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Driving instructor after lesson was due to start

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Latetocancel · 09/06/2024 13:18

I had a driving lesson booked for 8.30am yesterday. I was so tired as I hadn’t slept well but set my alarm for 7:45. My instructor is often running 10-30 minutes late, so I looked at my phone as soon as I got up in case he had sent a text to say he was running late and then I could get a few minutes more sleep.

No such luck - so I got out of bed and showered had coffee woke myself up basically, to keep me going for the next few hours. I was wide awake by this point and texted him at 8:30am asking if he was going to be on time. He texted back at 9am saying he had just woke up and didn’t feel well.

AIBU for thinking he should have woke up by 7am (which is the time he would normally have had to wake up by in order to make it to my lesson at 8:30am) and sent me a text earlier rather than texting to cancel half an hour after my lesson was meant to start?

The thing is I need to spend the rest of the day exhausted for absolutely nothing. If I’d had the lesson in the morning, it would have been worthwhile to feel tired in the afternoon but the way I feel seems a waste considering he cancelled.

And to avoid a drip feed no I can’t do a catch-up sleep during the day . I have sleeping issues and if I nap I usually struggle to sleep at night,plus I just struggle to day-sleep anyway. I realise it’s not his fault I have sleep issues but surely common courtesy is he should’ve texted me in advance?

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Latetocancel · 09/06/2024 13:26

leafybrew · 09/06/2024 13:21

Not great - annoying I'm sure. But maybe he is ill?

Unless he does this all the time of course. Plus does it really take him an hour and a half to reach you Confused

He lives an hour away (He does multiple lessons in my area with other people) So I’m assuming he wakes up around half an hour before leaving hence me estimating his wake up time.

Yeah I appreciate him cancelling if he is unwell just wish he did it a couple of hours earlier. He is usually late but has never cancelled outright like this. I’ll see how it goes for next time!

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Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 09/06/2024 13:26

Agree a fixed time, find a new instructor if he is unreliable.

SilentSilhouette · 09/06/2024 13:24

I'd find a new instructor. This one isn't very professional if they're often late.

Not turning up then cancelling 30 mins after the lesson should have started is crap. Surely they had an alarm set earlier?!?!?

Latetocancel · 09/06/2024 13:23

ByCupidStunt · 09/06/2024 13:20

Honestly, I think both of you need to agree a time and stick to it. None of this confirming or checking to see if texts have been sent. If you've got sleep issues, avoid a morning time.

Yes we do agree a time that I always stick to, but he sometimes texts me on his way to say he is running late.

But yeah I agree to avoid such an early morning time in future. I’ve asked him to schedule lessons for a bit later if possible from now on.

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Momstermunch · 09/06/2024 13:23

And by reliable I mean actually showing up -i can see he's often late. Is he often a no show too? If he is, maybe time to look for a new instructor

Singleandproud · 09/06/2024 13:22

Doesn't sound like morning lessons are for you. Try later one.

Yes he should have text you just like you'd ring in for work ill but he didn't. Have you paid in advance?

User478 · 09/06/2024 13:22

Annoying but as a one off I'd accept that he was ill and move on.

But any other messing about and I'd ditch and find a new instructor. It's too expensive to be not behaving professionally!

Momstermunch · 09/06/2024 13:21

Well yes, obviously he should have but presumably as he was unwell he slept through his alarm or forgot to set it.

If he's normally reliable I wouldn't get too worked up about a one off mistake.

LemonCitron · 09/06/2024 13:21

If this is the first time this has happened, YABU. If he has form for cancelling at short notice or being late, YANBU and I would change instructors.

leafybrew · 09/06/2024 13:21

Not great - annoying I'm sure. But maybe he is ill?

Unless he does this all the time of course. Plus does it really take him an hour and a half to reach you Confused

ByCupidStunt · 09/06/2024 13:20

Honestly, I think both of you need to agree a time and stick to it. None of this confirming or checking to see if texts have been sent. If you've got sleep issues, avoid a morning time.

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