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To find what’s happened to Michael Mosley quite anxiety provoking

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Glasto73lover · 10/06/2024 18:14

It’s that idea of never really knowing what’s going to happen- the idea that we walk such a fine line in life. If you think too much about it, you probably wouldn’t leave the house.!

A close family member died suddenly and tragically a decade ago - literally dropped dead at home age 48 - something went pop in their head. So you genuinely don’t know when your time is up.

It’s that idea of a chain of consequence that can go so horribly wrong too- people always say ‘oh but you could get hit by a bus’ - stuff like this actually makes me really anxious. So many what ifs.

For Michael Moseley - a chain of probably inconsequential decisions may have led to his death- not having a phone on him, choosing to undertake a walk that in the U.K. is nothing but in that heat, was devastating and probably caused his death.

It makes me anxious that I won’t know if I am making those decisions - am I making sense? I think as I have got older, I have become more anxious and risk averse (thanks menopause) and as a result, you could end up not leaving the house. How do you choose a sensible approach? Not too much risk but some!

But I also want to live my life too!! I guess I find incidents like this quite difficult!

I guess always having a phone, not undertaking walks in intense heat in an unfamiliar place etc are the common sense points that will come out of this tragedy.

Aibu to find it anxiety provoking tho?!

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godmum56 · 11/06/2024 14:06

notacooldad · 11/06/2024 14:01

@godmum56
anything can happen, yes, but there are mitigations we can put into place to make it less likely.
Indeed that why I started with expierenced mountaineers with right equipment etc.

Even if we do everything possible to stay safe there is always the chance that something completely unforseen can happen

Life throws some unexpected curveballs from time to time.

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indeed but it seems to throw less "curveballs" at people who plan and prepare properly.

MuseKira · 11/06/2024 14:04

Allfur · 11/06/2024 14:03

Like 'numpties' who smoke or over eat or over drink, they also cost thousands

Yes, of course, what point are you trying to make???

Allfur · 11/06/2024 14:03

blondiepigtails · 11/06/2024 13:51

@crackofdoom very true. Police & coastguards, helicopter and lifeboat all called out last Thursday because some numpty had walked too far round the beach and was cut off by the tide. Can you imagine how many 10s of thousands of pounds that cost?

Like 'numpties' who smoke or over eat or over drink, they also cost thousands

Maia77 · 11/06/2024 14:03

In warmer climates people know how to behave when the temperatures rise above 30. Also there are warnings in media/tv advising people, especially elderly and people with some chronic illnesses to avoid going out and stay hydrated etc. The risk of heatstroke is high in extremely hot weather.

MuseKira · 11/06/2024 14:02

crackofdoom · 11/06/2024 13:56

What would you call an unnecessary risk?

I would say that driving on motorways and A roads, living with a male partner (if you're a woman), drinking alcohol and being overweight are four things that can statistically increase your risk of mortality. But who avoids all those? (I manage two out of four). None of them are strictly necessary things to do, though.

You can "reduce" risks by driving within speed limits, being aware of your surroundings, and not getting too close to other vehicles on a motorway.

You can "reduce" risks of being attacked by a male partner by being more selective as to who you choose, i.e. take notice of red flags like anger, aggressiveness, number of previous partners, etc.

You can reduce risks caused by alcohol by not drinking it at all or being aware of what you're drinking, your limitations, how it affects you, etc.

You can reduce risks associated by being overweight by being more aware of your eating habits, taking more exercise, etc.

Whether a risk is "unnecessary" or not depends on your own personal risk profile and your own lifestyle choices. But at the end of the day, you take your risks and you take the consequences.

And no, I know that it's impossible to have a "risk free" life, even if you do everything in your power to avoid risks, you could always end up with an abusive partners, or run over by a runaway bus, or suffer diabetes even though you're not overweight, or get your non alcoholic drink spiked in a pub. But you have to do what is in your power to mitigate and avoid risks to at least reduce the probability of something awful happening to you, even though you can't eliminate everything.

notacooldad · 11/06/2024 14:01

@godmum56
anything can happen, yes, but there are mitigations we can put into place to make it less likely.
Indeed that why I started with expierenced mountaineers with right equipment etc.

Even if we do everything possible to stay safe there is always the chance that something completely unforseen can happen

Life throws some unexpected curveballs from time to time.

wombat15 · 11/06/2024 14:00

crackofdoom · 11/06/2024 13:56

What would you call an unnecessary risk?

I would say that driving on motorways and A roads, living with a male partner (if you're a woman), drinking alcohol and being overweight are four things that can statistically increase your risk of mortality. But who avoids all those? (I manage two out of four). None of them are strictly necessary things to do, though.

The risks for those things are no where near as high as what MM did. The only reason more people die because of them is because more people do them. If everyone walked around in extremely high temperatures mortality would go through the roof especially among older people regardless of their weight.

crackofdoom · 11/06/2024 13:56

MuseKira · 11/06/2024 13:41

Don't you understand there are differing levels of risk, probability, etc?

It is within everyone's power to live a normal life, but whilst reducing risks, i.e. being prepared, not taking unnecessary risks, etc.

What would you call an unnecessary risk?

I would say that driving on motorways and A roads, living with a male partner (if you're a woman), drinking alcohol and being overweight are four things that can statistically increase your risk of mortality. But who avoids all those? (I manage two out of four). None of them are strictly necessary things to do, though.

AInightingale · 11/06/2024 13:56

BMW6 · 11/06/2024 12:11

I find myself now wondering how many lives will be saved by the publicity this tragic death has had worldwide.

How many people in future will be considering taking a hike, bike ride, whatever, and may now pause and think "what if?"

Perhaps they'll double check they have their phone, take another look at the map, pack another bottle of water.

Yes, and maybe after some time has passed, his family will choose to channel it into an awareness campaign . Anne Diamond did similar after the death of her little boy.

MuseKira · 11/06/2024 13:55

beatrix1234 · 11/06/2024 13:53

Again, as a non British person I'm a bit shocked that people think "this was just a short walk where's the big deal?", there's a reason why the Greek locals stay in the shadow during the middle of the day when temperatures are high and don't engage in cliff walking at 2:00 pm.

I agree, and it's not as if it was a "normal" walk back to someone's villa on a promenade or level footpath. It was over a small mountain on rough ground which was probably going to be a challenge for much younger, fitter people in cooler weather!

godmum56 · 11/06/2024 13:55

notacooldad · 11/06/2024 13:11

Expierenced mountaineers with all the gear and know what they are doing and dont take chances have accidents and die.
Dog walkers who are a couple if times a day on the same route can trip and fall.
Inexperienced unfit people can make it to the top of Hellvelyn with no issues.

The lady that said she sticks to the same route, could easily slip and bang her head. She may be on the same route but nobody goes past and dh doesn't know anything is wrong because she within her normal walking time.
Anything can happen to anyone even if you have prepared well.
Shit hapens as some may say.

Is just a roll of the dice what happens to you.

anything can happen, yes, but there are mitigations we can put into place to make it less likely.

beatrix1234 · 11/06/2024 13:53

thefireplace · 11/06/2024 13:40

FFS going for a short walk, even in hot temps, is hardly risky, he wasn't solo kayaking the Grand Canyon!

You don't know what happened, all we've been told is he laid down.

Until there is further medical investigations, we ve no idea why or if it was "wholly preventable"

Again, as a non British person I'm a bit shocked that people think "this was just a short walk where's the big deal?", there's a reason why the Greek locals stay in the shadow during the middle of the day when temperatures are high and don't engage in cliff walking at 2:00 pm.

blondiepigtails · 11/06/2024 13:51

@crackofdoom very true. Police & coastguards, helicopter and lifeboat all called out last Thursday because some numpty had walked too far round the beach and was cut off by the tide. Can you imagine how many 10s of thousands of pounds that cost?

crackofdoom · 11/06/2024 13:43

blondiepigtails · 11/06/2024 11:16

Oh I do love where I live! The poor woman in question who fell from the coast path a couple of weeks ago was found only 14 hours (not 3 days!) later by the coastguard helicopter. She had been suffering from dizzy spells but had been feeling better so had decided to go out on her usual walk. Again, I don't think anyone will ever quite know what happened. This walk isn't remote, it's close to the town and popular - BUT it is an awful long way down....

Ah, thanks for the correction blondie. The farmer was a proper character, put it that way 😬 "I saw 'er outside the chip shop in Lynmouth the day before she went missing!".

It is so beautiful round there- but even as a regular on the SWCP I found some of the steep drops pretty alarming!

But, to put things in perspective, people falling off the coast path is surprisingly rare, given that in so many places it's a foot wide path bordered by a fatal drop. Coastguard callouts are more likely to be triggered by people getting into difficulties on the beach. It's just sobering to remember how close we all are to potential death- every day.

wombat15 · 11/06/2024 13:43

GingerbicciesPlease · 11/06/2024 12:59

But an ageing body depends hugely on all kinds of things.

I have friends in their 60s who are very fit indeed and far fitter than many 40 year olds who are overweight and obese.

I know someone in their mid-60s who runs marathons all over the world each year.

Fitness is a spectrum at all ages.

It's easy to measure fitness with tests for heart and lung health, and muscle strength.

I'm sure MM had done all of those at some point but that doesn't mean he (or most people) wouldn't succumb to heatstroke in those conditions when they didn't have enough water or ways to cool down.

They might seem fitter in their 60s but are more likely to have cardiovascular disease and be at risk of heart attack or stroke than a younger person. DH was still running a lot in his early 60s. Anyone would have said he was very fit. He then had a heart attack. As he says, running doesn't prevent blood clots and even a relatively healthy diet doesn't totally prevent atherosclerosis. It builds up and the older you are the more likely you are to have it.

MuseKira · 11/06/2024 13:41

crackofdoom · 11/06/2024 13:31

Do you drive? Surely you're putting yourself at risk of a road accident, as well as being at more risk from harmful fumes inside your vehicle.

Do you walk or run in urban areas? Surely you're increasing your risk of attack.

Better stay inside and not take any risks then. Except that obesity and inactivity are the biggest drivers to poor health, immobility and increasing the burdens on the NHS that there are.

Don't you understand there are differing levels of risk, probability, etc?

It is within everyone's power to live a normal life, but whilst reducing risks, i.e. being prepared, not taking unnecessary risks, etc.

thefireplace · 11/06/2024 13:40

Augustus40 · 11/06/2024 08:16

It just illustrates the importance of doing risky activities at least in pairs o r as a small group.

Very sad. He was a lovely upbeat popular and very fit man. Wholly pre ventable.

FFS going for a short walk, even in hot temps, is hardly risky, he wasn't solo kayaking the Grand Canyon!

You don't know what happened, all we've been told is he laid down.

Until there is further medical investigations, we ve no idea why or if it was "wholly preventable"

Waffle78 · 11/06/2024 13:40

You just never know when your time will be up. I often wonder where I would be now without Google maps. My sense of direction is terrible. I would never go anywhere out of my local area without my phone and adequate hydration.

MyQuaintDog · 11/06/2024 13:39

Strugglingtodomybest · 11/06/2024 13:35

It’s that idea of never really knowing what’s going to happen- the idea that we walk such a fine line in life. If you think too much about it, you probably wouldn’t leave the house.!

I'm the opposite, the more I think about it, the more I think I should just get out there and do things whilst I still can. You're a long time dead, as they say!

I'm a big fan of "feel the fear and do it anyway" and stoic thinking.

I agree with many things. But I am very risk averse with the natural world. I know many people are not though. I know people who have died mountain climbing, and friends who still mountain climb. It really depends how much you really want to do these things. I take risks with other things because I really want to do them, so I think the risks are worth it.

Jaxhog · 11/06/2024 13:39

Strugglingtodomybest · 11/06/2024 13:35

It’s that idea of never really knowing what’s going to happen- the idea that we walk such a fine line in life. If you think too much about it, you probably wouldn’t leave the house.!

I'm the opposite, the more I think about it, the more I think I should just get out there and do things whilst I still can. You're a long time dead, as they say!

I'm a big fan of "feel the fear and do it anyway" and stoic thinking.

I agree. Rather a life filled with some risk, than one of boredom. And I speak as someone who went to South America and Antarctica on my own (first time alone) at the age of 69. I was terrified, but so glad I did it!

Jaxhog · 11/06/2024 13:36

Calliopespa · 11/06/2024 13:24

Ultimately MM was a clever man who normally gave topics a lot of thought.

Something has happened that has disrupted his decision-making - probably heat, or feeling poorly, or politeness/feeling he couldn’t tell the hosts the beach was minging and boring him or whatever - and he’s made an error of judgment.

We all do, all the time. Fortunately we normally get away with it. Unfortunately he didn’t.

It’s just very sad and I’m not really sure anger etc it’s fair - though it may be natural to a degree.

This. Everything we do in life has some risk associated with it; some of us are more or less risk adverse. He was unlucky.

Strugglingtodomybest · 11/06/2024 13:35

It’s that idea of never really knowing what’s going to happen- the idea that we walk such a fine line in life. If you think too much about it, you probably wouldn’t leave the house.!

I'm the opposite, the more I think about it, the more I think I should just get out there and do things whilst I still can. You're a long time dead, as they say!

I'm a big fan of "feel the fear and do it anyway" and stoic thinking.

MyQuaintDog · 11/06/2024 13:34

beatrix1234 · 11/06/2024 13:27

It's not a crime by any means ( it's perfectly legal) while it's totally fine for anyone going for a walk alone in a shadowy area on the south of France it's quite risky in Greece under 40 degrees and in a cliff area while carrying no phone. Maybe a young person with no health issues would have been fine but an older man who is not used to high temperatures with health issues is playing Russian roulette.

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I actually think everyone in the UK should take high temperatures more seriously. We are not used to hot weather, so do not really understand its impact.

MyQuaintDog · 11/06/2024 13:32

Calliopespa · 11/06/2024 13:17

Yes but equally people are quick to assume that not eating well is all upfs and Twix.

In reality a lot of the most delicious foods ( I’m thinking oozy upf free cheeses - vacherin! Yum! - creamy truffled gratins, Armagnac soaked sponge with chocolate delice topping etc) would for many people give a Greek salad a run for its money without a upf in sight. I’d pick a salad over a twix or McDonald’s any day. But over a truffled porcini risotto… not so sure …

I agree. I eat lots of delicious healthy foods and am fat. Too much of anything makes you fat.

crackofdoom · 11/06/2024 13:31

willWillSmithsmith · 11/06/2024 12:53

It’s all very well accusing more cautious people of being holier-than-thou but why do you walk in such potentially dangerous places? If anything happened to you people would have to risk their own well being to find you.

Do you drive? Surely you're putting yourself at risk of a road accident, as well as being at more risk from harmful fumes inside your vehicle.

Do you walk or run in urban areas? Surely you're increasing your risk of attack.

Better stay inside and not take any risks then. Except that obesity and inactivity are the biggest drivers to poor health, immobility and increasing the burdens on the NHS that there are.

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