I have a long lost relative who lives abroad. Let’s say a half brother. I do not know him personally but we’re about the same age, I have learned from his blog that he visits the uk on a regular basis. I do not get to meet him on any of these visits and I cannot help feeling upset about this, I think we could have nice days together. So I have asked my parents about arranging a meeting, but they advised me to forget it, because they are not in touch with him either and do not seem to think it’s realistic. Other relatives who could have introduced me have bluntly refused to co-operate. So it’s all a bit awkward. I’m thinking I should just go ahead and write to him myself. But then I’m not sure if that would work out because I’ve been discouraged from doing so. Also I don’t know what to say. But on the other hand, if I don’t write, I will continue to feel sad about the loss of what could be a valuable friendship. This leaves me wondering- Should I get in touch regardless of what anyone else thinks?
YABU- it’s probably too late to build a relationship. Your parents are just trying to protect you and they must have good reasons. Forget about it or you’ll get hurt.
YANBU- Go ahead and contact him. You only live once and the worst he can do is ignore you. You have nothing to lose and you may as well.
Any advice on exactly how to phrase a potential message is also much appreciated. Because I don’t really know what to say. TIA