Disgusting wedding photos

the photographer will have given you the pictures she (or he) considered to be the best. But there will be others!

Tell the photographer that you want those she took from a different angle.

Go back and ask them to edit them, double chins can easily be removed with photo editing

Mind boggling isn’t it!

I complained about our wedding photos, they were awful. I had a tree growing out oh my head, ugly fences in rear. They were then modified, so a bit better!

Agreed that the person officially taking photos at my wedding wasn't great and it was when I got candids from friends that I found some I absolutely loved.

The same thing happened to me. But then I had loads of friends photos choose from and ended up with lots of nice photos

Two words: Adobe photoshop.

Most professional photographers tweak people's appearance- including making them look better. Slimmer, blemishes take out, eyes brighter &c.

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How disappointing for you. Can understand you’re upset. One possible consideration is are you being objective? Does your husband agree you look bad in them? I ask only because one can build up their expectations and project a lot into their wedding photos and set an impossible bar. Equally, do you have any issues with body dysmorphia ? Or perhaps a wake up call around weight ? Sometimes I don’t realise I’ve let myself get a bit plump until I see photos of myself and realise I have a double chin? I ask not to be unkind, but just to check you are able to appraise objectively?

Most of my official ones are awful, and I was very annoyed too. Luckily we have good photos taken by family and friends. Definitely worth asking to see more photos though.

The photographer may have more pictures. Shes just showed you the ‘best’ ones.
So ask if she has more and if you can see them all

Just to add, while it may well be that these photographs are taken from an odd angle and aren't good, have you slept on them or asked what others think? When I first got my wedding photographs, I was so critical of myself, drawn to every imperfection in myself. But, as time goes on, I look at them and see that I look beautiful. Everyone else thought the photographs were lovely. But, at first, I just couldn't see it.

This is true. The nicest wedding photo we have was taken by DH's brother.

Crouching down is a weird way to take photos. Some photographers seem addicted to it and don't seem to think about how this looks on the average normal person as opposed to a 19yo model.

I would get in touch with the photographer and suggest they do some free photoshopping at the very least. Get your guests to upload their photos to a cloud or something - you will be amazed at how some of your nicest pics will be ones that someone just randomly snapped with their phone!

"I wanted to sue him but DH wouldn’t let me"

@Miriad you didn't need your new husband's permission to do so. If he thinks you did, then you need to take stock of your marriage.

You need to speak to them as there’s probably more photos and may be some you like. If not I think a post wedding shoot is a good idea although it does seem unfair if you are having to pay for a shoot, hair and make up etc.
Maybe you can get some money back.

Definitely ask to see more photos and explain why.

@whitebreadjamsandwich that's lovely of you and great advice
Is seriously expect a photographer in any arena to portray all clients inns faltering light

Im a wedding photographer

Did the photographer have lots of this alternative angle in their portfolio?

Did they shoot your main parts of the day 'normally', or was it all done from a crouched position?

How long have they been a photographer and how much did yoh pay?

Happy to take a quick look to see if the images are of a professional standard and in line with their portfolio - if they arent, then you may be able to ask for a refund

I certainly do my best to make my brides look as lovely as they possibly can, so I always shoot portraits/couples/groups from flattering angles!!

You pay the photographer to be the professional. You shouldn't have to do it yourself.

Do you also tell your dog how to bark?

Sorry to feel so let down but there is a solution.

Whilst not 'let down' we actually had a 'post wedding shoot' where we put our outfits back on and had photos.

It was fun , relaxed, waaaaaay less pressure. Naturally, it was just us (no guests!) but please consider it

That wouldn't have occurred to me on my wedding day. That's not something you think of or understand that's the professionals job. How would op have guessed this is how the pics would look? 🙄

The photographer was looking through the camera, so they should have realised you looked awful. It’s their job to position you in a flattering way and shoot from a flattering angle.

When I got married the photos were dreadful, and the photographer hadn’t positioned me properly so I looked awful. My tummy was sticking out and he didn’t tell me. He could have repositioned my dress and spread it out so it wasn’t clinging to my tummy. But no, he just photographed me with the dress clinging and making me look fat. He also hadn’t photoshopped out stray bits of hair or blemishes. Thats apart from the poor lighting and framing of shots etc. I’ve never had a wedding album or a photo on display because they’re so bad. I wanted to sue him but DH wouldn’t let me.

I'm sorry you are disappointed. What examples were shown beforehand? Were there lots taken from down low? I too would ask what other pics were taken. I know it feels like the biggest thing now, but you will likely only have a few pics on the wall on years to come.

I'm not trying to downplay how upsetting it can be at the time. I ended up with absolutely no family photos at all! None with my mum, brother, nan etc. In hindsight, yes, I should have said something, but assumed they'd be taken later on- but that never happened.
I agree with asking guests if they took any. Some of my nicest pics came from guests!

@NewName24

but, if they took all photos from crouching down, looking up at you, then how did you not notice this on the day ? Even more so if you are self conscious about a double chin
A lot of people don't know about angles. It's quite possible the OP only realises how they look from that angle now fat she has the pictures.