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AIBU to not believe how my friends daughter hurt herself

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Glowz · 09/06/2024 18:36

So me and one of my fairly good friends have 2 children each and they are both similar ages. Her youngest is 6.5 months old. I see her regularly, probably 2 times a week minimum. Our husbands are also good friends and talk regularly

Last week she text me saying her DD dislocated both her elbow and shoulder from "rolling on her playmat"". I know for a fact her child doesn't roll and hasn't yet but she's always saying her children are doing things when they haven't. For example, my 10 month old starting walking recently and she told someone her daughter also started walking...

I don't believe her daughter dislocated 2 joints by rolling, without sounding mean, she's such a lazy baby, I do mean that in a nice way. She's so chilled, always happy and just happy to be laying down or sitting in a bouncer chair. I know the mum struggles which is why I make such an effort to spend time with her but I just think something is off about how the injury happened.

AIBU?

Also to add, she did take DD to hospital, will she face any inquiry or repercussions so I can be there for her if so

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Cerialkiller · 09/06/2024 18:44

You may well be right but if she has been to hospital then the medical staff will be the ones in the best position to judge and contact other authorities if deemed necessary. I don't think your speculation will be helpful so I would say nothing at this point.

There are conditions that can make dislocations prevalent so that was my first thought.

Crazyclover · 09/06/2024 18:43

Babies don’t dislocate two joints by rolling, unless she has a diagnosis of the above I would say that she is lying and has lifted her by that arm causing the damage

PracticeorPractise · 09/06/2024 18:42

Odd post.

Sounds like you want to report her for child abuse on one hand.

"So I can be there for her" on the other

CadyEastman · 09/06/2024 18:42

My DCousin's DD used to regularly have dislocations in her elbows and shoulders. She's been to A&E many, many times with them before and if the HCPs decided to even try and investigate why it was happening.

PixieLaLar · 09/06/2024 18:41

Wow. How judgemental you sound.

Blueyellowroses · 09/06/2024 18:40

You need to back off and stop judging her. My ds has EDS and dislocated joints so easily - the doctors will have examined the baby. You don’t sound like a very good friend

Uncooperativefingers · 09/06/2024 18:39

Are you suggesting she/someone has deliberately hurt her baby?

I think it's more likely there's been a really unfortunate accident that she is beating herself up about and feels such shame that she can't tell you what actually happened. Especially as you say she's already struggling.