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To think DH should sit in the front?

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BusyCM · 09/06/2024 10:06

Now and again we get an Uber with DD for quite journey of about 25/30 mins. Every time DH squeezes in the back with me and DD. I should say we are both a bit bigger and DH is tall. Dd id a teenager. He opens the door for us and we get in and then he makes us budge up and we all sit squashed in whilst the front passenger seat is empty.

Is this weird? He thinks you don't sit in the front seat, I think he should.

I would sit in the front but I generally think he should and secondly he gestures for me to get in first and then gets in after. It would be silly for me to get back out and walk around to the front seat.

What do you think?

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discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 10:24

BusyCM · 09/06/2024 10:22

I'm not in an arse with him, there's no argument! You're being very odd if you think every conversation between adults is a argument. It's literally a different point of view. Funny even!

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so you just thought you’d start a thread about rare seating car seating arrangements between your Dh and yourself rather than just… you know, talk to your husband?

rainbowstardrops · 09/06/2024 10:23

Threads like this baffle me. Why don't you, you know, communicate?!
'DH it's way too squished with all three of us in the back, I'm going to sit in the front/you or DD can sit in the front'. Job done.

Littletreefrog · 09/06/2024 10:22

Do you not talk to your husband? Just say "its silly us all being squashed next time one of us should sit in the front"

Theunamedcat · 09/06/2024 10:22

FourEyesGood · 09/06/2024 10:15

Why?

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Because royalty goes in the back 😁

AnOldCynic · 09/06/2024 10:22

If you think he should sit in the front ask him to. Before the taxi even turns up.

If he won't then you tell him you are going to sit in the front. Before the taxi turns up.

If this starts an argument ask him what he would do if you were a family of four. And then sit in the front.

UserNumber56 · 09/06/2024 10:22

Badassnameforadojo · 09/06/2024 10:09

Don’t stand there like a lemon waiting to him to open the back door for you. Just go up yourself, open the front door and sit in the passenger seat. Have you not thought of that?

This! 😂

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BusyCM · 09/06/2024 10:22

discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 10:19

🤭

Says the person in an arse with her DH over this!

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I'm not in an arse with him, there's no argument! You're being very odd if you think every conversation between adults is a argument. It's literally a different point of view. Funny even!

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FOJN · 09/06/2024 10:21

BusyCM · 09/06/2024 10:16

Haha it's funny the nuances of the situation are difficult to explain. I certainly don't stand around waiting for him to open the door for me and I just think it would come across as passive aggressive if I ignored his gesture and got in the front. He's always the last to get in and just squashes us!

Why don't you just take charge. Open the back door for your daughter and husband and then just get into the front seat. He's last to get in because you just accept the routine as if you have no power to change it.

You only think it would seem passive aggressive because the current arrangement irritates you. Stop blaming your husband and do things differently.

AngeloMysterioso · 09/06/2024 10:20

Next time he opens the door for you, just sit in the end sit and do your belt up, instead of shuffling along to the middle.

mrswhiplington · 09/06/2024 10:20

Hoppinggreen · 09/06/2024 10:15

DH loves sitting in the front - its easier for him to ask the Taxi driver if he has been busy and what time he finishes
If he didn't I would quite happily do so (without the daft questions)

I think we have the same DH.😄 Last time we got a taxi the driver said to DH that he had never had a passenger sit in the front before.

nobeans · 09/06/2024 10:20

TiberiusFlam · 09/06/2024 10:15

Men sit in the front.

This one doesn't it seems.

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BusyCM · 09/06/2024 10:20

discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 10:18

Your poor teen daughter seeing her folks squabble about this

We don't squabble, we are you just inventing stuff?

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LivelyTraybake · 09/06/2024 10:19

Oh no, I’m with your DH you sit in the back of a taxi. You’re invading their private space sitting in the front.

discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 10:19

“the nuances”…. love it! 😆

TheChippendenSpook · 09/06/2024 10:19

Shinyandnew1 · 09/06/2024 10:08

I would sit in the front but I generally think he should

WTF!

Why?!

I voted that the OP is being unreasonable because of this comment.
I think someone could sit in the front but why should it be the husband?

discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 10:19

BusyCM · 09/06/2024 10:18

My story, I get to decide. You're being very aggressive about a very minor Sunday morning ponder.

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🤭

Says the person in an arse with her DH over this!

nobeans · 09/06/2024 10:19

I would sit in the front but I generally think he should why? That's weird. Next time he wants you to get in say no that's OK ill sit in the front

fieldsofbutterflies · 09/06/2024 10:19

You're being odd.

Just get in the front yourself Confused

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BusyCM · 09/06/2024 10:18

discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 10:16

the nuances of the situation are difficult to explain.

sweet Jesus Op

there are no “nuances”

My story, I get to decide. You're being very aggressive about a very minor Sunday morning ponder.

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discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 10:18

Your poor teen daughter seeing her folks squabble about this

TiberiusFlam · 09/06/2024 10:18

Don’t know. They just do. One of the main reasons to have one, to sit in the front awkwardly with the driver so you don’t have to. See also bins, heavy gardening, most DIY.
Obvs if no man present, others can sit in the front, do the bins, do DIY. But the default is a man.
Obvs this is just in my little world and experience. Other worlds and experiences are equally valid!

Hoppinggreen · 09/06/2024 10:17

TiberiusFlam · 09/06/2024 10:15

Men sit in the front.

I find my tits get in the way

PonyPatter44 · 09/06/2024 10:17

I think you're both being a bit silly about this. If drivers are picking up 3 adults, it's expected that one sits in the front. If your DH is too awkward to do the decent thing, it's absolutely fine for you to go in the front.

discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 10:16

the nuances of the situation are difficult to explain.

sweet Jesus Op

there are no “nuances”

Whaleandsnail6 · 09/06/2024 10:16

If you know hes going to get in the back since this is a pattern of behaviour for him then you just get in the front. Dont wait for him to motion to you to get in the car, just jump in the front