I’ve bumped my husbands new car 🚗

If it helps I bumped my husband’s brand new car a few months ago. I fessed up immediately. He didn’t dare suggest i couldn’t drive it again though- it’s our only car even though it’s legally his.
a few weeks later he bumped it himself- far worse- so I felt better then

OP says her DH bought this fancy new car last week. It's new, he's probably been really looking forward to picking it up, and been treating it rather preciously.

His wife waits until he's asleep to decide to take his car without permission for a joy ride I assume she knows he would have been reluctant to let her go on and damages it while driving recklessly. Of course he's upset!

If my DH took something new of mine I'd barely had chance to use yet without asking and broke or lost or damaged it I'd be similarly livid.

@FrancisSeaton I think a woman frothing about that would be told to get a sense of perspective.

Is he your husband or your dad??

Might have been good to ask as it's new, but presumably you were insured to drive it so it might be expected you would drive it sometime?

I'm gobsmacked people think it's normal to help themselves to other peoples property married or not. How many times on here do you see people moaning about their teen kids taking their property without asking and being told yes they are disrespectful vile brats for doing so

If it’s a plastic bumper boiling water works.

If they are married then it’s marital property and not “his” and “hers”.

I only mentioned my H as he’s clearly not a prick and an arsehole who values his precious penis extension more than his wife’s feelings.

Sorry Op did I miss whether it was a BMW, an Audi or a Merc?

They don't share cars though. This isn't about you and your DH.

And if the man saved up and bought an expensive car he has every right to be annoyed it's damaged in a week by his wife who took it without asking?

Not every couple shares cars and finances.

Being “mad” over a scuffed bumper is not reasonable behaviour. Hardly like she wrote it off.

It's a car for goodness sake, a material object. Just WHAT us the problem? Not worth telling lies over either.

OP has updated.

Her dh was mad and told her to pay for it and not to use his car again.

That is all very reasonable.

He didn't beat her. Lock her outside. Threaten to divorce her.

Why are people inventing scenarios?

The car is not the problem your husband is. I wouldn’t dream of asking permission to use my husband’s car or he mine, we are both insured and just take whatever one. And if someone had a bump in it, shit happens, as long as no one’s hurt no big deal. Don’t get me wrong if I damaged my husbands car I would feel bad but not fearful of his reaction or that I needed to hide it.

I agree.
Some incredibly strange behaviours.

But I think hearing that married couples who are their own individual people and have their own (none-shared) vehicles is outdated - is probably more strange than using emojis.

Anyway, have a great day 😘

Because he was sleeping at the time so it was her best chance to drive it.

To be honest she cannot be scared of him if she's willing to essentially steal his car.

Why can't married individuals have some things that are solely theirs?

Using an emoji to convey laughter in text based communication is not a strange behaviour in the slightest.

Actually, it partially was. Yes, his attitude stinks, and obviously his first thoughts should be concern for his wife's wellbeing, but why wouldn't he be angry?

She took his car without asking - yup, his car, because she has her own - because she just fancied driving it because it's new. Basic etiquette would dictate that she asks first before use.

Have you never encountered that sense of disappointment when somebody breaks/rips/scratches/whatever something that belongs to you before you've actually had a chance to enjoy it?

She took his car and dented it, through a lack of care. Assuming OP gave her DH the same details she has posted here, he has every reason to be pissed off if she reversed into a wall because she wasn't concentrating.

Now come on can you imagine if a man took his wives car without permission and damaged it? He would no doubt be a cocklodger with no respect for her property and she should LTB immediately

Yes the Internet does bring out some strange behaviours

It’s the internet ffs 😂

Here, have another one 😘

Ah the laughing emoji, a sure sign of an eloquent argument

She's got her own car.

Is there a reason why you took his car instead of yours?

Erm, I know most partners would be angry at this (not necessarily rightly) but is your husband maybe abusive and controlling? Reading between the lines in your posts you should shit scared of him.