my age, in my late 40s, I spent much of my life, including my childhood, doing all kinds of things without being tied to a phone.

What's more, all the exciting things like hiking across Europe or going on a wilderness trip or flying to Thailand were all done without a mobile, and often very poor long distance phone service. My father used to be a sailor and could not be contacted for months, except possibly when in port.

I am actually a little perplexed that so many people find the idea of going anywhere without a phone so "risky". These things didn't become more dangerous because cell phones are available.

Even the telling your rout thing - yes, it can be a good idea. But it's often not full-proof because plans change. My husband was away last year on a long canoe trip for two weeks. Of course no cell service, but he did leave a map of where he expected to be. However, about a week into the trip he had to change his plan significantly due to floods.

I think society has actually become mentally ill in terms of risk aversion.

Disturbia81 · 11/06/2024 22:40

@Thisoldheartofmine I know but they say it's on the cctv and everythings been true so far hasn't it 😥
@SallyWD Yes there is so much analysis now, and that photo keeps popping up on twitter so it's hard to get it out of my head. All the details are so upsetting. At the same time a small part of me understands the dangers so much more now than if it was a sanitised "man dies of heatstroke" story. That would be blissful ignorance.
But now I will definitely be more sensible in the sun and will advise others of the same. Even in death he is helping people. I can't stop watching videos of him talking, he was such a good human!

Upinthenightagain · 11/06/2024 22:24

Yes I very similar thoughts to you op. Thought I was being weird

SallyWD · 11/06/2024 22:22

Disturbia81 · 11/06/2024 21:50

@Calliopespa No worries, I know it's just so awful. I'm so sad about it, especially as he was so close. And that he was pacing back and forth for half an hr around that bar when he could have got to the bar entrance in that time, just shows his state of mind and confusion. I feel sick thinking about it

I just wish we hadn't been told all these details. We only needed to know that he'd died on holiday, probably due to heatstroke.
We know far too many details and I've found it really upsetting. It's horrible.

Riversideandrelax · 11/06/2024 22:13

crackofdoom · 10/06/2024 18:43

As a solitary walker this has, indeed, given me food for thought.

I've had numerous "getting- lost-and-ending-up- scrabbling- up-a-tiny-goat-path-on-the-side-of-a-cliff" moments. Nobody's going to find you if you're in the undergrowth way off the path.
You do hear about lost walkers, quite regularly. I did a 14 mile walk on Exmoor last weekend (which also involved getting spectacularly lost, ending up with barbed wire cuts and a dozen ticks 😳), which included a massive cliff on the coast path- a nearly sheer drop of 200m. When I got back to the campsite, the farmer took a great deal of relish in telling me about the lone female walker who disappeared there recently. "They had all the helicopters out, but it took them three days to find her body at the foot of the cliff" 😪.

But what can you do, other than take reasonable precautions? Walking gives me such joy, and statistically the chances are that it will lengthen your life rather than the opposite.

I don't really like the holier than thou posters sneering about how stupid MM was. We all make mistakes, and my guess is that he never meant to walk that far. Got lost after Pedi perhaps, dehydration kicked in, he started to get confused...?

Yes, he got lost at Pedi and ended up walking in the opposite direction to their holiday home. Apparently he was going to get the bus back from Pedi so seems something happened at that point.

Thisoldheartofmine · 11/06/2024 22:12

@Disturbia81 please try not to be upset about that report of him pacing up and down by the fence as it may not be a true report
Who would leak such a detail?
I've read 3 different positions he was supposedly found in , honestly you can't believe stuff in the media.

Waitingfordoggo · 11/06/2024 22:00

Me too @Disturbia81. It’s very, very upsetting. I hope his loved ones find ways to cope with those sort of troubling thoughts about his final hours.

I once suffered badly from the heat. I was in NZ, aged 14 and on a Girl Guide Jamboree. It was very very hot and we were camping. I can’t remember what we had been doing on that particular day but there were lots of activities on camp so I might have been exerting myself one way or another. I had probably not drunk enough either. I remember feeling lethargic, confused and weirdly emotional. Nauseous too. My Guide Leaders realised I wasn’t well and I was taken to the First Aid area which was in fact a caravan. There I drank a lot of water and was given snacks. They gave me cold compresses to put in my armpits, back of neck etc. I dozed off in the caravan and remained there for the next 24 hours or so- I slept for most of that time. Was fine afterwards but it was scary at the time, especially as I was so far from home and from my family.

Riversideandrelax · 11/06/2024 21:54

Gettingbysomehow · 10/06/2024 18:23

I feel absolutely furious with him. Quite unreasonably as I don't know him. Why did a medical doctor think it was OK to go for a long walk in 40 degree heat at the height of the day with one very small bottle of water and no phone????
He wasn't young either. He was 67.
Sheer stupidity.
Now his wife is on her own for her whole retirement. He won't see his kids marry or have children.
Older single women as I know very well often get abandoned by their married friends after the husband has gone. It takes time but in couple of years she will be lonely.
The utter stupidity of the whole thing made me feel sick and depressed.

He went the wrong way. He didn't plan a long walk up a mountain.

rewilded · 11/06/2024 21:52

I once had heatstroke while on holiday in Gran Canaria. It was awful. I experienced dizziness, headaches, chills, and vomiting. After being put in a cold shower for a while, I just lay on the cold tiled floor with wet flannels on my head. I was 24 at the time. It wasn’t even that hot that day; I had been swimming in the pool.A holiday romance nursed me back to health.

Another time, I walked up a hill to an ancient site in Turkey. Looking back, it was absolutely ridiculous—it was mid-July, and incredibly hot. I was wearing skimpy clothes. I can't even remember if I had a hat on! I came straight back down again. I was 21 years old.

I haven't really learned my lesson as on holiday recently I walked daily for 50 mins in 30 degree heat albeit on a main road with some parts shaded but still...

I am 50 and still act as if I'm in my 20s fitness wise. When I excercise I can't walk, swim or run slowly.

I will definitely alter my behaviour now for sure. I can see how this happened it is a certain personality type.

Rest in peace Michael Mosley. You really were an inspiration. Thinking of his family at this very sad time.

Disturbia81 · 11/06/2024 21:50

@Calliopespa No worries, I know it's just so awful. I'm so sad about it, especially as he was so close. And that he was pacing back and forth for half an hr around that bar when he could have got to the bar entrance in that time, just shows his state of mind and confusion. I feel sick thinking about it

UnctuousUnicorns · 11/06/2024 21:45

My mum told me of the time she was holidaying on either Cyprus or Cephalonia, I forget which one; this was years ago. Anyway, she had been lying on a sun lounger just a short distance from her and Dad's appartment. She ended up with what was termed by her as "a touch of the sun", and ended up wandering around for a considerable time, trying to find their appartment. She was okay in the end, but it really shook her up. Strong sun and heat can completely confuse and disorientate someone, even if they would normally know their bearings and where they were. It can creep up on someone before they're aware of it.

Calliopespa · 11/06/2024 21:41

Disturbia81 · 11/06/2024 21:26

@Calliopespa For me it was the most intense nausea I've ever had, felt like it was waves through my body. Headache like it was going to explode, dizzy, sharp stomach pain. I wanted to be sick and shit myself at the same time. And my skin felt cooked and painful. I couldn't move from the spot I was in without being lifted up. It crept up on me so suddenly. Just can't imagine being in my late 60s and navigating a rocky steep landscape while feeling like that 😢

Thanks. No the description of him trying to get down ( presumably to the bar) is heartbreaking.

I heard he was beside the fence - presumably couldn’t get in. It’s just so sad : he was so brave and so vulnerable all at once. Still only a couple of hours in an otherwise well-lived, useful life in which he has been both loved and respected so I guess it has to be contextualised that way.

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