Disgusting wedding photos

Sorry minor derail but can you please explain the issue with your hair?

Oh goodness. I don’t know what to suggest… can you complain to him that you hate the photos? He would have the tools to airbrush the photos and frankly should want to make you happy! He should do it free of charge since for some daft reason he chose to take them from that angle!…. I’m not a professional and I know not to take photos from below… I always try to take them slightly elevated so people have to look up ever-so slightly without being obvious! It’s also the reason selfies generally look cute!
When we got our pics back we realised that there wasn’t a single nice photo of us with my MIL…we had to request more and in every shot someone ruined it (generally her)… we complained and the photographer took the one pic she looked good in and photoshopped her head into the picture that me and DH liked the beat of the 2 of us…. He did it at no cost to keep us happy … because after all he should have been checking the pictures after taking them… especially someone as key to the wedding as the grooms bloody mother! You photographer should’ve checked and realised it wasn’t a good angle for you!
I hope he can salvage your pics and make you happy x

Essentially looking up someone’s nose is rarely a flattering angle for a photo! The most common flattering angle is from above looking down. Can you get a photo shoot with a trusted person after everything’s calmed down, you’re not nervous and overwhelmed due to the day itself and you can relax and enjoy some lasting and lovely images or you and your DH? Some studios do a package so it’s an experience.

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I like the idea of asking guests to upload their photos of your wedding so perhaps this situation can be saved?

has the photographer indicated they have the ability to tweak/edit their work?

photos can be confronting when we don’t regularly have them taken of ourselves too !

I remember how I felt seeing my flowers on the day. Nothing like the photo I provided and she had swapped out the roses in the photo for native type ones. My Ideal bouquet of pastels Was strong purple and I told her they weren’t my flowers. Too late to have the bouquet replaced.

next time (DD) I will have a small sample made up prior to the wedding..

Ah I think it’s natural that you are upset and hope guests have some good photos you can use.

our Photographer called me a week before our wedding to say he had broken his leg. Not his fault but it was too late to book anyone else.

all our photos were taken from his wheelchair and were hideous - fat legs, double chins and pin heads. We roar with laughter now but it’s taken a good few years for me to see the funny side. We did get a huge discount but that didn’t help our disappointment at the time.

I got married 22 years ago. Our photographer came highly recommended. He called us in to the studio to talk through some concerns on our photos ….. it turns out my husband looked like his eyes were shut in every photo!!

Talk to the photographer. Explain your disappointment with the fact that the photos are mostly "up" taken. Every photographer who photographs women should know we all look better in straight on or from above photos. Get all the photos digitally sent. And there are many, many people out there, for a modest fee, who can edit digital photos. You can get a photo to represent the "real" you and the memory of your day.

I was exactly the same when I first saw mine, the photos were beautifully shot but I was convinced I looked awful in them. I really didn't, I was just being self-critical. Now I really like the photos and think I look lovely in them.

And some photographers (no offence @Mischance!) are a lot more preoccupied with camera-y technicalities than thinking "does this picture look nice"?

We had a really beautiful speaker at a show once that our speaker made look like a sack of spuds.

My suggestion would be to either contact the photographer or to join a Facebook group called ‘FREE photoshop edits (Original)’ and ask them to reduce your chin and give your hair volume. They are SO good there and will help you xx

I had a huge issue with my hair on my Wedding Day. So the photographer took photos in sepia and black and white as well as colour so you couldn't see the problem. Photographers are supposed to make you look and feel fantastic. If yours didn't then they haven't done their job properly.

It's so upsetting.

Our wedding photos were back in the days of film and print. Our photographer said she only took 30 photos because there was "never a bad one".

They were all hideous. My husband and I were quite photogenic in our youth, but she made us look like village idiots, with weird expressions and teeth and dopey looking eyes. I'd it hasn't been so expensive I would have laughed, but we had completely blown our budget to get the best photographer.

The proofs album remains buried in the basement, collecting dust. I never even got her to make the album, because I couldn't even find a handful of shots that were any good.

Relatives got copies of their films for us and it worked out okay. But there isn't one decent photo of me on our wedding day looking happy. 😕

Were still married though, 25 years later! I guess it wasn't that important. After the initial disappointment, chalk it down to experience.

Also not sure how comfortable I would feel stopping the photographer in front of a whole heap of wedding guests to say “excuse me but would you mind shooting from another angle so my double chin doesn’t show ” 😂

Id ask to see more photos and see if you can find more you like

you only need a few that you actively like.

from mine I picked my favourite three which are up in the living room. I had hundreds but I only see these three as I never get the album out.

most people do the same I think

This is awful. I had the same experience at my daughter’s christening. They just don’t care. I asked guests for any photos taken and there were some beautiful ones. Thank goodness for friends!

Sorry my previous post thought you were a guest. I didn’t like my professional pics those my friends took were much nicer. My video was terrible but I was so excited I didn’t notice and paid. One of my photos was used in their ad in a brandy balloon long time ago yuk. Don’t worry pick the best forget about the rest sure you looked beautiful.

Can the two of you dress up again just to get some better photos of you as a couple? (with a better photographer!)

Oh OP I’m so sorry. My photos were horrid too, our photographer seem to forget I even had a family! Once we got to the venue he stayed in one room with Ohs friends and PIL despite knowing there were 2 other rooms. I have no photos of my mum and dad who have since passed away, none of my friends, nothing at all. It was the o oh thing DH was organising. I’ll never have wedding photos I will cherish and that’s just shit. Ask nearest and dearest to go to a nice location and see if you can get someone to take some extra pics of you all xx

Oh that's such a bummer! I get it, as we paid a lot to a professional and honestly I don't like the majority of the photos! I don't know that there is any legit recourse as the day is over and done. What we plan to do, eventually, is go do a re-take with another photographer. Same outfits - hair and makeup will be different but I'm okay with that - just a more relaxed/fun less time rushed environment with a backdrop that I know will offer neat photos. Also since it will be much less rushed, I'll be able to look at the photos as we go. I'd recommend the same. It doesn't have to be overly expensive.

Please do not feel bad about your appearance. I went to Bali for my daughter’s wedding my hairdresser had gone mad on my very fine hair it was so short and humidity made it worse. She wouldn’t let me wear a headband I had bought or long earings that matched my dress. We were not getting on well and I avoided most of the photos in the ones I had to be in I looked awful flat hair no decoration and grim. Ironically I had lost weight before the wedding and it made me look even worse lol. Don’t worry about it you were there that’s what matters and no one looks at wedding photos after a while I only look at the nice ones of everyone else daughter and I now have a better relationship.

Ask around all your friends and family to see what photos they took. I bet you'll find some lovely ones of you. .... and congratulations!

They’re a professional, you would assume they knew what they’re doing and if you’re not a photographer it probably wouldn’t even cross your mind to question why he was crouching if you even noticed at all, most people aren’t used to having professional photographs taken regularly enough to notice things like that.

I honestly wouldn’t have and a) I get complimented on my flattering photos and b) I was a bit of a bridezilla in terms of the depth in which I spoke to suppliers about what we wanted. I found my wedding day total sensory overload and didn’t have a moment to think about something like this.

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It's got nothing to do with 'micromanaging'.
I would have though everyone would notice (as you are looking at the photographer for most of the photos) if (s)he were crouching on the ground all the time.