Dating short men

Let’s not pretend ‘tall’ isn’t on the wish list for the majority of women. Not sure what you having a nasty 5ft 11 ex has to do with anything.

Oh ha ha, I see now. 😄 Thanks for explaining. 🤗

Exactly
If his height bothers you so much then let him be and let someone else enjoy his company.
Obviously people like what they like and you want a tall man, but turning down a lovely decent man because of his height seems a bit sad tbh

Not eat ... I meant early 🫣

It's not necessarily his height that's making you question yourself, it may be that in your post you felt he was over keen.
He may have been on first dates before, and felt he didn't get a further date because of his height... therefore because he had a good rapport with you, and you came across to him as interesting, he wants you to know that he'd like a second date... he well might've seemed too interested, but because of previous rejection, he's wanting you to know that if you are up for a second date, so is he.

I believe the whole "man taller than woman" thing has been drilled into us from an early age, so ear, that we don't even realise.
Also media would have you believe the same thing.
Similarly, you feel the "protective factor" in a much taller man.

Personally, I have known men an inch taller than I, they have been great personalities etc, but no matter how much I berated myself, I couldn't go to the next stage with them.
Weirdly tho my man that I've been with for well over twenty years is only a couple of inches taller, and I think he's sexy, funny fun, caring and compatible to the degree I never want him not to share my life.
This is why I said it's not necessarily the height alone.
Maybe try a couple more dates, be mindful not to give him false hope.
Lots of inches taller than you, is no guarantee to a happy ending.
Good luck!

Ha no. Worded ambiguously. The 6’3 was awkward as he was so tall. Then the next one was only 2 inches taller THAN ME. So 5’9. I found it a more comfortable fit

However, if you are short leave the tallest one for us. 🤣🤣🤣

But the man in question isn’t shorter than the OP. He’s taller.

What makes me cringe even more.... (and I have known a few blokes like this) is when a man says they like women to be small, and 'petite' and 'tiny' and 'dainty' like fucking Tinkerbell! 😆 I've known a few men who want a woman at least 10 to 12 inches shorter than them, weighing no more than eight stone and being a size six to eight. They need to be tiny.

Even my brother occasionally describes a tiny woman like it's a really positive and amazing thing ... eg; this (female) salesperson came into his workplace the other day. He described her as 'so tiny, so teeny tiny,' and then puts his hand (palm facing down) virtually down by his waist to describe this small and teeny tiny woman - like it's really endearing and amazing and attractive to be teeny tiny. It's just as naff as thinking it's somehow superior, and better and more attractive to be taller (than it is to be shorter.)

My DH is 5 foot 9, and I am 5 ft 2. We match very well IMO. I don't think I'd want to be with any man any taller than him. He says he would not want a woman over 5 ft 5.

I think it would make things really awkward to have more than 8 inches difference in height. My friends is 5 foot 9, and says she could never be with a man less than 6 foot 5, which I think is really odd because we really are an extraordinarily low amount of men that tall!

I'm 5'1, DP is 5'4 (he says 5'5 but...) he's absolutely not my traditional type but he's so confident in who he is that the height thing has never been an issue. He's 100x nicer, kinder and funnier a human than my ex who met my "criteria". It does get frustrating when we have to reach high and neither of us can manage so we have to get the stepladder out though.
Dont discount just on the height. DP never mentioned it to me either but it wasn't because he was hiding it, it was because it genuinely didn't enter his consciousness as it matters so little to him.

A big turn off if the guy is shorter than me. You can find a guy that get on with you and is tall. If you are asking yourself this you are kidding yourself to carry on. Do not waste time and go for what you really like. A bit taller would not do it for me either.

my tall dark and handsome practice husband was abusive as hell to me.. my really tall dark and drop dead gorgeous boyfriend at 30 years old and single, was lovely but had commitment issues with kids and spoiler alert..I had one lol..so I ended it with many tears. Then at 34 .. I met him. Short (not really but much shorter than my type) blonde hair blue eyed dad to two boys that he had full custody of. 25 years later here we are retired early in the dominican republic and I would not trade him for the world

I’m 5’7 and only date taller men. I have dated a guy that was 5’9 and I felt like I couldn’t wear heels or proper clothes with him.

It does sound superficial. Why are short men considered unattractive? The tall dark and handsome myth should have died years ago.

I don’t. Never have. An ex of mine was 5 foot 11 and a nasty bastard.

would much rather have a short, sexy and lovely guy than a tall one who is intimidating.

i find tall men intimidating and not particularly sexy.

having said that I wouldn’t bin one of just because of his tallness if he genuinly was nice

husband number 1. 6 foot 2. then met long term relationship guy.. he was lovely but did not want to be a stepfather or a dad..so I ended it.. 6'7. met my husband who adopted my daughter. Not tall dark and handsome. Shorter than my normal..blonde hair blue eyes (NOT MY TYPE) he is 5 foot 9. says he is 5'10 but he is delusional lol. I am 5'3 so he is still taller than me but short compared to my "type" Now he is my type because I love him and how he loves our family. He was a single dad so i have two bonus sons as well. Don't pigeonhole yourself on types.

Attraction doesn’t have to be logical or thought-out. It’s an animal instinct isn’t it? I would never outright rule out any particular ‘type’ of man but there are things that I am less attracted to. I have never been attracted to a very stocky rugby type man for example. I am generally not very attracted to men who aren’t hairy. I have also never been attracted to a very short man. I can’t make myself fancy someone. And yes, long-term, it’s not going to be looks that matter but character, but there usually does need to be some strong physical attraction, at least at the very start.

Nowt wrong with short men, except the ones who have a chip on their shoulder (which I know is because of societal pressure and expectation that being tall is better). My DD, who is 5ft 1 went out with a lad who is about 5ft 3. Really lovely young man- except he had a massive chip on his shoulder about his height unfortunately. He was deeply insecure and would bring it up in conversation to moan bitterly about it. His height didn’t put her off, but his bitterness and insecurity did.

@HerORMe

??? I don't get this. So you are 5 ft 7, and a man of 6 ft 3 was too short and so the relationship was not good. But a man 6 ft 5 - Just TWO inches taller than the previous man, made things much better???

But the first man was 8 inches taller than you. Does a man have to be 10 inches or more taller before you will date them?

Look, OP, everyone wants a tall guy. There obviously aren't enough to go around. I would genuinely try to get past this. I also think you may be more easily being 'put off' by his keenness because he isn't tall too. God forbid someone be honest with you and express his happiness at having met you. Give yourself a talking to.

No. Most of my partners have been on the (very) short side.

A decent man is so hard to find these days, I wouldn't even think about binning one off due to his height!

The nerve of him being a few inches taller than you and enthusiastic and complimentary about seeing you again - throw him back OP and be sure to worship your next partner every day for the extra inches of height he provides so you can be protected from the plagues descending from above.

You can’t help who and why your attracted to someone
I like tall men
my husband is 6ft 4 and I’m 5ft 6
I wouldn’t date someone who was only a few inches taller than me

These threads go both ways on Mumsnet - like many others it depends on the first few comments and in this case, fortunately, they were fairly kind. If you posted this in another day you’d have loads of replies telling you how disgusted they are by short men and how you shouldn’t even entertain the idea of being seen with him in public.

Height is always a weird one as I think it often says more about the women who are so hung up on it than it does about anyone else. There can be some real nastiness from some women towards short men.

I think of all the men I’ve dated and there’s always been something that I wouldn’t usually go for, or something that I find a little weird/cringeworthy at first. Usually you just need to reset your expectations and you’re able to see past it.

But if you’re not attracted, you’re not attracted and you have to be honest with yourself.

It is interesting though how other physical attributed don’t elicit the same sort of soul searching. Eg someone who like blue eyes, stocky build, good hair etc doesn’t post to Mumsnet if they go on a good date with someone who doesn’t fit that description. And most people wouldn’t dare say out loud anything about a lazy eye, cleft lip or big ears - but height is seen as acceptable and undertsandable to question.

My husband is 2 inches taller than me and I am the same height as you 5ft 2. It has no bearing on our life at all except we don't have to adjust the drivers seat every time which is a bonus.

im 5 7. My husband was 5 4.

Bothered us not one bit. And he was gorgeous.