Dating short men

Thank you for explaining. I understand the point you're making now. That there are not enough decent men available to reject one on the basis of his height. And tbf, there is some truth in that. However, I disagree that all the decent men are married by 30. People settle later in life than they did in the 90s and ime there are plenty of decent people of both sexes unmarried beyond 30, so I'd be hesitant to suggest women should be compromising on physical attraction and panic buying.

You're right I didn't make myself clear there. I'll explain it again. I do believe there are quite a few decent men around but not enough for all the women that deserve them. Most of these men will be married by the age of 30 and given that they're the ones that will be doing their share of the child care and the washing up not many of them will get divorced. So if people don't find a decent man by 30 the odds of finding one after 30 reduce significantly

Some women rule out these decent men for superficial reasons. These women may struggle to find a decent man later in life as many of those men will eventually find a women who does value them and will be happily married.

You're muddling me now with your 'logical arguing'. On one hand you say there are plenty of decent men. On the other hand you say there are only a few. In one post you say these decent men are being bypassed in favour of the T,D&H yet also claim they are all snapped up in marriage by age 30. So, which is it, plenty of short plain decent men hanging around being ignored in favour of wrong uns by daft women, or a precious few short plain decent men who are all married young and therefore unavailable? And if its the second, why are so many short men complaining theyre ignored when really there's barely a bachelor left amongst them?

Either resolve to get over it or stop wasting his time. Make your decision quickly.

Of course I personally think you are being totally unreasonable. This obsession with height, just as what type of mobile phone he has and the rest of this nonsense has become really toxic in modern dating.

I'm 5'8" and I've dated taller and shorter men. Makes no difference to me. Probably one of the strongest and most "masculine" men I dated was actually shorter than me (he was a weightlifter).

5'3 wife here, married to NOT MY TYPE 5'9 husband. He is blond (well as we age he is more light brown) He has blue eyes. He is (now retired at 57, so obviously did something right on that front also) not my type at all. And I KNEW instantly that he was my husband. My exhusband was my physical type, 6'2 and a business man. he abused me. My boyfriend that I loved very much after my divorce for two years, was 6'7 tall dark handsome. A major government exec.He was not abusive in the least, lovely, except he hated kids and I had one. So I ended it. Then I met my husband at my dads work bbq. Not my type at all but my god, I wouldn't trade anyone in the world for him. I was not physically attracted at first (except his bum...omg what a butt!) Now I think he is the best looking man on the planet. His chest hairs have gone grey, he has a bit of a tummy now, and his hairline is receding. Still the most handsome man I have ever met (lets face it, I am not as young or hot as I was either lol) Looks are fleeting. Do not judge a man on them (unless he has gross dirty clothes and doesn't bathe..then run lol)

I'm 5'11". The shortest guy I dated was 5'7". My first big love was 5'8". So obviously I don't care. My husband was a whisker taller than me.
Contrary to you, I feel physically weird in the company of much taller people (men and women). My cousin (6') married a woman 5'2" and I always thought her neck must ache from craning it to look up at people.
Each to their own though. It's just as reasonable to refer taller people as, say, red heads. Whatever floats your boat!

Preference is ok

Not in detail. I often watch ACDC, aircraft spotting and hearing aid review films on YouTube.

I like looking at maps too.

😆

she’s never enquired what you’re tapping away on every evening?

Argue logically? I suppose I do.

other posters will know exactly what i mean 😆

Some of them are. Some are not. So the small number of decent men are married ( and very often stay married) before they are 30.

Finding a decent man after 30 is difficult.

Not at all. Nor should it.

Does what?

Well didn't you say that young women were by passing the ones who weren't tall dark and handsome? If that's correct then they'll be still available, surely? There's roughly similar amounts of women and men, so if a big group of women refuse to consider short men, there's going to be plenty of them knocking round spare. Which is a bit contradictory to you also arguing they'll all married.

Yes I was.

oh yes that one

i believe he was roundly scorned on that one?

and he always does this

imagine…. living with this! 🤦‍♀️

I was someone who wanted someone taller. At 5'9 I always went for guys that were at least 6ft. Until I met my DH, who is also 5'9. It really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things, there are far more important qualities in a person than height.

But as someone who was in your exact position 7 years ago, YABU to let a potentially good one go over something so trivial.

I posted my opinion, as I have done here, you're free to ignore me.

Post a specific comment you objected to and I'll discuss it.

You massively derailed another thread of women posting about why they enjoy being single for no apparent reason other than you don't like hearing women being happy about being single. I won't be replying again after this, as I know your pattern.

I try to be a nice guy. It is for others to judge whether I am or not.

My wife does not police my Internet behaviour. I doubt she knows. I don't think she is on Mumsnet.

We don't have children.

no it really doesn’t
i asked whether you are a nice guy
and you most certainly give the impression you think you do 🤷

Does your wife know you are so prolific on mumsnet? is she on mumsnet? do you have daughters?

Fair enough.