DP talking a lot about another woman?

He sounds a real peach, wanting a woman to provide for him.

"He says that he can talk about this lady as much as he wants and it's my issue if it's making me feel odd, and that I'm insecure and need to look at myself."

What a horrible comment.

He fancies her as well as covets her bank balance.

Your partner sounds like he has a severe case of the green eyed monster. Riddled with jealousy of his mate for having a wealthy GF. Hopefully he'll come to terms with it and it'll pass and it won't turn into a case of 'I could have that too..' and resentment or devaluing of you because you don't provide the same. The slightest whiff of that, or any comparisons, and I'd have him on his way.

Maybe you need to think about whether or not you could get ‘better’

You are seeing him clearly, and that is so helpful.
This is painful but unfortunately it is what it is.
Now you know, you have time to prepare for what looks like an inevitability.
Make sure you have any paperwork regarding his salary, etc. so that you can make a CMS payment quickly.
Thank goodness you returned to work.
There is no need to rush any decision.
Take your time and suit yourself, but it would be wise to be quietly prepared.
Accept support from family and friends.

The girlfriend is the least of your worries.
What a nasty little worm he is.
The minute you queried it he turned viciously on you. Ugly little man.
As for the "didn't settle" remark.
Vile.
Not the words of a man who loves you.
Take this as a heads up that you are with a nasty prick.
Quietly get yourself organised.
Tell family and friends the truth and be ready.
He doesn't respect or particularly care for you and it's only a matter of time.
Be ready.
I'm so sorry.

I think you should focus on the way he spoke to you when you raised an issue that was making you feel insecure or less valued in your relationship.

It doesn't really matter what that issue was.

A loving partner would have responded sensitively and with concern for your feelings and tried to understand, whatever the issue.

He responded dismissively and told you it's a "you" issue.

If my husband did that it would be a pretty big step in the direction of a divorce.

You know what they say about money talking and wealth whispering. You don't know how much of her lifestyle is built on debt either. People with family money don't tend to splash it around that easily on depreciating assets and paying for holidays for boyfriends. That's why there is family money.

However, the comments that " Brian held out long enough and met someone great who can provide"... saying that Brian didn't settle until he found someone "really good" send shivers down my spine. He does seem to be comparing you unfavourably and unfairly. I suspect most men aren't talking about wanting a girlfriend who can "provide". With a bit of luck though this woman will continue to prefer Brian and/or move on to somebody else because she has options. There seems no suggestion that she had given your grasping partner a second thought. He might want these things but he's not likely to get them as presumably wealthy women are not now throwing themselves at him. I am presuming he is not darkly handsome, 6 foot 3 with superbly chiselled facial features, and a six pack as well as sparkling wit and great personal charm.

Your partner is behaving very badly in plain sight.

He says that he can talk about this lady as much as he wants and it's my issue if it's making me feel odd, and that I'm insecure and need to look at myself.

Well it's not necessarily a big issue talking a lot about another person (although it could mean he has a bit of a crush or something)... it's reasonable that you brought it up.

But regardless of that, this comment from him is horrendous and shows a complete lack of regard for you and your feelings. Certainly not selling himself as good partner/ husband material there.

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I would just say who cares and change the subject. It would get on my wick tbh

He shows you what he really thinks is important, he's shallow and jealous of his friend. It's not a good look tbh.

I'd say something similar to your last post to him. That basically he's as shallow as a puddle and it's really making you want to move on without him. That if he's only interested in the trappings of life there's not much point to him.

He sounds envious as tho he wants a rich girlfriend to provide for him.

If he mentions how lucky Brian is I'd say "he is isn't he, I'd love a rich partner who could take care of me"

This juvenile oaf is constantly gushing about her to neg you. In his small mind, he has settled for you and failed to hold out for ‘someone great who can provide.’

Surely you have the ick and will give him the heave ho.

He sounds really shallow and materialistic. Not attractive.

I'd be asking him to ask Brian's gf if she has any brothers or if her dad is single and if so, give her my number to pass on.

Honestly what a fucking plank he's being. It doesn't sound like mentionitis for crush he has, it just sounds childish, like Brian's got the latest game console and newest trainers that he wants, but his mum has said he needs to ask santa.
I've got the ick on your behalf OP, sorry hen, but he sounds crap.

I'm not materialistic as such but I'm someone who would love the freedom that comes attached to wealth but to have a fully grown adult fixating on another person's car or lifestyle is very peculiar IMO.

It just sounds like he's kind of jealous in a way, but more like he's kind of living vicariously through Brian's life with all these supposed luxuries and gifts. I'd bet he'd be absolutely enthralled if she chucked poor old Brian off for some billionaire Monaco dwelling plutocrat. It seems a bit like a soap opera. One you're not particularly interested in. Quite reasonably.
Can you just say you find the subject of Brian's girlfriend and her money incredibly tedious? He may think you find it as exciting as he does? God knows why but sometimes people just need to be told to drop a certain subject.

That would definitely be a ..you know what cheerio..I'm going to hold out for someone good.bye bye fuckwit.

Agree with other pp. He is obviously obsessed with money.
His comment about holding out for a wealthy partner is so disrespectful to you. He is shining a light on what his values are and how much your relationship means to him versus his materialistic aspirations.

He doesn't sound as if he would show much loyalty to you if someone he considered a better financial opportunity came along. I think you should seriously consider if he is the type of person you want to share your life with.

He sounds like a total prat

Holding out for a wealthy woman?

Boak