I’ve bumped my husbands new car 🚗

'Major consequences'?
You have not addressed the issue that is most concerning here.
My husband would be annoyed, sure. But he is far more likely to have caused damage himself - he's broken his wing mirror about three times and has had a couple fender benders. It happens. I scrapped the side of the car going around a pillar at a parking garage. No idea how much damage til I looked at it in horror. My husband's reaction? 'Oh dear.'

I'm afraid it's tears time - that always works with mine !

This thread is hilarious. When there are threads about female posters who've bought themselves a treat (like a nice bubble bath thing or a good box of chocs) and their spouse/partner sweeps in without asking and uses it up, there is outrage. But here, the DH is being totally unreasonable for being even temporarily upset that his wife took his brand new very expensive car out without permission and ignored the parking sensors such that they have damaged it!

Obviously at some point, a car is just "a car", but when it's shiny and new and you're still in the afterglow of a big expensive purchase it should be treated with kid gloves really - not with music blaring so you'd you can't hear the sensors when reversing!

All this "oh its just a car" stuff is BS. You can be extremely grateful your spouse wasn't hurt whilst still being pissed off that they bumped your brand new car, especially when it was because they a) weren't paying attention and b) didn't use the safety features!

Obviously if the OP thinks her DH is going to totally lose his shit/abuse her that's not on - there's never an excuse for that. But expecting him to be annoyed by it is (I think) reasonable. If you're worried this is going to trigger and abusive episode, it's not really about the car anymore and you need to think about how to extricate yourself from the relationship.

That is not normal. Grown men should not be exploding over a car.
If he cannot control his emotions there is a deeper problem.

When I bump/scratch the cars I don’t even look. It’s done, nothing I can do about it.

DH once left keys to my 6 month old dream car in his pocket and left his jacket on a coat hook in the gym. Car was gone within 20 minutes.

So now no one is allowed to get angry at another person for taking something without asking and subsequently damaging said item (and in this case it's a very expensive item) without them being in an abusive relationship???

I'm with the people who said be thankful that it was a wall and not a small child or adult that the OP knocked with this car when they clearly weren't paying due attention while reversing.

I was on your side until you posted this.

Suck it up buttercup.

Just wondering - was there another car that you could have collected your DS from his sports in or is this new expensive car the only family car?

No I wouldn’t “receive major consequences” from my DH. That’s the most chilling thing I’ve read on here in a long time.

Why are you so scared of him? Might he get abusive?

what's the point of 'going berserk', and giving your partner a furious bollocking, like some people believe is normal? OP has not said they have specifically agreed not to use each other's cars, it's not like she stole it and wrecked it on purpose, accidents happen.

My DW has had a few accidents in the car. I didn't care at all. The only thing I cared for was that she was OK. It is only a piece of metal after all.

Why is it his car, has OP got a car, isn't it the family car, OP probably didn't want to walk and shouldn't have to ask to use a family car anyway.

Take it to a garage that does re-sprays/panel beating
We took ours and ours was quite bad (big scrape down the side & other bits) and it was panel beated out with their machine, looks brand new can't even tell. It was very cheap (£400). It was either that or it would have been a write off due to having to need a new door & side panel etc. For just that bit on the bumper it should be a fraction of the price. Did take a few days tho.

@27Bumblebees

but sharing a family car is totally different to sneakily taking her DH's brand new car while he's sleeping.

if it's a joint car & the damage accidental (not incompetence) then there's nothing to be angry about. Totally different situation.

Agreed. If I am driving someone else's expensive new car or actually anyone's car, I would not have music so loud I didn't hear beeping

Well when he was saying it he didn't know that it hadn't been my carelessness. Even when our son pranged my husband's car, again, and it was our son's fault he didn't berate him about it. I admit he did get slightly tetchy when the other son sort of detached the bumper trying to get the car out of the garage.

My dh and I share our family car, and when either of us have scraped it or in his case bumped into another car, it didn't occur to us to be mad. Yes it's a cost, but it's accidental, and everyone was OK. We all make mistakes. If he was going round being intentionally reckless that would be concerning but doesn't sound like that's what's happened here.

You should not be in a relationship where you are scared to talk to your dh for fear of "consequences". Huge red flag, please seek help.

Im
assuming he knew you had taken his car, that it wasn’t your own carelessness that could have seriously hurt someone but luckily didn’t, and you didn’t try lie about it?

I agree with the previous poster saying OP sounds like a fucking liability. For all we know, the husband is the nicest bloke on earth but his wife is a complete dipstick who does shit like this all the time.

Pay to have it repaired and then LTB.

Receive major consequences? Eh? Yeah you screwed up but it happens, that's life, confess and offer to pay for the repair, job done. He probably won't let you drive it again but does that really matter? Honestly if he's going to kick off and you're going to be scared of his reaction you have bigger problems than a dented bumper.

But he might have woken up whilst she was out and see her return in it. Which is why I asked if he knew she took it.

I would strongly advise against this. He may ask the son which car he was picked up in. He might also be able to check length of last trip and surmise it has been driven since he last drove it.

The whole point of the discussion is that she took it without his permission.

Does he know you used the car whilst he was sleeping?