Husband to not attend nursery graduation?

Your four year old probably won't even remember the day!!!

Precious much.

I have a couple of hobbies that I am very invested in. I've also been a parent for 18 years and have done and will continue to do my fair share of attending events with them. I have sacrificed a lot of time and money to encourage my children in life. Sometimes it's ok to prioritise your own interests over something not actually that important. And honestly, this little ceremony is not actually that important.

yes, but ONE parent showing up is enough.

Sounds like the dad is having a healthy balance. The OP meanwhile needs to chill and not revolve her entire life around the child. It's too much pressure on the kid anyway.

If so I’d like to be invited! 🙏🏾My Tesco delivery is arriving soon! 🚚

I agree with a PP, it is indeed a load of bollocks.

I wonder if there will soon be a weekly Tescos shopping graduation ceremony?

Big deal. I've graduated from one as well.

Graduation for nursery ? How ridiculous

Graduation from nursery? Fuckinghell😂

The replies here aren't very helpful. I wouldn't worry about people saying that a nursery graduation is silly as that's irrelevant.
What is relevant is that this event is important to YOU. If you want your husband to be there then that's where he should be as a partner to you and it's clearly something you would like to do together. It might be nice for you to feel part of a team at these events and to enjoy them as a family. If you speak to your husband and he still won't come, take someone else along with you and enjoy the day and make it special for your little one. But then also have a serious conversation about how you navigate your child's events going forward so you can get on the same page. Good luck.

Your child isn't "graduating" that's what you do after university! And he'll "leave" every year group as he moves up - especially Y6, Y11, Y12/13 and actual university graduation/college leaving.

I have graduated twice in my life (from an RG institution @HelpMeGetThrough ). On neither occasion was a nursery involved.

Completely ridiculous.

Even at nursery age we told our children that we could not make everything. There would be times when we had to work and couldn't get the time off bla bla bla. They accepted it pretty early quickly and weren't too bothered.

We try to make the nativity and sports day and that's generally it at the moment.

Ah ok.. that's understandable. Sounds to me like you and your hubby put dc above your opinion on a nursery graduation anyway which I think is the point some have missed here. Doing their nut over anyone thinking the nursery grad is the be all and end of life which it obviously isn't but i just know.from memory in that moment in time even if the kids don't remember the event years later it means so much to them in that moment and I personally think these moments shape children more then we are aware of. And no I'm not saying if a dad doesn't attend it means the kid will grow up to be a serial killer before anyone comes for me..🤣 I'm just saying if a partner could attend why wouldn't they. And yes obviously other forms of good parenting are just as important I'm not saying a nursery grad is the key to success 🤣🤣

I think the term “nursery graduation” is throwing people off, as many of us haven’t experienced it. Perhaps we could reframe it along the lines of “nativity play” or “achievement assembly”.

• DH is attending a 6x per year sports event rather than DC’s nativity play. AIBU?
• DH is attending a 6x per year sports event rather than DC’s achievement assembly. AIBU?

How we would answer the questions above will shine some light on how appropriate it is / is not for DH to attend the sports event instead.

We had a nice play/show at nursery the week before it was lovely but no graduation. Not sure about a graduation. It sounds very cute but not totally necessary. I’m sure if you went it’d be fine.

My husband didn't attend child #2s graduation because he was away, he came to #1 because he didn't have plans.

Neither me or the kids had any prior commitment when the graduation date was set (it was a Saturday) so we went along.

It was a cute hour or so in both cases, songs were sang, books were given out and a photo taken. Fine to go to if you don't have any other plans but I wouldn't expect anyone to pull out of a previously arranged event for that.

This week I can only go to child #1s sports day because it happens to be my day off. My husband is going to child #2s because he has more days holiday so can take the day off.

It's not always possible for both parents to attend every single event from nursery through to University, work and life get in the way.

What’s a nursery graduation. ? Do you mean a leaving party for those starting school ? Surely they doesn’t require both parents to be present !

I haven't read the full thread because it seems to be 10 pages of people moaning about nursery graduations existing, call it a leavers assembly if you must 🙄

What's important is showing up for your child, yes the event itself can be tedious but you all know full well, when your kids see you in the audience for assemblies, sports days etc, it makes their fucking day! That is what's important here and they do remember!

I've just asked my 10 year old if he remembers his and he said yes, it was fun and I loved the funny hat and nanny was there.

I'm 44 and remember that my folks never turned up to anything in my primary school and when my mum did, she moaned I was just a narrator in the play.

Kids remember this stuff.

What a ridiculous idea! I would not allow my child to attend such a frivolous non-event! Your husband has more common sense.

You don't both need to be there, in fact I don't think we attended for either of our kids, they sent a photo, the kids had fun. No big deal.

I am willing to bet there will be an opportunity to purchase a graduation photograph and a graduation certificate to celebrate this non event.

OH didn't attend his 'real' Graduation, after years and years of hard work. From a working class background, his parents said they could not afford the rental of gown and mortar board.

Nursery graduation may be just nonsense, but don't they take away from the achievement of the real thing, somehow?

Yes

I had to work late for one of my kids.. DH brought his mum, she and child thrilled, everyone happy. Child emotionally unscarred by my absence...