Dating short men

My ex is 6’3, I’m 5’7. It was actually awkward and it added nothing to the relationship. The next man I dated was about 2 inches taller and it was much better, I preferred it. But had also gotten over myself feeling I needed a “protector” and was happier to be more equal

It makes me cringe so much when women say they like to be all likkle and tiny so their Big Man can protect them.

I am five 2 and small build. I don’t need anyone to protect me, and definitely not a man.

You can't help how you feel @Shinefast When I was younger and dating, I would never and could never have been attracted to a bald man/a man who is balding. Just wasn't attracted to men who were folically challenged.

And a huge dealbreaker for me is lots of moles, specifically on the neck and above. Facial moles (and neck moles) are really unappealing to me. Each to their own.

I’m 5’9” and have had more than one short boyfriend. A friend (not much of a friend) of one suggested we looked ‘funny’ together. I found and still find it such a bizarre thing to say. If I don’t care why on earth would anyone else?

Obviously, I think you shouldn’t care either about a partner’s height. It seems such a waste of an otherwise promising relationship.

I'm four inches taller than my dh. It's never really been an issue for either of us.

I tend to value other things rather than height.

I'm glad I'm confident enough not to need " protecting". I'm 6 feet tall...dh is 5 feet 8.

Would be a total nonissue for me - personality and kindness are what I look for.

but if he’s not for you - politely decline and move on.

each to their own

I do know what you mean by the “protector” bit but there is no reason a short man can’t be a good protector. It is all down to the individual personality.
I have been out with men of various heights from about 5ft 6 to an almost 7ft giant. I am 5ft 9 so quite tall for a woman. First husband was same height as me, second husband 6ft 1. Both were shite at protecting me from anything tbh. I have always been the capable partner.
I had an enormous crush on a lecturer years ago who was about 5ft 5. If he had shown any interest I would have definitely wanted to take things further.
I am also thinking about Rob Burrows having recently watched the documentary about him after his death. He was a short man but look what he achieved and he was certainly very attractive and a great family man too.

I prefer shorter stockier men.
The worst for me is tall and skinny…
Not every woman likes tall men.

I know what you mean, I’m 5’3 married to 6’5. I’ve always thought I like tall and athletic men, “I want to climb him like a tree” sort of thing. But after a decade of marriage I actually would not recommend that… Get a short king. Compact men take less space, have smaller feet and are easier to feed. With tall one a single pair of his size 11 trainers will take half of your hallway, you will always need to go to nicer hotels as he wouldn’t fit into basic bed and always pay for extra legroom on planes as his KNEES would not fit into Ryanair seat. And feeding them is expensive, can’t get away with a piece of toast - that would burn down even before reaching the end of esophagus.

My DH is only slightly taller than me and it has never bothered me. Regarding him being keen, I much rather he was keen than doing this hot&cold crap lots of men do.
Are you sure you are not looking for faults in him in a way to protect yourself?

I think that is a good idea. I’m 5’ 7” and DH is 5’9”…he’s not that tall, but he has many sterling qualities. Give the guy another chance and then see what you think. He may be a bit keen, but there are a lot of women who won’t date short men, and he may have been looking for someone compatible for a long time. If it isn’t any good after the 2nd-3rd date, let him down kindly. I wasn’t sure about DH until about 3-4 dates in, and then I realised he was a keeper.

I'm 5'2" and I would probably struggle to fancy a man who was the same height as me, or only an inch or so taller, but there are very, very few men as short as that, so I think that's more because it would just seem jarring, much like it would be jarring if someone turned up to a date and they were 7ft. It would be startling and I'm not sure I could ever ignore it, if you see what I mean.

But I could certainly fancy a man who was, say, 5'6".

Ultimately, nobody can force themselves to be physically attracted to someone, even if they're a nice person, and I also think that first impressions are a lot more important in online dating than they are when you meet someone in a non-dating context and just sort of grow to find them attractive over time.

It's up to you, I don't think it's the height really that's bothering you.

If your debating whether you like someone or not op then that’s fair enough, there has to be something about someone that really gets your interest, be it their face, hair, arms, voice, you get the picture, but for god sake, just keep it to yourself, this sort of talk on anyone’s apparent faults in appearance is so offensive.

my partner of 20 years is my height, before I dated shorter guys and much taller. I remember really being into a guy quite a bit shorter than me, cried when he broke up with me, never thought about his height, a really tall one I remember just being incredibly big and awkward lol, but anyhow we didn’t click, you just know when your into someone and they are into you.

so male or female, just forget the bloody checklist, leave that to the sad superficial ones. However, if your debating keeping hold of a good kind man, who you don’t really fancy as he’s apparently defective in some area, like height, then cut him loose to find someone who will fancy and cherish him and vice versa and concentrate on finding a tall man, who possibly won’t be great in terms of a future together, but at least he will be tall.

only you know when someone is right for you, we don’t!

The average height for a man is 5ft 10 so there will be lots of men who are shorter than that.

I'm just over 5ft 5 and I wouldn't like to date someone shorter than me (which is very few men), or anybody extremely tall. Aside from these two extremes, height isn't something that I particularly notice.

I am only 5'1 myself! As long as the guy was at least a bit taller than me I wouldn't care about height, although I prefer not too tall. Years ago I dated a guy who was about 6'5 and used to hate him holding my hand when we walked, I felt like a child being led around!

I've been out with men the same height as me (5ft 5in) one shorter than me and taller than me. Dp is 6ft 2in and I love it and don't think I could ever go for someone less than 6ft now. I know that sounds really shallow but you like what you like 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would go on a second date, and keep an open mind. I'd want to be attracted to him though, so if the whole package isn't what you want, just move on. I think it's foolish to dismiss people based on height, but it's also foolish not to think attraction isn't important.

Well Ime most tall men prefer short women 🤷‍♀️

You can stop dating someone for whatever reason you like.

However throwing away someone good because of their height is probably a bit short-sighted (pun not intended).

I used to be similar- would only date tall men (I'm 5'10") and ruled out anyone who was shorter than 6 foot on their dating profile. Took a chance with my current DP, who didn't have his height in his profile, he's the same height as me. We got on like a house on fire and have been together for 5 years, I couldn't imagine anyone better suited for me.

I sometimes think about the fact that had he put his height in his profile I would have swiped left and never met him. I am so grateful he didn't.

My husband was same height at me( 5ft7).
I've had a relationship with a man at 6ft 3 and a guy at 5ft 4.
Didn't bother me at all.

It really is ok not to be attracted to someone- including for reasons of height.

You don't have to give him an explanation that includes height as a reason, in the same way you wouldn't say 'i don't like your face or eyes or political views...' they just don't need to know this early on.

Easy for you to say at your height- mist men are taller than you! It’s a struggle as a woman over 5’7 as men seem to be getting shorter! 🤣 A man at 5’7 is tiny to me 🙏🏼😳🤣

You shorter ladies need to save the taller men for us tall ones! I’m 5 ‘7 and it seems most men are too short for me these days! How do you think we feel? 😂🤣🤣