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To think DH should sit in the front?

219 replies

BusyCM · 09/06/2024 10:06

Now and again we get an Uber with DD for quite journey of about 25/30 mins. Every time DH squeezes in the back with me and DD. I should say we are both a bit bigger and DH is tall. Dd id a teenager. He opens the door for us and we get in and then he makes us budge up and we all sit squashed in whilst the front passenger seat is empty.

Is this weird? He thinks you don't sit in the front seat, I think he should.

I would sit in the front but I generally think he should and secondly he gestures for me to get in first and then gets in after. It would be silly for me to get back out and walk around to the front seat.

What do you think?

OP posts:
SilkFloss · 09/06/2024 18:34

"I would sit in the front but I generally think he should"
Why? Does he need more room for his penis?

scotstars · 09/06/2024 16:44

I'd get in the front why is it a big deal?

SeriaMau · 09/06/2024 16:36

Seems an utterly intractable situation to me. Do you have any really brainy friends, university professors perhaps, who might be able to think of a solution? Blowed if I can.
Oh, wait…

SplendidUtterly · 09/06/2024 16:29

Is your DH scared of the taxi driver? This can't be comfortable with you all squished up in the back seat like that.

WonderingWanda · 09/06/2024 16:28

Next time just say "Does anyone else want the front seat before I claim it? because I am not sitting squished up like sardines as usual!"

Marblessolveeverything · 09/06/2024 16:27

Why don't you just ask before ye get in right me or you in the front? Simples, I don't understand your comment on his consent in this context it is worrying.

discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 16:20

So the poor DD sits between her two pissed parents 🤭

OP, how often does this actually happen?

Original poster
BusyCM · 09/06/2024 16:17

WhenTheMoonShines · 09/06/2024 15:59

See this is why at least one half of a couple should hold a license, it would save bizarre disappointments like this Grin (around these ways everyone squeezes into the back. No one wants to make awkward small talk with the drivers. All the drivers ever do is moan and whinge!)

We both do but we don't drink and drive.

OP posts:
Ifyoucouldreadmymindlove · 09/06/2024 16:07

Yeah, I’d demand a tall fat guy sat in the front too. It’s insane you’re all mashed into the back. 😂

CoffeeLover90 · 09/06/2024 16:07

You could sit in the front and talk woman things with the driver? Like periods, menopause or under boob sweat? 🤣
In all seriousness, with DH doing little gentlemanly things already just say you and DD feel squashed on the journey, could he start sitting in the front? I think he will. I have faith in him.

tkwal · 09/06/2024 16:05

Just sit in the front !!

FTPM1980 · 09/06/2024 16:04

In a mini cab you sit in the front.
I always used sot in front when was just me years ago...but now if only 1 or 2 of us sit in the back. It just seems safer....and that's why OH would sit in the front if he was with us.

diddl · 09/06/2024 16:00

If there's 2 already in the back & he gestures to move up you tell him not to be so bloody daft!

WhenTheMoonShines · 09/06/2024 15:59

See this is why at least one half of a couple should hold a license, it would save bizarre disappointments like this Grin (around these ways everyone squeezes into the back. No one wants to make awkward small talk with the drivers. All the drivers ever do is moan and whinge!)

Choochoo21 · 09/06/2024 15:52

YANBU but if this happens every time then why not just go and sit straight in the front yourself.

Saves you all being squished in together.

Bournetilly · 09/06/2024 15:47

You are being ridiculous expecting him to sit in the front but you won’t. If there’s not much room then someone should sit in the front but why should it be him?

Mnetcurious · 09/06/2024 15:44

I think it’s silly for three adults to squeeze in the back and leave the front seat empty. Your reasons for not going in the front yourself aren’t especially strong though. Next time just say before the taxi arrives “I don’t like us all squeezing in the back, are you going to sit in the front or shall I?” then you’ll know what you’re doing.

discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 15:39

i wonder how often this scenario actually arises

discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 15:38

I think in most other areas of life, he's very gentlemanly and thinks of me and dd, puts our comfort first.

and yet you haven’t been able to raise this with him ever before?

discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 15:37

Sunnysummer24 · 09/06/2024 13:45

Perfect solution.

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OP didn’t like it though!

Clueless2024 · 09/06/2024 15:37

discountsandoffers · 09/06/2024 10:16

the nuances of the situation are difficult to explain.

sweet Jesus Op

there are no “nuances”

This

Jennyathemall · 09/06/2024 15:34

How about you both start acting like adults. You’ll find it solves a lot of problems before they begin.

MumblesParty · 09/06/2024 15:21

I would tell him that you think it’s mad to all squash up in the back when there’s a perfectly good seat in the front. Then next time the taxi arrives, just say “are you sitting in the front or shall I ?”. If he won’t go on the front, then you sit there. I expect that after a journey of hearing you chat happily to the driver, he’ll probably volunteer to go in the front next time.

HMW1906 · 09/06/2024 15:10

Next time just open the front door and get in the passenger seat. He obviously doesn’t want to but there’s no reason you can’t 🤷‍♀️

cherish123 · 09/06/2024 14:38

TiberiusFlam · 09/06/2024 10:18

Don’t know. They just do. One of the main reasons to have one, to sit in the front awkwardly with the driver so you don’t have to. See also bins, heavy gardening, most DIY.
Obvs if no man present, others can sit in the front, do the bins, do DIY. But the default is a man.
Obvs this is just in my little world and experience. Other worlds and experiences are equally valid!

Very sexist. Sad these views still exist.