Was I in the wrong here?

You state ‘when we were dating’, are you married now?

I can see why lots of posters have said you sound needy as I was thinking similar when reading. I wonder whether you will see things from a different perspective if you leave it a week and then read your OP again but pretend it’s not you that it’s happened to.

Did his team lose?

This isn't what happened!

It's OP that said the game (? Day?) Didn't go well...nothing to suggest he was in a bad mood about that

what isn’t what happened? did his sports day in fact go swimmingly?! And the DP is just a miserable sod who cannot compliment his partner who has made an effort for a party with his pals, for no reason at all?! I’m not sure that makes the position any better

Whether he heard his team mates compliment her or not I’m sure the OP can confirm (not that she’ll be back after the name calling) but she certainly told him.

all this don’t be needy, don’t hug him in front of his friends, don’t embarrass him by asking about logistics, respect his space, give him space after his manly sporting activity is a bit low bar cool girl 🤷‍♀️

in what world, having made an effort to look nice does your partner not compliment you on sight?!

Sometimes if there's other things going on a person mightn't get to comment immediately. I know I have occasionally seen someone and thought nice dress, nice hair, nice shoes whatever but in the immediate moment of seeing them something else is going on, someone else is talking, something is being arranged and it can be a while later when everything has settled that I'll say "Oh, I meant to say, your hair is gorgeous" etc. it sounds like @Camden456 came at BF full on and didn't even give him a chance to draw breath.

If someone is stressing me out, and she admitted she was stressed, then I'd find it very hard to compliment them until the situation has relaxed a bit.

If she had posted that she was just finished an event and needed to cool down, and her BF approached her stressing over when, where, how, got her to ring her friend, complained that she had a chat with her friend for a couple of minutes rather than getting straight to the point and hanging up, then sulked because she didn't compliment how he looked, then even though she was affectionate towards him he pushed for a "proper kiss" at a party full of people... she'd be told "LTB"

ah come on OP - why are you fishing for compliments?! Whats the backstory here. You sound like you need people to see how in love you are and DP sounds like he wants privacy. Are you JLO and BA?! You’re too needy.

This isn't what happened!

It's OP that said the game (? Day?) Didn't go well...nothing to suggest he was in a bad mood about that.
I am guessing that if it wasn't a good game OPs approach probably didn't give him space to decompress but that's not him ruining the weekend.

And I don't think OP said he heard his friends compliment her. It wasn't a jealous tantrum.

Try and relax and go with the flow a bit more. It shouldn't feel this hard.

Mountain and molehill. From what you've written you seem hard work to me.

Hi OP, it's rare I say this on here but I'm afraid you were in the wrong here.

I think you have some insecurities in this relationship and they are coming through and ruining it. That said it isn't all your fault it's just personalities.

I'm really hoping you wernt doing the stressing about the transport arrangements in front of his friends. He would of found this anxiety provoking, stressful and embarrassing and it would explain why he didn't even notice what you were wearing even if his friends wernt within earshot it will still have had an impact.

Next if you mentioned his friends complimenting you and him not, this will have had an impact on him in a couple of ways. Self esteem and jealousy wise and he would now feel he was being measured against other men. Not a nice feeling I'm sure.

I think the kiss thing was innocent but I can still see his point. The outside kiss was to you the making up kiss, and then you wanted a happy kiss. To him though it was a happy kiss that wasn't good enough for you. Coupled together with looking nice comment I can see why he took it the way he did.

I think you really shouldn't judge his behaviour against other mens, if you keep doing that then your relationship won't last. That said I can see why you felt agrieved that others mentioned you looking nice and him not doing, but maybe don't mention it next time. You can't force emotional warmth just try to work on accepting it when it's given and work to keep a great mood between you both to encourage it.

It’s like you are performing and when it doesn’t go exactly as you have decided in your head you get confused.

This, and, quite frankly, what most people have said.

You sound exhausting.

I'm also confused why you wouldn't have established in the morning, or the day before what the plans were (regarding, travel, food, etc) if you are (like me) a person who likes to know and finds 'going with the flow more stressful.

The whole 'performance' thing you have described is just weird.

It sounds like your heads were just in two different places thinking about different things.

You said you apologised for being stressed, how did that manifest itself?

You turned up and quite quickly was stressing. Then you were stressing about getting food. Then having a pop because he didn't compliment you. Did you compliment him? Then saying "can I have a proper kiss now" seems like a dig.

If it's this much hard work just end it.

This. It’s infantilising and fake. His male team probably cringed, and felt they had to say something and just said you look nice Treating him like a baby and being needy.

This can’t be real. If it is, why are you trying to create some sort of fake relationship. Just be yourself. It’s irritating that he is telling you straight out but you don’t get it.

Bewildered by the responses here!

in what world, having made an effort to look nice does your partner not compliment you on sight?! Seriously all this it needs to happen organically/don’t put him under pressure/give him time, it’s a casual “you look great” not a fucking marriage proposal.

he was even prompted by hearing his friends say the same thing.

and I suspect that’s the truth, you have a pathetic man child who thinks losing 1:0 in his pub league weekend football is excuse enough to behave like a big baby and ruin a weekend and hearing his friends compliment you pissed him off so he threw a jealous mantrum, indicated by his not talking to you for the first thirty minutes of your journey.

relationships are not supposed to be this hard work. He’ll never give you want you want because he has you where he wants you, chasing for scraps

Not sure why arrangements weren't due ussed at all in advance? And why you got yourself so stressed?

You were definitely in the wrong and sound like hard work.

I think you're both coming at this from two completely different angles.

From his viewpoint: he'd just finished a game that didn't go very well, and instead of giving him space, you bombarded him with questions and got all stressed out. Then when he compliments you, you bat it back and say it's not good enough. He goes to kiss you later and you decide it's not a proper kiss.

From your viewpoint, you came to see him after his game and he brushed you off. He hadn't planned things properly which annoyed you, and you felt like he wasn't really that pleased to see you as (in your mind) he couldn't even tell you you look nice or give you a proper kiss without being prompted.

I think you do come across as a bit intense - he doesn't need to compliment you in front of his friends or give you "proper kisses" in public to show he loves you. It's also okay to go with the flow sometimes without a set plan in place. But equally if he knows these things are important to you, it wouldn't hurt him to put in a little bit more effort.

Fishing and pushing like that is my idea of hell in a relationship. Leave the man alone.

He was already having a bad day and then you bang on about food, whether he thinks you look nice and wanting another kiss. It sounds very immature to me.

It was a simple case of same world, different planets.
He was on planet Sport, you were ahead on planet Next Thing.
The two were misaligned.

Compliments are only timed to perfection on tv shows.

Once he'd had a couple of drinks he may well have offered a genuine one.

So fraught.

Too much drama.