Dating short men

It would be an issue for me because I’m 5’9” and I just don’t find men shorter than me attractive.

I don’t mind dating men the same height as me or an inch or 2 shorter. I just don’t want to be towering over a man. And that’s okay.

The same as im sure many shorter guys wouldn’t find me attractive if im towering over them.

Taller men are generally considered more attractive (I think height is linked to testosterone? It's something biological like that)

@MsCactus Really? I thought that male pattern baldness was also linked to high testosterone, but women don't usually go weak at the knees for that! 😆

I think that there's an optimal height range. Too tall is just as unattractive as too short.

I've only ever had the 1 man(romantically and physically)so ni experience in dating or even todays dating

but shorter men are actually my preference
I'm 6ft so there's a a lot out there shorter than me

i have never fancied a man taller than me

I've been in to pretty boyband types since i was a teenager in the 90s and nothing changed

i met my ex in 99 at 18 and were together until i was 40 in 2020 so i settled down young

if they are pretty, can sing and shorter than me im putty

I've always been like this but recently found out there's a term for it (term is baby girl or soft boy)

i also have a form of pogonophobia(fear of beards)im not scared it just repulses me so much
but there are women out there that finds this so sexy

im also my user name so dont need or want a tall strong man to protect me
i can do that myself

if you liked him, he was nice then give him a chance

DP is about an inch taller than me (if that). It doesn't bother me, him or anyone else. He's nice, funny, kind, clever, attractive has a big willy and lots of other things that make him who he is and love him.

Looks are fleeting, personality isn't!

I’m 5’10. DH was a wee bit shorter when we met. He’s 12 yrs older than me and has shrunk a bit more. Yes, I do feel self conscious at times. I no longer wear heels. But nearly thirty years in (I’m 51) I couldn’t imagine life without him. Sexy as! And to be honest, you don’t see height when you’re lying down! 😉

What if he was 6ft, would you be attracted to him? Or is it that you just aren't attracted to him anyway.

A lot of very short women do like to feel babied for some reason, I suppose it’s playing on being small and making it out to be cute and vulnerable?

What???

I'm 5'2 and DH is 5'4 and I always feel protected by him.

You're actually just shallow and I hope your date realises this before you get to a second one.

I know it sounds probably twee, but I feel proud/lucky every day to be his wife. I have done the 'abused partner' thing from toxic exes (accepting this treatment because of low self confidence from being in traumatic foster care homes, etc, but he saw in me what I couldnt and I do now). So I very much appreciate what we have, and never take it for granted x

@ChappellApple thats such a great story. Sounds like you have struck gold.

Taller men are generally considered more attractive (I think height is linked to testosterone? It's something biological like that), just like slim hourglass women are considered the most attractive body type.

Being a short woman doesn't mean you don't find tall men more attractive.

(Speaking as a 5ft 2" women who has basically only dated men 6ft+ because they're most attractive to me...)

OP - it depends whether you are still attracted to him. My 5ft 7" friend just married a man of 5ft 4" who is shorter than her... It wasn't the ideal height for her but she was still attracted to him.

I'm sure I could be attracted to the right short man, depends how you feel about him

Once a friend said to me that despite me being small (5 2 and just over seven stone), there was nothing cute or sweet about me. I took that as a compliment.

My previous partners were all tall (my Dad and younger brother put me off small blokes by being mysoginistic, size-provers). I eventually thought I'd come to the realisation that ALL blokes, no matter the height, were gits (when I was 27), and nothing was better than being single than being with the right one (so I was destined to remain single, and was fed up with the crappy dating scene, anyway). My friends, as a joke, put me on a dating site (this was early days old, 18 years ago). I got curious, looked, saw some 5ft bloke saying on his profile that it was a fact that he'd remain single because of his height...I thought: 'I'm not having that'. So messaged, telling him, he'd only be single forever if he was a horrible knobhead (which from my experience with blokes happens at any height), and besides, he had the loveliest eyes and he's not the only shortarse around here, try being 4ft9! (I wasn't actually chatting him up, I was not interested, it was not going anywhere, all my dates were doomed to failure, I just wanted to make him feel better...We got chatting. I phoned him (when drunk) to meet for a cup of coffee (regretted it instantly, as I was resolutely single, but decided I had to at least have a polite coffee as the poor bloke had driven 40 miles to meet me). Had such a great time, that much to my massive shock, I asked him out again...We have been together 18 years next month, 15 years married, he is the most amazing step-father to my eldest and we have a 14 year old. He is a million times more of a man than any of the offerings I previously threw back, funny, loyal, kind, sexy (even better in real life, yes, apart from those eyes, I checked out his very fit arse. I also realised it was refreshing not having it by my face at this height), fit, intelligent, great in bed (not all of him is 'travel-sized', lol), not a nasty bone in his body - and I can reach to kiss him and/or put my head on his shoulder, he has loved me, supported me and the children through some serious thick and thin - everybody loves him. I still clock-watch for when he comes in through the door. I shudder to think of all that happiness, love, laughter, companionship, my best friend and soul-mate I'd have lost out on if I had discounted him because of his height...

I find there’s an optimal range for height difference and I’m not attracted to men who fall outside this range. I’m 5’1 and I prefer men to be between 5’7 and 5’10. I recently went on a few dates with someone who couldn’t have been taller than 5’4 (though of course he added on four inches🤣). He kept holding my hand the wrong way around, like toddler, because his last girlfriend had been taller.

I must admit that I messed him around because he was a lovely person and I felt I should be with him. We’re animals….of course we prefer men who can protect us…don’t beat yourself up for your human instincts.

Wouldn't be an issue for me at all. But in general I find short men more attractive than taller men (I'm short, fwiw). It feels to me that shorter men are forced to work on their personalities more than tall men who just kind of glide through life.

We’re quite tall, I’m the shortest at 5’7” and DH is 6’2”. Our DD 5’10” is dating someone shorter than her, he’s lovely, she’s happy so it’s all good but if I see them walking along I think they look peculiar together. That’s my issue though, if she’s happy I’m happy.

YANBU, you like what you like. There's nothing wrong with having preferences. If you want a tall man, go for it.

Personally it doesn't bother me. I'm 5'11'' and dated all sorts. Shorter than me, my height, taller. My current partner is 6'2'', but I didn't choose him because he's taller than me.

It's the other way around for me. I love being Amazonian, towering over people (most of the women and quite some men, esp in heels) and hate the 'teeny weeny dainty woman with a Big Protective Bear' trope. Dated one basketball player, about 7 feet tall and didn't like it one bit. I felt short with him and hated that feeling.

That said, I wouldn't date a fat man. I'm not attracted to them. I'm skinny and like my men on the slender side. It's just my preference. I also like pretty much all the MN 'no-nos': love beards, heavily tattooed men, piercings, don't mind a smoker, wouldn't date a completely teetotal man, wouldn't date a vegan/vegetarian and much more.

Oh, I had to let one of these go a few months back! He was a couple of inches shorted than me and so skinny that he looked almost child like. I wasn't physically attracted to him in any way. He was a nice, caring and kind man however, he was also very clingy and full on from the off. It made me think that not many others were interested in him either. He gave me the ick in the end.

If he's taller than you what's the problem?

I don't see the difference between a 5'2 woman with a 5'7 man than a 5'7 woman with a 6' man.

A 6' woman with a 5'7 man does look odd (beard) but it's still ok!

In 10 years you'll back on here complaining that there are no good men, whilst the sort guy you've left will be on his 8th year of a happy marriage.

I can't relate really.

I'm 5'5'' and my DH is 5'7'' (my ex was 6'1'') - it never really crossed my mind when I met either of them. In both cases it was their personality/intelligence I was more interested in.

I guess I could understand more if you were tall yourself.

The person I know who has ever stated to be it as an issue is an acquaintance who started dating again after divorce - she is only 5'1'' but she wouldn't consider anyone under 6'. I thought it was quite blinkered. She is with a 6'+ bloke now but he is a bit of a twat - personally think her filtering process was off. Way more important things than height but, as you said, if that is what floats your boat...or do you think it is just what you're used to?

Yes, you are in the minority. Good for your SIL, hence me saying OP should push past it.

I’m the minority then. And my SIL - she is 6ft and my DB is 5ft 8. She very nearly did filter him out because of his height but 15 years later she’s very happy she didn’t.

As you have DC, Just be wary of lovebombers and cocklodgers, and dads looking for a woman to take on care of their kids in THEIR contact time.