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To not give builders food

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ThiswillDoItsfine · 10/06/2024 13:43

Help me settle this difference of opinion. I have a company coming out in 3 weeks time to install a lot of fencing. I mentioned to dh that I will get them coffee, tea, and biscuits/cookies in to have with drinks. Dh is saying just the drinks is fine, and for me to just offer it as and when. The job is going to take 2 days. I want to give the men something to eat as well, at the very least.
DH is then saying he doesn't want them trailing through the house, which I do understand. However, I was going to set a table outside with a flask, tea bags, coffee, milk & sugar, and bowl of biscuits so that they could help themselves. I thought this would be less restricting and mean that they can get it when they want, without waiting for me to ask. I also think it saves me running around when i have a child to look after. DH is saying that this is well over the top.

Is this okay? Or is it wrong i set this up outside for them? It is an outdoor job, so I thought it would be easier all around, and they'll be working hard.

Thank you.

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spriots · 10/06/2024 14:09

VickyEadieofThigh · 10/06/2024 14:02

We had builders in fitting a new kitchen recently- two weeks all told.

They brought their own kettle, tea and coffee, milk and mugs (and all own food).

I've provided beverages a couple of times a day in the past but it seems well over the top doing it any more than twice.

That is my experience too

I have found - apologies for the stereotyping - that Eastern European tradesmen seem to bring their own and look a bit bemused if you try to offer them anything. But British tradesmen will almost always welcome a tea/coffee.

I always offer to anyone working in our home but that's my experience of the outcome

ThiswillDoItsfine · 10/06/2024 14:08

VickyEadieofThigh · 10/06/2024 14:02

We had builders in fitting a new kitchen recently- two weeks all told.

They brought their own kettle, tea and coffee, milk and mugs (and all own food).

I've provided beverages a couple of times a day in the past but it seems well over the top doing it any more than twice.

Wow what fantastic builders! It is a lot, and I'm one of those people that will ask every hour or two, so it's best I just have it set out. I'm also useless at remembering how many sugars, milk, strong, mugs getting mixed up etc. Last time it was just getting all mixed up. I want to go about my day with my young child, and will tell them just to give me a shout if they need anything else.

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Commonsense22 · 10/06/2024 14:07

ThiswillDoItsfine · 10/06/2024 13:49

@LlynTegid we thankfully have a downstairs toilet, as long as tjey take boots off they can use this. DH is saying they'll have a bottle in their van if they need a wee, and they will be driving off for breaks and can go in supermarket around corner. 😩

Your DH is being awful and setting himself up for having a poor job done.
With tradesmen, access to a decent toilet is one of their biggest / fair requests. And what if the team includes a woman? Is she also going to use a bottle?

Rubbishconfession · 10/06/2024 14:07

I came on to say don't give them food. But then read you're giving them biscuits, which is standard.

Most builders come prepared with drinks/food so they won't be gasping for your biscuits, but your DH is still pretty tight if he begrudges them a 50p pack of biscuits.

ThiswillDoItsfine · 10/06/2024 14:05

Singleandproud · 10/06/2024 14:01

I would set up a picnic table before they arrive with tea bags, coffee sachets, small milk, our camping kettle, mugs, box of biscuits and a cool box with ice and some cans / bottle of lemonade and coke in. It won't cost much, they'll appreciate it and do a good job.

For the toilet they'll probably nip off to a supermarket, but if you are worried about their boots on the floor buy some of those blue shoe covers and just say, "the loos downstairs on your right if you could just pop these boot covers on we've just done the carpet/floor"

Edited

That sounds really nice. I'll probably just stick a couple of cold cans of pop/bottles of water out, the weather isn't that hot atm. I have a flask so I'll just fill that with hot water, and some fresh milk in a jug. I was just going to get a load of individually wrapped biscuits, Mars bars etc because they'll have dirty hands.
Honestly 😂it is such a process!!

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VickyEadieofThigh · 10/06/2024 14:02

We had builders in fitting a new kitchen recently- two weeks all told.

They brought their own kettle, tea and coffee, milk and mugs (and all own food).

I've provided beverages a couple of times a day in the past but it seems well over the top doing it any more than twice.

BardsAreAssholes · 10/06/2024 14:01

I do teas and coffees. I don't offer biscuits because I don't have them in as a rule.

In my experience most workmen (workwomen?) come with a flask and water bottle anyway, and go off to the nearest Greggs around 11 ish.

ThiswillDoItsfine · 10/06/2024 14:01

When we had a building project done in the past, acouple of the workers were lovely, and thanked me for looking after them. It was a lot running back and forth with multiple cups of tea etc made different ways. This is why I think this time it'll be easier all around if they have the freedom to get it as and when. The plasterers however were awful, blasted music, they were ignorant, and disappeared for a 2 hour lunch break. We didn't realise they had gone!

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Singleandproud · 10/06/2024 14:01

I would set up a picnic table before they arrive with tea bags, coffee sachets, small milk, our camping kettle, mugs, box of biscuits and a cool box with ice and some cans / bottle of lemonade and coke in. It won't cost much, they'll appreciate it and do a good job.

For the toilet they'll probably nip off to a supermarket, but if you are worried about their boots on the floor buy some of those blue shoe covers and just say, "the loos downstairs on your right if you could just pop these boot covers on we've just done the carpet/floor"

Justrolledmyeyesoutloud · 10/06/2024 13:58

I always make workman tea and a bacon buttie plus biscuits, ignore dh op!!

Poppysmom22 · 10/06/2024 13:58

I always set up hot drinks and squash and biscuits on a table with some chairs when we have workmen in I hate running around making drinks like a stepford so this way they can just get on and have one when they are ready. I also let them use the loo when they want to but I know on MN that makes me an aberration

redalex261 · 10/06/2024 13:57

My brother’s (very small) business with four staff always prices in a portaloo for the staff to save asking for toilet access which some people don’t like (and the workers hate asking) if the job is longer than two days. They appreciate tea and biscuits, occasionally get a bacon roll with the morning tea! Depends on the client, but it’s not expected.

They’ve always observed the posher the house the less hospitable the client!

Ilovemyshed · 10/06/2024 13:57

For longer projects (we had builders around for a year on and off) they sort out a portaloo. We did regular drinks all the time for our builders, plus warm sausage rolls on bitterly cold days and ice lollies on blazing hot ones. We got to know their working pattern so it was easy to have the kettle ready for 6 mugs worth !

DogInATent · 10/06/2024 13:56

Bignanna · 10/06/2024 13:52

No, but if there’s a cafe nearby, I would hope they’d go there. I hate workmen using our loo

I bet they love charging you $&%$ tax on your bill though.

IWantToBeASleepingCat · 10/06/2024 13:56

I always offer workemen / women tea and biscuits or cake..
My gardener comes every two weeks.. he gets the same.
Not sandwiches or anything they usually bring their own snap.. but a fresh brew and a biscuit is polite and friendly.

ThiswillDoItsfine · 10/06/2024 13:56

Catname · 10/06/2024 13:52

Drinks and biscuits are a minimum. At the front door is fine. If you don't want to be traipsing back and forth for them, put the kettle/hot water flask and supplies there for them with a washable rug/dust sheets to stand on. Do offer that that can use the toilet otherwise they will pee in your garden - in fact, they might well do that anyway ☹️

It'll be in the back garden so I was just going to set the table out on the patio next to our door. I just remember somebody saying that it is less restrictive when they can just get a drink when they want, help themselves, rather than being asked like children, and then making it wrong, or not quite how they like their tea etc.

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DaisyChain505 · 10/06/2024 13:56

Order yourself a box of disposable shoe covers so they can use them when using your bathroom.

I think tea coffee and a few packs of biscuits isn’t going to break the bank and is more than acceptable to offer.

Pritas · 10/06/2024 13:55

Twice a day go out with a tray of drinks and a plate of biscuits. That's what I do.
Offer cans of cold drinks if the weather is hot.

DogInATent · 10/06/2024 13:55

Tea, coffee, water on a hot day, plus access to a toilet. That's basic good manners when you've got workmen in. Biscuits optional!

I wouldn't leave it set-up as a table though. Have a word with the boss or team leader and ask them what time they'd like a brew. They'll have their break times during the day.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 10/06/2024 13:54

Bignanna · 10/06/2024 13:52

No, but if there’s a cafe nearby, I would hope they’d go there. I hate workmen using our loo

Why? That's what a toilet is for! If they are there for 2 days you'd be really unreasonable to refuse them access to a toilet

Ilovemyshed · 10/06/2024 13:53

Definitely offer them to use the loo, put floor protector down if needed, but they will remove boots. Separate hand towel, preferably a dark colour.

Offer a hot drink on arrival, again at around 11 with a biscuit. Lunchtime drink if they want one and something mid afternoon, 3 pm ish again with a biscuit or cake.

AzureSheep · 10/06/2024 13:52

When we had our garden fence replaced it took 2 days, and it was really hot weather. I supplied water / squash, biscuits and crisps, and offered tea and coffee if they wanted it. They all seemed grateful to have been offered anything at all.

I think it’s the decent thing to do if you can afford it.

HJ40 · 10/06/2024 13:52

OMG, you have to let them use the loo FFS.

Cornishpasty342 · 10/06/2024 13:52

Your DP sounds miserable OP! We would always make tea/coffee and provide biscuits for anyone doing work in or around the house. We had some patio work done recently and I offered tea/coffee any time I made myself one and put a box of biscuits outside for them to help themselves. They had access to the downstairs toilet and I made sure they knew there was cold soft drinks in the fridge if they needed a cold drink. On their last day, I bought them pies/sausage rolls/cakes from the local bakery. They were so appreciative and did a great job. My parents would always make soup, breakfast rolls or sandwiches for any workers. It’s not expected but I think a cup of tea and a biscuit is polite!

Quittingwifework · 10/06/2024 13:52

Sorry just realised your project is only 2 days - totally different. I would do tea/coffee yes, and let them use loo!