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To find what’s happened to Michael Mosley quite anxiety provoking

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Glasto73lover · 10/06/2024 18:14

It’s that idea of never really knowing what’s going to happen- the idea that we walk such a fine line in life. If you think too much about it, you probably wouldn’t leave the house.!

A close family member died suddenly and tragically a decade ago - literally dropped dead at home age 48 - something went pop in their head. So you genuinely don’t know when your time is up.

It’s that idea of a chain of consequence that can go so horribly wrong too- people always say ‘oh but you could get hit by a bus’ - stuff like this actually makes me really anxious. So many what ifs.

For Michael Moseley - a chain of probably inconsequential decisions may have led to his death- not having a phone on him, choosing to undertake a walk that in the U.K. is nothing but in that heat, was devastating and probably caused his death.

It makes me anxious that I won’t know if I am making those decisions - am I making sense? I think as I have got older, I have become more anxious and risk averse (thanks menopause) and as a result, you could end up not leaving the house. How do you choose a sensible approach? Not too much risk but some!

But I also want to live my life too!! I guess I find incidents like this quite difficult!

I guess always having a phone, not undertaking walks in intense heat in an unfamiliar place etc are the common sense points that will come out of this tragedy.

Aibu to find it anxiety provoking tho?!

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AInightingale · 11/06/2024 09:56

Unfortunately this can happen to anyone, anywhere, who is exerting themselves and it's more likely to happen to an older man. Remember Robin Cook who died on a mountainside in the UK. Yes the heat was probably a factor and he was foolhardy but I can't understand people being 'furious' with him. It could have happened on a dogwalk in the English countryside, it might have happened on a treadmill in the local gym, though he would have had far better survival odds. Makes you see the benefit of defibrillators being installed in public places.

westisbest1982 · 11/06/2024 09:55

I think people need to stop blaming him. He had water, he was fit, he had an umbrella and he’d only walked a couple of miles. The heat was excessive but on other days he’d done the same and was fine.

He’d also had a history of amnesia, was 67, took with him a small bottle of water, told nobody where he was going, and didn’t take his phone. Also, it was only the second day of the holiday.

WoodForTreesSeeing · 11/06/2024 09:55

stopthepigeonstopthepigeon · 11/06/2024 09:36

I don’t feel angry towards him at all

Angry? You didn’t even know him 😂

I know. It’s embarrassing all these people judging and getting all involved. I suggest they focus on their own lives.

Ultimately none of us knows the exact circumstances and nature of his death. He could have had an existing illness for all we know. His medical history is rightfully private, despite his media persona and job.

crackofdoom · 11/06/2024 09:54

Lovelyview · 11/06/2024 07:42

I do long distance walks and the os maps app gives you your exact location. It is extremely useful!

When there's signal 😬

Pretty much the whole of that day around Exmoor- and where I was camping in the Doone valley- there was zero signal. It's why I prefer to rely on paper maps.

MistAndFog · 11/06/2024 09:49

Gettingbysomehow · 10/06/2024 18:23

I feel absolutely furious with him. Quite unreasonably as I don't know him. Why did a medical doctor think it was OK to go for a long walk in 40 degree heat at the height of the day with one very small bottle of water and no phone????
He wasn't young either. He was 67.
Sheer stupidity.
Now his wife is on her own for her whole retirement. He won't see his kids marry or have children.
Older single women as I know very well often get abandoned by their married friends after the husband has gone. It takes time but in couple of years she will be lonely.
The utter stupidity of the whole thing made me feel sick and depressed.

It sounds like he had a medical episode like a heart attack or stroke. If he'd been alone on a UK coastal path he'd have also likely already been dead by the time someone next walked along the path. It could just as easily have happened if he'd stayed home, and a phone wasn't likely to have helped considering he was already in earshot if he'd had time to call for help.

crackofdoom · 11/06/2024 09:48

faffadoodledo · 11/06/2024 07:17

Deathrates in big cities in recent heatwaves have spiked. Climate change will be a factor in many of our deaths if it's not already. My mother died of a catastrophic stroke on the hottest day of the year in 2022. Sure there were other factors (AF and stress of living with my dad who had dementia - and she was refusing help) - but the trigger was the heat. No question. Doctor confirmed it.
Saying there'll be more deaths like MM's due to climate change is not scaremongering. It's fact.

But I get the general anxiety. me and DH are fit. DH is bordering on athlete fit at 63. But MM's death shows that sh_t happens. DH's sister is obese (is a GP) as is her her DH and children. i joke that they'll live longer than us and that will be annoying.

I gather that just a few degrees of heat can make a massive difference to human health. Before MM's accident I had been reading about the Mediterranean weather and thinking "Wow, the 40 degree heatwaves are early this year".

It seems that a susceptibility to heatstroke can be quite random. You get those occasional soldiers collapsing and dying in the Brecon Beacons on exercises, when presumably the rest are OK.

I think it's of note that this happened on the second day of his holiday,too. We haven't had much warm weather in the UK this year, so perhaps he had neither physically or psychologically acclimatised. I read a book about a man walking the length of the Nile a way back. Two journalists flew out to join him for a leg- one from elsewhere in Africa, one from a New York winter. On a 40 degree day, climbing a hill in the open, the latter suddenly collapsed from heat exhaustion and died. It happened so fast- and they were so far from even the nearest road- that he had no chance.

WhataPithy · 11/06/2024 09:46

I once had a scary experience due to fairly innocent decisions. It wasn’t the heat but -30C, my friend had dropped me off at another friend’s place where I was meant to stay that night which was Xmas eve. As I fully expected to walk into his warm flat from the car, I had not taken my hat, scarf or gloves. I think I also only had trainers on. I didn’t have a mobile phone as it was 1997.

However, after my lift giving friend had left I realised I actually didn’t know which apartment block was his. I thought I did but once there they all looked the same. I had no coins to make a phone call and there was no soul outside it being xmas eve (it’s the main event in my home country). After an hour circling around the buildings I had to call the emergency service to ask if they could call my friend to say I’m outside but unable to find him.

Once he found me, it took me hours to get warm, my internal core temperature felt so cold for so long.

We all make innocent mistakes, I find it horrendous how people are rushing up to blame him not to mention calling him all sorts of names.

Disturbia81 · 11/06/2024 09:46

Yeah I'm so disappointed in his choices too, he was too good to lose.
His "time wasn't up"
We aren't controlled by fate!
It was the choices he made. He was always testing himself. And even his intelligence and common sense couldn't cancel out the curiosity and risk taking in this case.
It just feels so sad and preventable

LittleTiger007 · 11/06/2024 09:43

GingerbicciesPlease · 11/06/2024 07:49

Natural causes means there was no foul play.

Heatstroke is a natural cause.

I think you're confused over foul play (criminal behaviour) and the body's response to external conditions.

Even a heart attack provoked by heatstroke would be 'natural causes'.

Dehydration was clearly a factor as he supposedly walked 4 miles (according to reports) with no more than a small bottle of water (500mls?) in heat of 35+C.

This causes confusion and it's possible he fell and hit his head (or passed out) and didn't recover.

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Agreed it could have been a heart attack prompted by heatstroke. They have proven he was sitting down. There was no fall or blow to the head. His hands were on his chest. Mercifully it was probably quick.

I think people need to stop blaming him. He had water, he was fit, he had an umbrella and he’d only walked a couple of miles. The heat was excessive but on other days he’d done the same and was fine.

godmum56 · 11/06/2024 09:39

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And they would be entitled to do so, just as he was entitled to make the decisions and do the stuff that he did. It doesn't change my opinion though.

Chilliandrice · 11/06/2024 09:38

I am responding to the poster who said she was ‘furious’ and lots of people agreeing with them.

stopthepigeonstopthepigeon · 11/06/2024 09:36

I don’t feel angry towards him at all

Angry? You didn’t even know him 😂

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Jellycats4life · 11/06/2024 09:35

LittleTiger007 · 11/06/2024 09:27

The fact was in an interview a month ago he said that his own father died suddenly in his 60s and he feared that the same thing would happen to him. It did, it was genetic despite his living healthy. Anger is natural at first but it wasn’t his fault.

Not true. His father died of complications of diabetes at 72.

Chilliandrice · 11/06/2024 09:34

I don’t feel angry towards him at all. It was his own choice. He knew full well what heatstroke is and the precautions he needed to take. I’m sure he wasn’t expecting to be walking for so long. Even if his wife had said to him at the beach, You haven’t got your phone/you need more water/why don’t you wait for us… he would have gone anyway.

crackofdoom · 11/06/2024 09:33

Rebusa · 11/06/2024 01:04

So true. I have a childhood friend who has 3 kids, never been on holiday abroad in her life and I’ve said to her she should come on a girls holiday, she says she won’t until she can afford to pay for the whole family even though her kids are old enough (12-17) to stay at home with her partner.

So many things she’s never did even locally like a spa weekend or an overnight trip with just her partner or just her friends . She always makes plans for things she will do with me when the kids are adults and I just think wow you’re in good health now and taking it for granted that you always will be.

I can’t imagine what it’s like for you but I have had temporary post viral fatigue a number of times, and each time it happens it totally changes my life for a few months until it goes away .

That’s very unfortunate you haven’t recovered, hopefully one day you (and other long covid sufferers) will.

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Yes, I pride myself on my rude health (lone parent, I feel I HAVE to be healthy, IYSWIM), and I had an episode of post viral fatigue for about a month recently. As a menopausal woman who has several friends with various autoimmune illnesses, this has always been one of my greatest fears. I got quite depressed, even though it was so minor compared to what some people suffer. But it did give me increased empathy for people in that boat, so I guess it was an important life lesson.

KimberleyClark · 11/06/2024 09:31

GingerbicciesPlease · 11/06/2024 08:28

Really?

He made a series of unwise choices.

It's very sad but it looks as if it was an over estimate of his own ability to cope with the heat and lack of preparation for a walk in that heat with almost no water.

Saying this doesn't detract from it being a tragedy and if anything, if he was around to advise people like he's been doing, it's likely he' d say the same.

We were in Greece last week and an extreme heat warning was issued by the Greek weather office. It was 37 degrees at times.

LittleTiger007 · 11/06/2024 09:27

Gettingbysomehow · 10/06/2024 18:23

I feel absolutely furious with him. Quite unreasonably as I don't know him. Why did a medical doctor think it was OK to go for a long walk in 40 degree heat at the height of the day with one very small bottle of water and no phone????
He wasn't young either. He was 67.
Sheer stupidity.
Now his wife is on her own for her whole retirement. He won't see his kids marry or have children.
Older single women as I know very well often get abandoned by their married friends after the husband has gone. It takes time but in couple of years she will be lonely.
The utter stupidity of the whole thing made me feel sick and depressed.

The fact was in an interview a month ago he said that his own father died suddenly in his 60s and he feared that the same thing would happen to him. It did, it was genetic despite his living healthy. Anger is natural at first but it wasn’t his fault.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 11/06/2024 09:21

Gettingbysomehow · 10/06/2024 18:23

I feel absolutely furious with him. Quite unreasonably as I don't know him. Why did a medical doctor think it was OK to go for a long walk in 40 degree heat at the height of the day with one very small bottle of water and no phone????
He wasn't young either. He was 67.
Sheer stupidity.
Now his wife is on her own for her whole retirement. He won't see his kids marry or have children.
Older single women as I know very well often get abandoned by their married friends after the husband has gone. It takes time but in couple of years she will be lonely.
The utter stupidity of the whole thing made me feel sick and depressed.

Must say I feel the same, especially as it’s the kind of daft thing dh could easily have done not so long ago - I think (hope!) that at 76 he’s got more sense now.

Goldenbear · 11/06/2024 09:16

Goldenbear · 11/06/2024 09:13

Intelligent people are usually very curious, I can well imagine my Dad doing this, he is well travelled, lived in different countries where it is very hot and is a spontaneous person. DH and a friend actually did something similar to MM on a Greek Island and got a bit lost with no water on them at all, it was a bit over 20 years ago so I don’t think it was 40 degrees but still. They were ok but panic did set in, perhaps over confident 20 year olds that saw it as an adventure and it didn’t cross their mind to tell anyone where they were going as they didn’t have any intention of taking a different route when they set out.

And although had mobile phones in 2003 they would have be no use on this walk. I am not sure if their age was on their side as obviously MM was 67 but I would imagine so.

Thegreatgiginthesky · 11/06/2024 09:13

GentlemanJohnny · 11/06/2024 09:07

There is no evidence, so far, that heat played any part in his death.

That is pure speculation and, IMO, more than a little tasteless.

I agree, it may have been due to a heart attack or other medical event and we simply don't know at this point whether he may have had the same outcome whilst sitting on the sofa watching TV or remaining with his family at dinner.

I think there is some comfort on the fact that he died whilst doing something he enjoyed and it was relatively quick, he did not have long painful time dealing with the complications of diabetes like his father which may have been the outcome if he had been a less active and health conscious individual.

Goldenbear · 11/06/2024 09:13

Anneofa1000days · 11/06/2024 05:42

I totally agree with you especially as Ive been listerning to his pod cast. Its really said but he really should have known better, he was an intelligent man so why did he do it?, was he trying to push hisself we will never know, but you never know whats round the corner but if you worry about it you would never get out of bed.

Intelligent people are usually very curious, I can well imagine my Dad doing this, he is well travelled, lived in different countries where it is very hot and is a spontaneous person. DH and a friend actually did something similar to MM on a Greek Island and got a bit lost with no water on them at all, it was a bit over 20 years ago so I don’t think it was 40 degrees but still. They were ok but panic did set in, perhaps over confident 20 year olds that saw it as an adventure and it didn’t cross their mind to tell anyone where they were going as they didn’t have any intention of taking a different route when they set out.

Jellycats4life · 11/06/2024 09:10

Anywherebuthere · 11/06/2024 08:17

His time was up. It's as simple as that. Pretty ignorant to blame him for his own passing.

Stop overthinking and get on with your life. People die peacefully, unexpectedly in their sleep all the the time. Even if they have their phones with them, they can't change that.

You can't change the inevitable. Just live your life sensibly but without overthinking it all.

As much as it might comfort us to believe that we have no control over our lives and deaths, and that there really is a Grim Reaper out there with a list, I don’t think any of us can deny that Dr Mosley died because he made a series of unwise decisions that, unfortunately for him, turned out catastrophically. I’m sure his wife and kids will be tormented by that for the rest of their lives - if only he hadn’t gone for that walk, if only he’d had his phone, if only the weather hadn’t been so scorching, and so on.

His time wasn’t up. That’s what makes it so sad.

Runki · 11/06/2024 09:10

It's so sad.

godmum56 · 11/06/2024 09:08

TigathaChristie · 11/06/2024 08:54

@WoodForTreesSeeing - that's very interesting. I agree that we are fed so much information these days about health and wellbeing (amongst other things) that we approach life as an exam whereby if you have put in the work then you will achieve the result you deserve.

I think we have been deceived in thinking that we are in control of our bodies, when in reality whilst we can mitigate some things with adoption of a "healthy lifestyle", very many things are out of our control.

Perhaps the decline in religious faith (in some Western societies) has left a vacuum in which this flourishes. I certainly feel bombarded by messages about how to avoid a myriad of diseases or natural ageing processes not to mention "not looking your age" via botox, skincare, hair dye etc.

Sorry if that got a bit deep for this thread.

My sympathies are with his family and friends💐

This too. My husband died of an incurable cancer. It fills me with rage when people say that xxx "lost the battle" with their terminal illness....as though if they had fought harder, done better they would still be alive, would have somehow been healed.....that somehow dying of an incuable disease is the person's fault......but this.....this could have been avoided.