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To find what’s happened to Michael Mosley quite anxiety provoking

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Glasto73lover · 10/06/2024 18:14

It’s that idea of never really knowing what’s going to happen- the idea that we walk such a fine line in life. If you think too much about it, you probably wouldn’t leave the house.!

A close family member died suddenly and tragically a decade ago - literally dropped dead at home age 48 - something went pop in their head. So you genuinely don’t know when your time is up.

It’s that idea of a chain of consequence that can go so horribly wrong too- people always say ‘oh but you could get hit by a bus’ - stuff like this actually makes me really anxious. So many what ifs.

For Michael Moseley - a chain of probably inconsequential decisions may have led to his death- not having a phone on him, choosing to undertake a walk that in the U.K. is nothing but in that heat, was devastating and probably caused his death.

It makes me anxious that I won’t know if I am making those decisions - am I making sense? I think as I have got older, I have become more anxious and risk averse (thanks menopause) and as a result, you could end up not leaving the house. How do you choose a sensible approach? Not too much risk but some!

But I also want to live my life too!! I guess I find incidents like this quite difficult!

I guess always having a phone, not undertaking walks in intense heat in an unfamiliar place etc are the common sense points that will come out of this tragedy.

Aibu to find it anxiety provoking tho?!

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Calliopespa · 12/06/2024 11:55

Disturbia81 · 12/06/2024 11:49

Definitely more awareness and yes his fame will help spread that message. He's unintentionally going to help a lot of people even in death as he did in life, and I think the adventurous and experimental side of him would be satisfied with that (if it happened a lot later in life though) His contribution to helping people is endless, his videos, his advice, his sad death and his legacy will keep going and helping millions.

I like the fact he’s still educating - and provoking discussion - in death. And I think he’d have liked it too!

Calliopespa · 12/06/2024 11:53

Porageeater · 12/06/2024 11:49

I made a split second stupid decision once that could have resulted in severe injury or death and was lucky for me that it didn’t. I sometimes think about it and it does frighten me because I otherwise would think of myself as an intelligent and sensible person but on that occasion I wasn’t. It is possible that anybody can risk assess things poorly. However we mostly do manage to survive and learn from mistakes and near misses. Like you say OP we would never do anything if we worried about everything.

We all make mistakes.

And we actually don’t know why exactly MM took the decisions he did.

Calliopespa · 12/06/2024 11:51

Allfur · 12/06/2024 11:39

So for those who keep a certain weight for health reasons, not vanity, that shows a certain humility that we are not invincible

I’m sorry I’m still not sure I see it that way.

It’s the sense of powerfulness implied by the fact that keeping a certain weight will dictate things that demonstrates a lack of humility.

Personally I think weight is overhyped as the key to longevity. This is not just my personal observations of older relatives and friends but also a lot of studies indicating that the overweight category on BMI metrics live the longest. This might be complicated ( they are less uptight personality types in the first place etc etc) rather than being driven by the needle on the scales per se. But it’s far from guaranteed that being thin means not dying.

Porageeater · 12/06/2024 11:49

I made a split second stupid decision once that could have resulted in severe injury or death and was lucky for me that it didn’t. I sometimes think about it and it does frighten me because I otherwise would think of myself as an intelligent and sensible person but on that occasion I wasn’t. It is possible that anybody can risk assess things poorly. However we mostly do manage to survive and learn from mistakes and near misses. Like you say OP we would never do anything if we worried about everything.

Disturbia81 · 12/06/2024 11:49

MuseKira · 12/06/2024 10:58

At the end of the day, what happened to MM and all the discussions following it must result in more awareness of the importance of planning, risk evaluation, etc. I'd like to think that ultimately it will lead to fewer people suffering the same kind of problems that MM faced.

I know that the likes of RNLI, mountain rescue, cave rescue, etc., are always telling people to take precautions, plan better, be better equipped, etc., but they never get the same kind of universal coverage that the MM situation has had.

Can only be a good think in the long run.

But as others said right at the start of this thread, perhaps we need to get back to having the public information films that used to be common on TV, i.e. where a bloke talks to his wife "Petunia" and starts waving back to a couple of people in difficulties in a rubber dinghy in the sea! Maybe make them compulsory on youtube, tiktok, facebook and other social media platforms.

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Definitely more awareness and yes his fame will help spread that message. He's unintentionally going to help a lot of people even in death as he did in life, and I think the adventurous and experimental side of him would be satisfied with that (if it happened a lot later in life though) His contribution to helping people is endless, his videos, his advice, his sad death and his legacy will keep going and helping millions.

wombat15 · 12/06/2024 11:48

Allfur · 12/06/2024 11:35

So lifestyle choices are effective then

They don't cure type 2 diabetes but they can put it in remission if it is relatively mild. That not true of most other diseases though.

Calliopespa · 12/06/2024 11:46

Allfur · 12/06/2024 11:43

so no longer being fertile is the beginning of the end for women - so when do mens bodies 'wind down'?

I also mentioned hunting days if you read more closely.

Humans get old.

Allfur · 12/06/2024 11:43

Calliopespa · 12/06/2024 11:00

That’s what I’ve heard. And it makes intrinsic sense too. The human body was designed by nature to wind down in later years, hence menopause etc.

Our hunting days, reproductive days etc to be put behind us. Wisdom however becomes our contribution!

To me it’s acceptance of this cycle of life that constitutes true humility about the human condition.

so no longer being fertile is the beginning of the end for women - so when do mens bodies 'wind down'?

Disturbia81 · 12/06/2024 11:42

Onedaystronger · 12/06/2024 11:30

@Disturbia81 thank you for replying. Maybe for people like you and I it is down to a different way of expressing ourselves.

For me, the so many of the posts sound very harsh and critical. I dislike the tone as to me it sounds really unkind and unfair given that IMO everyone makes the best choice that they can at any time, that he so sadly died and that berating MM's choices in hindsight is nasty.

But maybe that is not how other people feel about being critical, maybe it's not nasty to them.....

Sending you an unmumsnetty hug as I too am really saddened by the loss of such a lovely man.

Back atcha x

Allfur · 12/06/2024 11:39

Calliopespa · 12/06/2024 10:53

I’m not sure I do see it that way.

I’m within healthy weight but if im honest it’s probably more vanity and comfort that would prompt me to maintain it. I wouldn’t describe that as humility.

So for those who keep a certain weight for health reasons, not vanity, that shows a certain humility that we are not invincible

Allfur · 12/06/2024 11:35

wombat15 · 12/06/2024 10:48

He lowered his blood sugar levels with lifestyle rather than drugs but that doesn't mean he was "cured" of type 2 diabetes - the pancreas still wouldn't have been responding as well to blood sugar as it would be in someone without type 2 diabetes. Lifestyle advice is always recommended before starting drug treatment in people with type 2 diabetes and while does initially keep blood sugar levels down the disease usually progresses so that drugs are needed too to keep the sugar levels down.

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So lifestyle choices are effective then

Onedaystronger · 12/06/2024 11:30

@Disturbia81 thank you for replying. Maybe for people like you and I it is down to a different way of expressing ourselves.

For me, the so many of the posts sound very harsh and critical. I dislike the tone as to me it sounds really unkind and unfair given that IMO everyone makes the best choice that they can at any time, that he so sadly died and that berating MM's choices in hindsight is nasty.

But maybe that is not how other people feel about being critical, maybe it's not nasty to them.....

Sending you an unmumsnetty hug as I too am really saddened by the loss of such a lovely man.

godmum56 · 12/06/2024 11:10

TempestTost · 12/06/2024 10:33

Merchant.

It was indeed possible to send a radio message, but generally not done unless something quite serious happened. I have a copy of the telegram they sent when I was born, for example.

We really take connectivity and travel itself for granted, even over land long distance calls then were quite poor quality, and very expensive. People who moved away to a different country quite often might never return again, or perhaps only a few times in their life.

And it was normal for children and teenagers to walk to school and be out and about without any way to contact them.

I suppose I understand that younger people feel anxious about being out of touch though I think it's very mentally unhealthy. But I am always surprised when older people do and talk as if the idea of being out of touch is unthinkable and dangerous. Did they just stay in the house until cell phones were widely available?

oddly (and I am 70) that's not how I remember it 40 years ago. No we didn't phone or telegraph from ships often, but definitely for birthdays and similar occasions. in the early 90's DH and I went to the US with his job and I used to phone my Mum for a chat once a week, also phone the in laws. Yes it wasn't cheap but definitely affordable. the line was always clear and fine. I do think though that "ordinary people" did do less sensationalist things. the clearest example of this is more people climbing Everest, but I also think that generally more people do undertake more extreme activities casually and that part of the reason for this is better safety options including communication. I don't know about younger people being anxious...or older ones. For myself, I find it much more convenient to have my mobile with me when I am out...as anyone who has broken down miles from anywhere (yes its possible in the UK) will tell you. Yes I know that mobile coverage isn't perfect but some is surely better than none? Of course we didn't just stay in doors, that is a silly comment, but if there is a development that increases safety then why deliberately choose not to use it?

wombat15 · 12/06/2024 11:08

TempestTost · 12/06/2024 10:33

Merchant.

It was indeed possible to send a radio message, but generally not done unless something quite serious happened. I have a copy of the telegram they sent when I was born, for example.

We really take connectivity and travel itself for granted, even over land long distance calls then were quite poor quality, and very expensive. People who moved away to a different country quite often might never return again, or perhaps only a few times in their life.

And it was normal for children and teenagers to walk to school and be out and about without any way to contact them.

I suppose I understand that younger people feel anxious about being out of touch though I think it's very mentally unhealthy. But I am always surprised when older people do and talk as if the idea of being out of touch is unthinkable and dangerous. Did they just stay in the house until cell phones were widely available?

There were pay phones everywhere when I was a child and often police men walking about. People weren't choosing to be out of touch. There was just nothing they could do about it. When mobile phones started coming out in the 90s I bought specifically so that I could make a call if the car broke down in the middle of nowhere.

inabubble3 · 12/06/2024 11:08

It’s Really sad. It has made me think that it could happen to anyone. Just popping for a quick walk, you might not think to take your phone etc . Really sad and possibly not a quick passing either x

Calliopespa · 12/06/2024 11:02

MuseKira · 12/06/2024 10:58

At the end of the day, what happened to MM and all the discussions following it must result in more awareness of the importance of planning, risk evaluation, etc. I'd like to think that ultimately it will lead to fewer people suffering the same kind of problems that MM faced.

I know that the likes of RNLI, mountain rescue, cave rescue, etc., are always telling people to take precautions, plan better, be better equipped, etc., but they never get the same kind of universal coverage that the MM situation has had.

Can only be a good think in the long run.

But as others said right at the start of this thread, perhaps we need to get back to having the public information films that used to be common on TV, i.e. where a bloke talks to his wife "Petunia" and starts waving back to a couple of people in difficulties in a rubber dinghy in the sea! Maybe make them compulsory on youtube, tiktok, facebook and other social media platforms.

Edited

It’s true to say I always notice on holiday that Brits rock out in the heat scantily clad where other nationalities tend to scuttle to the shade.

I think we did need a national awakening.

Calliopespa · 12/06/2024 11:00

Waitingfordoggo · 12/06/2024 10:48

I don’t know if science backs it up, but my instinct is that hard cardio exercise is probably more risky the older you get, whereas strength and flexibility work are particularly beneficial the older we get.

I don’t know if that’s the case but it’s what I tell myself as someone approaching 50 who is a cardio-dodger and loves weights and yoga!

That’s what I’ve heard. And it makes intrinsic sense too. The human body was designed by nature to wind down in later years, hence menopause etc.

Our hunting days, reproductive days etc to be put behind us. Wisdom however becomes our contribution!

To me it’s acceptance of this cycle of life that constitutes true humility about the human condition.

MuseKira · 12/06/2024 10:58

At the end of the day, what happened to MM and all the discussions following it must result in more awareness of the importance of planning, risk evaluation, etc. I'd like to think that ultimately it will lead to fewer people suffering the same kind of problems that MM faced.

I know that the likes of RNLI, mountain rescue, cave rescue, etc., are always telling people to take precautions, plan better, be better equipped, etc., but they never get the same kind of universal coverage that the MM situation has had.

Can only be a good think in the long run.

But as others said right at the start of this thread, perhaps we need to get back to having the public information films that used to be common on TV, i.e. where a bloke talks to his wife "Petunia" and starts waving back to a couple of people in difficulties in a rubber dinghy in the sea! Maybe make them compulsory on youtube, tiktok, facebook and other social media platforms.

Disturbia81 · 12/06/2024 10:56

Waitingfordoggo · 12/06/2024 10:48

I don’t know if science backs it up, but my instinct is that hard cardio exercise is probably more risky the older you get, whereas strength and flexibility work are particularly beneficial the older we get.

I don’t know if that’s the case but it’s what I tell myself as someone approaching 50 who is a cardio-dodger and loves weights and yoga!

I've heard weights/yoga/pilates etc are best as you age, which is good as I really hate cardio.

Disturbia81 · 12/06/2024 10:54

Onedaystronger · 12/06/2024 10:47

@Disturbia81, I agree that many people are just really sad that this has happened and feel for his family and friends.

But I have seen a surprising amount of posters being very harsh, critical and judgemental about MM's decisions. It has taken me aback and made me really thoughtful about how many people are comfortable criticising someone who was only human.

True, and yes maybe some things are better left unsaid and just kept in our heads, maybe with it being an anonymous forum we feel we can speak our minds too honestly. I just know my thoughts of "why didn't he do this/why didn't he appreciate the risks etc" are purely driven by sadness and frustration at his pointless death, really loved the chap ☹️ I guess we just need to accept it as a tragedy and stop questioning it

Calliopespa · 12/06/2024 10:53

Allfur · 12/06/2024 10:44

Surely the desire to keep fit and healthy and within a healthy weight range is an example of having humility when it comes to the human condition

I’m not sure I do see it that way.

I’m within healthy weight but if im honest it’s probably more vanity and comfort that would prompt me to maintain it. I wouldn’t describe that as humility.

wombat15 · 12/06/2024 10:48

Allfur · 12/06/2024 10:39

Didn't mm cure his type 2 diabetes by fasting?

He lowered his blood sugar levels with lifestyle rather than drugs but that doesn't mean he was "cured" of type 2 diabetes - the pancreas still wouldn't have been responding as well to blood sugar as it would be in someone without type 2 diabetes. Lifestyle advice is always recommended before starting drug treatment in people with type 2 diabetes and while does initially keep blood sugar levels down the disease usually progresses so that drugs are needed too to keep the sugar levels down.

Waitingfordoggo · 12/06/2024 10:48

I don’t know if science backs it up, but my instinct is that hard cardio exercise is probably more risky the older you get, whereas strength and flexibility work are particularly beneficial the older we get.

I don’t know if that’s the case but it’s what I tell myself as someone approaching 50 who is a cardio-dodger and loves weights and yoga!

Onedaystronger · 12/06/2024 10:47

@Disturbia81, I agree that many people are just really sad that this has happened and feel for his family and friends.

But I have seen a surprising amount of posters being very harsh, critical and judgemental about MM's decisions. It has taken me aback and made me really thoughtful about how many people are comfortable criticising someone who was only human.

Allfur · 12/06/2024 10:44

Calliopespa · 12/06/2024 10:27

I agree with this.

And the reason I speak out is there is a nasty underbelly ( evident on these forums) of blame that accompany these control mindsets. Going to the gym or eating certain foods, above all not being obese- God forbid: those NHS crippling gluttons - will win the day.

Ergo, if you don’t win the day, you brought it on yourself.

And I just don’t think it’s that simple. The oldest people I have known have been little old ladies who never perspired, let alone set foot in a gym, and ate scones every day for afternoon tea. With jam.

A lot of the early demises have been people who did everything they could to stave it off ( including a couple of sad cases of that heart failure during sport: I forget the acronym) .

People just need to have a little more humility about the human condition. And a little more appreciation of each and all of us while we are here.

Surely the desire to keep fit and healthy and within a healthy weight range is an example of having humility when it comes to the human condition