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To think this is disgusting

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Bearface28 · 09/06/2024 08:49

Was in bed last night, DH visibly scratched his bum then put his hand under my nose. Immediately lost my shit and left the room. He thought he was being funny but I can't even look at him.

Aibu to think there's no coming back from this?

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Oceancolorseen · 09/06/2024 12:08

oh It is a bit funny 🤣
grim but also funny

LunaNorth · 09/06/2024 12:08

I feel bad laughing. Omg. Is this behaviour new?

LuckySantangelo35 · 09/06/2024 12:03

20% voted YABU ?! Why?!

positivewings · 09/06/2024 11:45

Sorry op but this made me laugh along with the comment of was it the but hole.
Disgusting 🤢 obviously who does he think you are the butt hole sniffer.

Georgyporky · 09/06/2024 11:41

Take him to a vet, he needs worming.

TheCultureHusks · 09/06/2024 11:38

Blarneytalk · 09/06/2024 09:38

Doing what to your wife?

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Oh pipe down you fool

Bobbotgegrinch · 09/06/2024 11:37

Ok, so the "aroused" comment is making me wonder whether it was actually his bum he scratched. Are you sure about this @Bearface28?

I'm wondering if it was the underside of his ball sack. As the owner of one, they can also get a bit pungent after a long day. And if DP asked me how I'd feel if she stuck her hand down her knickers and then asked me to smell her fingers, the answer probably would be "aroused" (I'm male, I know we're a bit grim, but DP doing that would probably be the most overtly sexual thing she's ever done)

So, I'm wondering if you've mistaken ball smell for bum smell, and no one's clarified in the ensuing argument. It's a grim thing to do either way, but I can just about see why he thought it might be funny if it was balls.

Either way, he's spectacularly misjudged and it'd put me off him for a while. But throwing away what otherwise sounds like a very good relationship over it sounds a bit extreme.

Oooooooodieeeee · 09/06/2024 10:50

Bearface28 · 09/06/2024 10:17

Just spoke to him about it & he didn't really see what he'd done wrong, thought it was just a bit of a laugh. I asked him how he'd feel if I did the same to him and he responded 'aroused'. I give up.

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Oh dear god. I’m sorry but I really don’t think I could come back from that. May be in time you’ll forget if everything else is good? But I really think that is stepping over a line. 🤢

Kendodd · 09/06/2024 10:46

Please tell me he then washed his hands!

Irishmama100 · 09/06/2024 10:45

Oh god!
Note to self “never scroll MN when eating breakfast”🤢🤢🤢🤢

TraitorsGate · 09/06/2024 10:45

Any apology yet?

Pippa12 · 09/06/2024 10:45

God this would really put me off him, it’s the total disregard for mutual respect. I honestly would be mind blown at this action.

Wheredidileavemycarkeys · 09/06/2024 10:43

Bearface28 · 09/06/2024 08:53

Pretty sure from the smell, it was the hole. Vile.

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🤮

Catdoorman · 09/06/2024 10:42

Tell him to sleep somewhere else for a month, while you process the shock of being married to a ten year old .

BCBird · 09/06/2024 10:38

Gross behaviour.

Beautifulbythebay · 09/06/2024 10:36

He doesn't even sound like an adult does he?

BurbageBrook · 09/06/2024 10:25

Jesus, that's so disgusting.

hattie43 · 09/06/2024 10:19

FGS what goes through some men's minds . Just horrible .

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Bearface28 · 09/06/2024 10:17

Just spoke to him about it & he didn't really see what he'd done wrong, thought it was just a bit of a laugh. I asked him how he'd feel if I did the same to him and he responded 'aroused'. I give up.

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curious79 · 09/06/2024 10:15

Absolutely disgusting but not a reason in and if it’s own right to leave someone etc.
You do need to sit down and have the chat about needing to keep some spark and mystery alive in the bedroom department, and how surprise poo fingers don’t contribute to that

Bumblebeeinatree · 09/06/2024 10:12

Really juvenile, a bit like thinking it's funny to fart under the covers.

But I don't think it's a hill to die on, just tell him not to be so disgusting and wash your hands

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 09/06/2024 09:45

I thought you said he scratched his bum, then sniffed his own fingers, which while it's pretty gross, I'm pretty sure some people do. (Not me, obviously!) But to scratch his arsehole - which has probably got shades of shitstain on it, and then stick his fingers under your nose?! Well, that's a new level of foul, disgusting, grim, and gross.

I don't even understand why anybody would do that - it's sickening. It makes you wonder what other 'gross' things he does. I would never eat or drink anything he's prepared for you - ever. I don't know if I could stand being married to a man like this anymore, once I had witnessed that, just... OMG! 😩

I mean, I don't think I could even ever get intimate with a man like this - ever again.

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Didimum · 09/06/2024 09:40

Blarneytalk · 09/06/2024 09:38

Doing what to your wife?

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??? What the OP says her husband did to her obviously.

Blarneytalk · 09/06/2024 09:38

billyt · 09/06/2024 09:35

I couldn't EVER imagine doing this to my wife.

Disgusting.

Doing what to your wife?

billyt · 09/06/2024 09:35

I couldn't EVER imagine doing this to my wife.

Disgusting.

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