I’ve bumped my husbands new car 🚗

I bumped my husband’s car in a very similar way last year - it still makes me mortified even thinking about it. I phoned him and told him right away to get it over with! He always over reacts then calms down pretty quickly. These things happen all the time - just tell him and say you’ll get it fixed.

Never really got the 'it's just a car' brigade. Unless it's some £400 banger the chances are the car is the second most expensive thing people own after their house. It has a resale value and the condition of the bodywork of a car influences that value. Fixing panels or replacing bodywork parts is expensive, time consuming ans impacts on your no claims if you go down that route. Being annoyed that said car got damaged, however accidental is normal.

Exactly this!!!! I’ve read all her posts and am totally baffled and bemused by some of the comments made about “consequences”

I always wonder if these threads are just setups to encourage certain types of responses that show women up in a bad light. OP has just kept providing enough vague updates to keep the fire well fuelled here and provoke a load of posters into assuming the worst and encouraging the OP to further engage in poor behaviour. It provides fodder for the misogynists.

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If I couldn’t trust someone with an expensive item I wouldn’t allow them to have access to it in the future. Particularly if they’d shown they were irresponsible in the first place by stealing it.

Similar to this.

(If this is a true story) OP should be pleased she didn’t have a more serious accident where the Police were involved. She had committed TWOC so unless her husband lied and said she had his permission she was also driving uninsured. Insurance companies don’t insure people who take vehicles without the owner’s consent. Police usually impound cars being driven without insurance. Even with his consent she would need to check his and her insurances to make sure she was covered.

If he lied and said he’d allowed her to drive the car but she wasn’t covered by his or her insurance then he is also culpable of allowing her to drive uninsured.

Something which doesn’t sit well with me is there is no more mention of the son she was picking up from sports training. Didn’t he say anything about driving Dad’s new car?

If OP was mortally afraid of her husband she wouldn't take the his new flashy car, let alone be so lax that she dents it.

This thread is bizarre from the OP, the updates with the ominous wording, and the replies.

If his wife is so disrespectful of his property and so careless with it because she wasn't paying attention maybe he is the one who should LTB

Some of us don't feel this way sbout cars

Not over a dent in a bumper, no

It's the typical MN response, if he does it it's LTB, if she does it and he's annoyed, angry etc it's LTB! Hypocrisy is never far from MN.

I completely agree. Serious consequences? No one should be this afraid of their partner, especially for something as trivial as bumping a low wall. Haven't we all done things like that? Isn't it one of those things?
I honestly hope you are OK OP, but please, think long and hard about the situation because you should not be afraid like this. Drink driving or something like that but not a little bump into an inanimate object. that's mad.

Makes me feel sad that you’re in a relationship with someone your scared of.
If he/you can afford a nice new car then chances are you can afford to pay for it to be fixed? It was an accident, these things happen but it’s just a car and was just a wall you hit (not a child). Yes he might be a bit pissed off but surely lying or hiding it will just make the situation a whole lot worse?

Why did you take his new car? Seems an odd thing to do without asking. Just come clean

Ah, but if you read these pages often enough, you'll realise that husbands have no right to be "very angry" with their wives, ever.

Something about this that doesn’t ring true but it’s confusing me as to why someone would make it up?!

expensive new car would not only have sensors that reduce the music volume but if you were heavy footed on the accelerator and the sensors sensed an obstacle it would have emergency braked for you. Did the rear camera not show the low wall? The cameras tend to cover a lot of the road that would normally be a blind spot if relying on mirrors alone, if you weren’t looking in your mirrors or at the big screen in the centre dash console then where were you looking?

Were you just hoping for similar stories from silly little housewives that can’t drive and hide big secrets from their husbands maybe?

Firstly it's a criminal offence to Take Without Owners Consent so if he's really pissed he could report you for that, Second most insurance companies don't offer 3rd party cover as standard anymore with a comprehensive policy (which alot of people don't realise) so if you aren't a named driver on his insurance I would check your policy small print very clearly as that is also a criminal offence, thirdly if he is that controlling and coercive I'd be speaking to Harbour DV support and lastly the music on cars automatically turns down when the beeps start which is annoying and unmistakable so please confirm you do not live in NE England as I don't not want some one like you driving anywhere near my child.

All the "surely it's the family car" on this thread confuses me. My car is mine, my partner's car is his.
Can I drive his and can he drive mine? Sure, if the other person isn't using it, but it's still mine and his car, and we'd still ask if the other minded if we took their car.

If you categorically can't tell him then I think you've bigger questions to be asking yourself other than how to get the car fixed.

It's just a car. Its ok for him to be annoyed but he has no right to be 'very' angry. You shouldn't be living in fear of telling him things. Don't let him hold this over you.

If you have to ask permission to drive the car and are 'scared' to tell him about the bump - leave.

Even this is not a leave scenario. It's still a brand new expensive car so it would be difficult to tell someone. That doesn't mean anything by itself

I ask my husband because he really likes his car and I’ve curbed his black alloys and broken the front splitter.

Actually, I don’t ask him anymore because I’d rather not continue to ruin his car 🤣

And no, he didn’t go mental at me.

I'd have more of an issue about your husband's behaviour to be honest....it's giving red flags! Yes it's a pain in the butt and I'd be abit cross, but never to a degree where someone is clearly terrified to tell me, and you sound more like a child being punished then an equal as his wife 😞

Lots of people have used ott language on this thread about fury and rage

So you got into trouble by taking it without asking and you want to fix the problem by taking it without asking?

If you have to ask permission to drive the car and are 'scared' to tell him about the bump - leave.