Glad to see the update.
To be honest, I don’t think them asking you to help out was wrong. You agreed, and the actually agreed a second time too. You haven’t just found out you’re pregnant.
It is possible to pull out from helping people when circumstances change….but you absolutely have to do it asap.
I’m really glad it’s all worked out and there are no hard feelings and that you’ve learnt something for the future….in the nicest possible way - you won’t put yourself in this position again.
I think that’s what’s unfortunate with these kind of things, is that the OP did a good turn for someone, and agreed again, but has overtime been less and less keen but not spoken up…and ended up feeling annoyed with the neighbour and resentful. It was always clear that neighbour wanted to save a bit of money. To be honest, nothing had changed there. But somehow, when OP thought about it and posted, she had obviously become quite resentful, not just because of the need to give medication, but it had already been growing.
Really glad an alternative has been worked out. Neighbour won’t need to feel she’s putting OP out or making an u reasonable request of a pregnant woman, and OP isn’t in a position of letting neighbour down last minute, and both can hopefully have a positive relationship in future.
Personally, I think it’s good to help neighbours out with this kind of stuff whenever you can. Even when it puts you out a bit, it’s still good for positive relations, sense of community and of course you never know when you might need a favour. But at the same time, you have to be realistic about what you can manage and not be drawn into agreeing to something you can’t do or will resent. It’s far better to say ‘no’ at the start, or in this situation, when they chatted a few weeks ago, than to be the person who pulls out last minute. Sadly the person who pulls out last mi Ute has often convinced themselves they are justified, and is annoyed with the neighbour, even though it’s them doing the letting down, because they building g the I initial request into a big and unreasonable thing in their mind, when in actual fact, their inability to simply say ‘no’ has been the issue.