OH has covid and he's not arsed if the rest of us get ill

This. Whatever contagious illness you have you should try just to give it to others. That's just common courtesy.

This is true.

However, people should be washing their hands anyway, and he also shouldn't try and kiss OP if she's been clear she doesn't want him to. Covid or not.

Massive squishes @PercyThePigsMum i don’t think you are being unreasonable. I have a crappy immune system and if I’m ill I tell folks at home and elsewhere. I minimise contact, watch what I’m touching, no kissing and hugging etc. I don’t love with my DP and offer him the option of us not seeing each other at weekends etc if I’m ill to save him being more likely to catch it.

chap had a sore throat nearly weeks ago but we put it down to workplace stress at the time. Last week I came down with a stinking cold, migraines etc all started with a sore throat. I’ll be ill for 2 weeks - he always has fleeting and mild symptoms.

last year we both had flu. I ended up with pneumonia and ill for nearly a month. He had a week of night and day tablets and fine with no time of work.

I think it’s common courtesy and illness etiquette especially if you have young folks or weakened immune systems in your circles.

It’s airbourne so what is the point walking around with a dettol wipe?! It’s pointless really, you can catch viruses anywhere. He should listen to you if you prefer to keep him away out of respect, but I doubt it will do very much to prevent you being ill.

That's just not true though is it? No one likes a liar x

I have been fully vaccinated so am hoping that it will be mild for me. But for others it could still be serious with long-term effects - I would not like to be responsible for anyone else getting very ill. It's potential to cause serious illness has not gone away.

I have covid at the moment. The only reason I tested is because I have friends and family who are either simply vulnerable by reason of age or immune-compromised. I will keep out of their way. l will not go to my drawing class tomorrow (all retired people) nor another social activity on Wednesday. I live on my own so have no-one here to take into consideration.

I am going to a concert on Wednesday evening and, if I am well enough to go, I will arrange to sit at the back and wear a mask.

It is just common courtesy.

COVID is highly contagious airborne disease.That's its thing. I can't believe you've all forgotten.

Wiping stuff down isn't the way to avoid it. Ventilation and distance are.

It can affect some people very lightly and some people very badly, so you might just be passing on a light cold or you might be passing on a wretched flu with long-term effects.

Opps it does it bit! Sorry OP. But respect is either there or not, not usually selective.

The things you've asked him to do are not unreasonable. That's just basic courtesy with any illness

This reads so bad, like “please tell me how bad your marriage is” 😂

Washing hands, not sneezing in people's face is basic manners.
Not being respectful is not acceptable.

It makes no difference if it's covid or something else. Most people don't test, you are just as likely to catch it from schools, public transports, supermarket without even noticing.

Wow, do you actually buy tests and keep them in, didn’t know anyone was still testing.

Covid is extremely contagious and the chances are if one family member has it others will get it, regardless of precautions. YABU.

I bet this isn’t the only area in which he’s selfish is it OP? Where he doesn’t treat you as an equal?

It’s about respect. Whether it’s a cold, covid or a tummy bug, people who respect you as an equal do give a shit if you get ill. Arseholes who feel they are superior to you don’t give a shit. After all you are there to look after the kids if they get ill, it won’t bother him. Dick.

she has said, he is wanting kisses, not washing his hands, and getting right up into the face of his child. None of this is acceptable behaviour with any infection, a cold, flu, covid, whatever

It's a shitty way to behave. I've recently recovered from covid and I was terribly ill for a week, I stayed away from my family as much as possible because I just didn't want them to catch it and feel as horrible as I did.

My other half slept into spare room and we kept apart as much as possible. Nobody else in the house caught it.

I tested for covid because I knew from experience how rotten it can be and I didn't want to pass it on to anyone , especially vulnerable people.

What do you mean he's fine, you mean his symptoms aren't very bad?

The point is, it's not a covid thread - I think the OP is saying it doesn't matter what sickness her DP has, he is crap at basic hygiene and not passing on his germs to others/the rest of the family.

Which, yes, is thoughtless and crap IMO.

COVID is irrelevant, if you have any virus you should do what you can to stop the spread. We are lucky enough to have a spare room and if one of us is sick we sleep there to minimise the chance of infection

What is he doing or not doing specifically that is spreading the virus?

Are you actually ill or just think you will get ill?