Let me start by saying I like my MIL but this situation is making me start to resent her.
DS(3) was at nursery 3 days a week whilst I work, my husband works FT. My MIL has recently retired and suggested we move him to a 9-3 nursery which is significantly cheaper due to the shorter hours and she would do the wrap around after nursery 3 days and before 2 (I can manage the other 1).
Despite this arrangement being her idea she seems to take it all very casually, randomly announcing she can no long collect X day like it’s no big deal which causes a stres on my husband and I working out who will get him. In addition to this she decided it would be easier to bring him back to our house which means I have to sort his dinner these 3 days for her to heat up and he’s here whilst I’m trying to work. instead of watching him she just leaves him to do whatever in the house whilst playing on her iPad or doing this like sort the dishwasher. Most of the time he ends up coming into my study and I have to try look after him and work. My husband sat her down and asked her to leave the dishwasher or whatever and concentrate on looking after him, it hasn’t made a difference.
we can’t change the situation now as I don’t want to move him again and cause disruption, we’ll need to cope until he starts school next year. But AIBU to think why on earth did you suggest this when you clearly don’t want to do it?!
im finding it harder to be around her because she’s making my life harder than it used to be.