Agreed to something I shouldn’t have, AIBU

Agree with @littleredcaravan go back round. Tell her you’ve discussed her ask with your husband since previously it was only Once a day and that’s what you were expecting. Tell her you can still do the once a day. You cannot change her cat litter or give meds though. She either takes or leaves your offer. She’s known what she was doing when she hid the enhanced needs of her cat from you. This is not your problem.

If she's not a cat owner herself, why would she have immunity tests? Since the parasites can reach through the placental barrier how do you propose to test the unborn child's immunity? She could wear a mask and gloves or get someone else to change the litter. After all what is more important? The cat or the baby?

@RainbowZebraWarrior Op is pregnant!

If you agreed to 1 visit a day to feed and change litter, and now they are saying it's changed to 3 visits a day, 3 litter changes plus medication, they are taking the piss.

But you should have made it clear that it wasn't doable as soon as it was mentioned, or been firmer the first time you tried to pull out.

I don't think you can fully pull out now without causing irreparable damage to neighbour relations.

I would reiterate what you CAN do, and what you AGREED to do initially.

Let her know your husband will do what he can around work but you can't promise a perfect schedule and 3 litter changes or that medication can be administered properly as you have no experience of it and it will really need to be your husband for your safety.

Push back on her to take responsibility for her cat and find someone else, or accept that you will do what you can.

You really should not be doing this when pregnant, can't believe so many posters are telling you to suck it up and you are actually considering doing it!

The neighbour doesn't care about you, if they did they would have made other arrangements. Have they even asked anyone else or just trying to make you feel bad.

Say no and look after yourself and your baby. You'll probably never see them again after you move.

If you've got keys go and drop them back round now so there is absolutely no confusion

Not nearly as hard as being hospitalised or possibly dying anyway.

Where did the idea of pregnancy come from?

we do realise.
You do realise you can get tested to check your immunity btw..

In real life, you can take precautions. I mean if it's YOUR cat, you still deal with the litter tray, pregnant or not. You don't abandon your animal for 9 months.

The issue is the OP having left it last minute! Unless the test came back positive literally this morning, waiting until the last minute is wrong. Just say no when you are asked ,it's not hard.

Buy gloves, deal with it like a grown up like every other pregnant woman who owns a cat or has to look after a cat does. People are fragile now days aren't they

I agree, seems the only solution at this late stage. If you ever volunteer in future ask them pointed questions and make it clear no changes in the run up or all bets are off.

Are you serious? Cat litter and pregnancy is a massive no.

.... no but she is a pregnant woman who agreed to look after a cat ... buy gloves OP it's not hard

I'm shocked at the votes so far! Don't people realise how dangerous it will be for you to empty those litter boxes, possibly giving the cats medication too. Have people not heard of Toxoplasmosis? It is a parasite which can cause illness in humans as well as cats. It occur in the faeces and it is STRONGLY recommended that pregnant women don't touch the litter trays. The parasites can cause serious illness in the mother AND the baby. Please find someone else to look after the cats and never offer again, if they can afford a holiday,they can afford a cattery.

OP is not a pregnant woman with a cat. :)

My god just suck it up and look after the damn cat! You have not given them enough notice to pull out. How do you think other pregnant women with cats deal with litter trays. What is wrong with some people

You should not touch cat litter when pregnant!!!!

OMG. That is the reason for you to decline, with your apologies. They can fork out for a cattery FFS.

tell them to buy a timed cat feeder from Argos so you only need to prepare the food once a day. Don’t do anything with cat litter if you’re pregnant. Toxoplasmosis can also cause hydrocephalus in the baby. Easiest way to give a cat medication is to crush the tablet and stir it into a sachet of Licky Licks (or Tasty Lix from Aldi)

Whenever we've been away we got a pet sitter I took them to. I've heard too many stories of pet's being forgotten about and pets dieing. I wouldn't expect neighbours to do it. Just 1 less thing to worry about when your away. I would rather pay if they can't afford it they shouldn't have a pet.

@OneThreadOnly No worries, easily done!

What a load of faff - go in to put the food and meds down in the morning and your husband does the evening + litter change. If you never commited to doing 3 visits a day (which is a lot to ask someone, even if it's next door) then they'll have to accept this is the best you can do.

You agreed months ago. It's too short notice to pull out now. It's your fault. I would do it, but ask your husband to do the last feed and change the litter tray in the evenings. Remember this next time they ask and say no. Just say no!

You sound ridiculous, precious and annoying.

It's 4 days and it reads like you knew it would be 3x daily a month ago.
Saying no at this late stage is not great. I would do it but say that this is it and they will need to find alternatives for their other trips, but can they still do reciprocal sitting in August please.

This. Next time use your words.

Sorry but if you found out a month ago that it was 3x a day then I don’t think you can back out. Ask the other neighbour to help you.