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To find what’s happened to Michael Mosley quite anxiety provoking

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Glasto73lover · 10/06/2024 18:14

It’s that idea of never really knowing what’s going to happen- the idea that we walk such a fine line in life. If you think too much about it, you probably wouldn’t leave the house.!

A close family member died suddenly and tragically a decade ago - literally dropped dead at home age 48 - something went pop in their head. So you genuinely don’t know when your time is up.

It’s that idea of a chain of consequence that can go so horribly wrong too- people always say ‘oh but you could get hit by a bus’ - stuff like this actually makes me really anxious. So many what ifs.

For Michael Moseley - a chain of probably inconsequential decisions may have led to his death- not having a phone on him, choosing to undertake a walk that in the U.K. is nothing but in that heat, was devastating and probably caused his death.

It makes me anxious that I won’t know if I am making those decisions - am I making sense? I think as I have got older, I have become more anxious and risk averse (thanks menopause) and as a result, you could end up not leaving the house. How do you choose a sensible approach? Not too much risk but some!

But I also want to live my life too!! I guess I find incidents like this quite difficult!

I guess always having a phone, not undertaking walks in intense heat in an unfamiliar place etc are the common sense points that will come out of this tragedy.

Aibu to find it anxiety provoking tho?!

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Jaded2023 · 11/06/2024 07:30

Carpe diem - none of us are getting out of here alive !

stopthepigeonstopthepigeon · 11/06/2024 07:22

Gettingbysomehow · 10/06/2024 18:23

I feel absolutely furious with him. Quite unreasonably as I don't know him. Why did a medical doctor think it was OK to go for a long walk in 40 degree heat at the height of the day with one very small bottle of water and no phone????
He wasn't young either. He was 67.
Sheer stupidity.
Now his wife is on her own for her whole retirement. He won't see his kids marry or have children.
Older single women as I know very well often get abandoned by their married friends after the husband has gone. It takes time but in couple of years she will be lonely.
The utter stupidity of the whole thing made me feel sick and depressed.

Hmm
MadameMassiveSalad · 11/06/2024 07:21

You could look at it the other way op and think that you might go at any time, so why not live your best life?

MM could have been sitting in bed and had a heart attack. Maybe it was just his time to go.

Rosejinkyb · 11/06/2024 07:20

What a horrible thread. Hope his wife isn’t a mumsnetter.

I don’t know why any of you are shocked, you just not get out much. Work in trauma or A&E, this happens every day to anyone and everyone.

faffadoodledo · 11/06/2024 07:17

Deathrates in big cities in recent heatwaves have spiked. Climate change will be a factor in many of our deaths if it's not already. My mother died of a catastrophic stroke on the hottest day of the year in 2022. Sure there were other factors (AF and stress of living with my dad who had dementia - and she was refusing help) - but the trigger was the heat. No question. Doctor confirmed it.
Saying there'll be more deaths like MM's due to climate change is not scaremongering. It's fact.

But I get the general anxiety. me and DH are fit. DH is bordering on athlete fit at 63. But MM's death shows that sh_t happens. DH's sister is obese (is a GP) as is her her DH and children. i joke that they'll live longer than us and that will be annoying.

WoodForTreesSeeing · 11/06/2024 07:16

Savemydrink · 11/06/2024 06:24

And perhaps you could read up on the facts that the reef is flourishing, not disappearing.

We have always had fire and flood and drought. The longer fire season might have something to do with the stupid lefties banning burn offs and closing the fire trails in the national parks. You can’t even collect fire wood anymore, you have to leave it there until the next bush fire comes around and it goes up twice as bad as in the past.

The 4x4 clubs used to keep the trails open but now they are not allowed in the forests the trails have all over grown, fire trucks can’t get through so guess what?

And yes, too many lefty, teal, woke idiots interfering with the natural order of things and making everything worse.

But you keep beating the climate change drum and when you are sitting in the dark because your solar panels are not producing and there isn’t enough power in the grid because the idiots closed down too many coal fired power stations and they have outlawed nuclear, then you can blame who exactly??

And don’t be expecting to charge that electric car either, now we have smart meters they can switch us off just like that.

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Ah you are outing yourself now as one of those conspiracy theorists. Did you have a chip inserted over the pandemic?

Happilyobtuse · 11/06/2024 07:01

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So true! My dad was very active but had a bit of a pot belly even though he exercised daily. He had recently had a full medical check up which gave him a clean bill of health, yet he dropped dead at the age of 54. In the post mortem, they said he had a massive heart attack in his sleep. None of the tests he had previously showed he had a heart condition, I guess when your time is up, it is over. Till then enjoy life.

upthespoutagain · 11/06/2024 06:59

Justleaveitblankthen · 11/06/2024 06:41

As someone said, his style of intermittent Fasting was initially someone else's idea and he made it his own.
Fair play to the man. Maybe he trade marked the 5-2? 🤔
All his Podcasts and tv shows are based around current or ancient theories.

This was his second stay with friends on Symi.
None of us know yet if he had made similar hikes before and what type of conversations or advice he had been given about the route?
Sure he made his own mind up though.

You do realise that the way you make your own money is totally based off someone else's ideas, right? You didn't invent whatever it is that you do, and nor does 99.999% of the world's population. We all take other people's ideas and run with them. Fair play to him, he was a journalist and he made his money by popularising science for the masses.

nobeans · 11/06/2024 06:44

HebburnPokemon · 10/06/2024 22:46

I’m finding all the coverage, and particularly videos, really quite awful. Apparently there is one at the end of his ‘walk’.

What do you mean, at the end of his walk?

I think there needs to be more awareness of the risks of vigorous or extreme exercise particularly in men over 40

Why just men?

There is cctv of the end of his walk. Showing where he went.

Shoopstoop · 11/06/2024 06:42

statistically speaking you’re very unlikely to meet some kind of strange and early demise. In terms of making the best decisions to keep yourself safe - people need to respect the heat. As an Australian I respect it, and I’m perplexed by others I know who have grown up around it who don’t - taking off for runs on 38 degree days and such. It’s very silly. People from milder climates need to be aware. We see a lot of drunk, crispy dehydrated Brits around here in summer. Alcohol makes heat all the more dangerous. Not that MM is in that category, but nonetheless, it’s a valuable lesson.

Justleaveitblankthen · 11/06/2024 06:41

As someone said, his style of intermittent Fasting was initially someone else's idea and he made it his own.
Fair play to the man. Maybe he trade marked the 5-2? 🤔
All his Podcasts and tv shows are based around current or ancient theories.

This was his second stay with friends on Symi.
None of us know yet if he had made similar hikes before and what type of conversations or advice he had been given about the route?
Sure he made his own mind up though.

Savemydrink · 11/06/2024 06:24

Nesbi · 11/06/2024 05:59

Perhaps while you’re there you can read up on the increasing issues Australia is experiencing with bushfires, droughts, floods, longer fire seasons. Or you could take a trip out to see the bleached coral of your sadly disappearing reef.

Or I guess you could just bury your head in the sand and mutter to yourself about it all being rubbish. What do the Earth’s scientists know eh, bunch of woke idiots trying to stop you eating burgers.

I don’t know why but the threads about Michael Mosley have bought some really odd people crawling out of the woodwork.

And perhaps you could read up on the facts that the reef is flourishing, not disappearing.

We have always had fire and flood and drought. The longer fire season might have something to do with the stupid lefties banning burn offs and closing the fire trails in the national parks. You can’t even collect fire wood anymore, you have to leave it there until the next bush fire comes around and it goes up twice as bad as in the past.

The 4x4 clubs used to keep the trails open but now they are not allowed in the forests the trails have all over grown, fire trucks can’t get through so guess what?

And yes, too many lefty, teal, woke idiots interfering with the natural order of things and making everything worse.

But you keep beating the climate change drum and when you are sitting in the dark because your solar panels are not producing and there isn’t enough power in the grid because the idiots closed down too many coal fired power stations and they have outlawed nuclear, then you can blame who exactly??

And don’t be expecting to charge that electric car either, now we have smart meters they can switch us off just like that.

LuluBlakey1 · 11/06/2024 06:10

Rebusa · 11/06/2024 01:04

So true. I have a childhood friend who has 3 kids, never been on holiday abroad in her life and I’ve said to her she should come on a girls holiday, she says she won’t until she can afford to pay for the whole family even though her kids are old enough (12-17) to stay at home with her partner.

So many things she’s never did even locally like a spa weekend or an overnight trip with just her partner or just her friends . She always makes plans for things she will do with me when the kids are adults and I just think wow you’re in good health now and taking it for granted that you always will be.

I can’t imagine what it’s like for you but I have had temporary post viral fatigue a number of times, and each time it happens it totally changes my life for a few months until it goes away .

That’s very unfortunate you haven’t recovered, hopefully one day you (and other long covid sufferers) will.

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Perhaps she doesn't want to come and is being polite. I can't think of much I'd like to do less than a 'girls holiday' or a 'spa weekend'.

Sadza · 11/06/2024 06:02

Yes OP I get it. When you get a bit older you become more aware of your fragility. All you can do is try and minimise the risks while still living and enjoying life. I think Michael Moseleys death has hit people hard as his whole life was lived with a focus on living longer, but through a couple of simple decisions he lost his life so easily. I wonder if his healthy lifestyle gave him a false sense of security. The scary thing is that whether we like it or not, no matter how much we look after our health, no matter how cautious we are, luck also plays a part.

Nesbi · 11/06/2024 05:59

Savemydrink · 11/06/2024 03:12

This is rubbish.

MM did not die because of climate change. He died because he went hiking at the hottest time of day, with little water, and no phone and then he apparently got lost.

Greece is a hot country, that is why Brits flock there every year for a bit of sun, you have to respect the weather and act accordingly.

I live in Queensland, Australia, one of the warmest places on earth. We are not all dropping dead of heat stroke although we might do if we don’t prepare for the sunshine, which I may add is one of the best things about living here.

It is winter here just now and we have blue sky and 25 degrees, I’m actually wearing a jumper as this feels quite cool to me.

Here in Australia we have spectacular floods and forest fires. They have always happened and always will. (Before anybody dreamed up the global warming nonsense)

Most of our fires are caused by human error, discarded cigarettes, idiots deliberately lighting fires for a bit of excitement. I even suspect climate alarmists doing it to prove a point.

The last thread I read on here about British weather was all about how cold it is, people have their heating on, and their oodies, people flocking to the beach because it actually reached 19 degrees the other day. It’s June for goodness sake, it should be warm, no wonder people can’t wait to jump on a plane and get a bit of sunshine.

Well, I’m off to the beach now. Got my water, my phone, my hat, my sunscreen and a good book.

oh and if the burger van is there today I might have a double decker, while it’s still allowed, before the climate zealots ban cows.

Perhaps while you’re there you can read up on the increasing issues Australia is experiencing with bushfires, droughts, floods, longer fire seasons. Or you could take a trip out to see the bleached coral of your sadly disappearing reef.

Or I guess you could just bury your head in the sand and mutter to yourself about it all being rubbish. What do the Earth’s scientists know eh, bunch of woke idiots trying to stop you eating burgers.

I don’t know why but the threads about Michael Mosley have bought some really odd people crawling out of the woodwork.

Anneofa1000days · 11/06/2024 05:42

Gettingbysomehow · 10/06/2024 18:23

I feel absolutely furious with him. Quite unreasonably as I don't know him. Why did a medical doctor think it was OK to go for a long walk in 40 degree heat at the height of the day with one very small bottle of water and no phone????
He wasn't young either. He was 67.
Sheer stupidity.
Now his wife is on her own for her whole retirement. He won't see his kids marry or have children.
Older single women as I know very well often get abandoned by their married friends after the husband has gone. It takes time but in couple of years she will be lonely.
The utter stupidity of the whole thing made me feel sick and depressed.

I totally agree with you especially as Ive been listerning to his pod cast. Its really said but he really should have known better, he was an intelligent man so why did he do it?, was he trying to push hisself we will never know, but you never know whats round the corner but if you worry about it you would never get out of bed.

hotpotlover · 11/06/2024 05:39

Irregardless of his 1 mistake that cost him his life, he was a pretty amazing man. He helped me to lose a lot of weight after my first pregnancy, when I was obese.

It was through him that I learned about the Mediterranean diet and intermittent fasting.

Going to listen to his Just One Thing podcast now.

daisychain01 · 11/06/2024 05:36

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 10/06/2024 18:36

Some of these posts are in very poor taste. This is a man who did absolutely everything he could to live a long and healthy life - far more than most of us do. Something obviously went terribly wrong last week, none of us know what really happened.

I hope you've got the perfect diet and exercise regime @Gettingbysomehow , you wouldn't want people publicly criticising your stupidity if you don't live to a ripe old age.

I have to say I'm disgusted by the keyboard warrior attitudes and blame / unhelpful fingerpointing on here.

For those of us who have lost loved ones and have to live without them due to accidents, sudden death from heart attacks, other mishaps do you realise how vile and crass you sound?

echt · 11/06/2024 05:24

Thebellofstclements · 11/06/2024 04:41

Realistically, and statistically, it is highly likely his widow will remarry in around 5 years.

Do you have the stats you mention?

iloveeverykindofcat · 11/06/2024 05:19

OP let me tell you something - I did get hit by a bus. Not literally, but a few years ago I was in an very unlikely accident that caused positional asphyxia and cardiac arrest, outside of a hospital setting. I died for 2 minutes. The reason I'm here typing this is that there happened to be paramedic closeby who gave me CPR and I was very close to a hospital.

I remember absolutley nothing about this. My memory skips directly from about 2 days before this, to waking up in ICU a few days later. I was in a coma for 2 days, but when I woke up, I was surpsingly well. Obviously very bruised etc but all vitals good and brain intact. From my perspective, it didn't happen. Its just a 'nothing' in my memory.

I used to be very scared of death. Not of dying, of death itself. But now I'm not. Because there's nothing to be scared of. When I die (for good), I won't be there. There will be no 'me' to be. I was quite disturbed for a few months after this happened, but now - I'm happier. I'm a happier person. I worry less. I quit a job I hated. I moved back to my favourite city. I enjoy my life. We truly do not know when our time is up. It could be today. It could be tomorrow. And it doesn't matter. All that matters is we make the best of the time we have. I think Dr. Mosely made a huge impact in the time he was here. He lived well, and we'll remember him as a good man. That's what counts. I just hope he didn' t suffer, or if he did, that it was quick.

AWOL66 · 11/06/2024 05:03

Such a sad thing to happen. I don't think it was stupid of him. He just went to walk back to his hotel with an umbrella for shade, appropriately dressed and probably stopped to drink water in the town.
It's not a big place so he likely thought it'd be a nice walk.
He walked a lot and took a keen interest in his health so would have felt fitter than many younger people.

I've been in 40 degrees heat abroad and to me in the shade it really doesn't feel unpleasant it is quite calming actually - unlike in British sun which a tiny glimpse of feels brutal to me!
He was just living life like we all do and a combination of factors led to his death- most things are half chance anyway.

I read about a couple that were killed by a lorry that slammed into them at a junction on a quiet road just because the driver was momentarily distracted looking at his satnav driving in an unfamiliar area. People love to judge as it brings comfort to know why it happened but in reality most people have done things they could easily have died from several times in their lives. I nearly got crashed into a lorry once for a split second decision but the other driver's reactions happened to be quick enough at that exact moment it avoided an accident.
I know of other deaths like slips in the shower which are unlucky but I've nearly done myself.
Had Michael been lost for five mins less he would have got to the hotel and it would have been a non-event. 💔
Yes don't be conoletely wreckless in life but know that more often than not people do survive masses of things anyway. He had good innings and a blessed life. He was one of the lucky and health conscious ones to live to his age though I wish he could have had the opportunity to say goodbye to his loved ones. It's mad to me that people are angry with him!!!
Maybe it was just "his time" anyway he may have passed away in England soon anyway if he had an underlying medical issue he didn't know about. My thoughts go to him and his family. I was a fan of all of his work. Such a lovely guy.

AbraAbraCadabra · 11/06/2024 05:00

CardboardQueen · 10/06/2024 20:52

Not sure about this. I go hillwalking alone. I went this weekend and there was snow on the Munro tops. A couple of months ago I bought a garmin inreach and I used it this weekend for the first time, because I was in thehills overnight. Everyone who knows I have bought this has said I am paranoid or has accused me of not having the correct equipment or skills. My own mother, who has never been up a hill, has told me I need to speak to someone. I have had to put my minor children down as emergency contacts on it because the adults in my life think the whole thing is a joke.

One person's sensible precaution is another person's anxiety.

I feel very sad about Michael Mosley, and for now I think people will be more aware of their own mortality as a result of his premature death. In a few short weeks the same people will be back to how they were before.

I think what you've done is very sensible given that you hike alone. I don't hike alone but my DH and I have got lost when walking a few times with a couple of hairy situations. It's really easy to do. I also like watching/listening to "survival" programmes and podcasts where people have survived against the odds. One thing I've realised is how very easy it is to go from everything being fine and "safe" to "we're in a survival situation" in the blink of an eye. All you need is a fall, a change in weather, getting lost etc etc and suddenly you are in trouble. So I have considered getting something like the garmin for DH and I as the biggest issues often come from not being able to contact anyone for help and/or people not being able to find you. However we don't walk very often any more (due to my poor health) and thankfully Apple phones now have a way of using satellites in an emergency where there is no signal available.

Maybe you ought to get your relatives to listen to this podcast. Might make them rethink their weird attitude to you taking sensible precautions!...

https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/226b18ec-31b0-49c2-8ab0-55021a8f025b/real-survival-stories?ref=dmshh_HCuYsZhRmsOG3cJ3Qj5wehkiq

RiceBubbless · 11/06/2024 05:00

DaisyChain505 · 10/06/2024 18:29

I’m sorry to sound cold but this incident was a case of you play silly games and you win silly prizes.

Going for a walk in an unknown place in extreme heat without the correct resources or enough water and without a phone!

This. All the people and resources looking for him. He went alone, without informing anyone and without basic kit ( look at his shoes, not for scrambling over rocks and stones), no water.

Thebellofstclements · 11/06/2024 04:41

Gettingbysomehow · 10/06/2024 18:23

I feel absolutely furious with him. Quite unreasonably as I don't know him. Why did a medical doctor think it was OK to go for a long walk in 40 degree heat at the height of the day with one very small bottle of water and no phone????
He wasn't young either. He was 67.
Sheer stupidity.
Now his wife is on her own for her whole retirement. He won't see his kids marry or have children.
Older single women as I know very well often get abandoned by their married friends after the husband has gone. It takes time but in couple of years she will be lonely.
The utter stupidity of the whole thing made me feel sick and depressed.

Realistically, and statistically, it is highly likely his widow will remarry in around 5 years.

decionsdecisions62 · 11/06/2024 04:23

This thread is beginning to feel like Covid all over again. The sniping at others for not hiding in their homes for 2 years and not wearing triple masks and hazmat suits 2 years later.

Some folks take more risks, some never take any. Both can be bad for you.

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